[Celena]

Hello ladies

This group is intended for those who are taking a break from TTC, waiting to TTC after loss(es) or just aren't TTCAL at the moment but hope to in the future.

Let's start with intro's and chat from there! Keep the thread going ladies!

[Celena]

So ladies waiting to TTCAL...

How are you feeling right now? Emotionally? Physically?

Is it a relief or more stressful to be putting things on hold?

[Brittanie]

Yay, a place for me!

There's a lot that has to fall into place before we can actually TTC, in addition to getting DH on board. Honestly the idea of ttc/another pregnancy still has me quite anxious. Both for being so sick and just the whole anxiety of pregnancy and fear of another loss. I've been feeling the last several months that my next pregnancy would end in miscarriage, so that is making hard for me to really want to as well.

[tobi4]

Im waiting 2 cycles. I needed to take a break from trying. The anxiety in the 2ww was making me obsessed!! And terribly stressed. We have a lot going on right now, moving with conflicting closing dates. My house is closing on july 14th, then we dont get the new house til the 30th! And I have family visiting for 2 weeks on the 28th lol. 9 of them to be exact! So the time should fly by!

[missy123]

I don't know what I am doing... I thought we were done TTC and just going to move into adoption next year but DF wants to keep trying. I have high FSH (15) and 41 years old. I feel much younger than my body is telling me I am! Uggggg... I guess right now we are NTNP...

[LisaG825]

As you all know, I am def. on hold right now and will be for at least 3months. Will probably be more like 5-6 months though. My dr. said we can start ttc 6months after I get my 3 negatives. Once I get 3 negatives my wait time will start from when I get the first negative though.

I think having to put everything on hold is stressful for me. This may sound weird and probably tmi but I almost don't even want to dtd. I am just ready for my body to back to normal. I am emotionally and physically tired of all of it.

I have actually been trying to decide if I should go on bcp. I HATE condoms and with everything that is going on with me right now we can't just use the pull out method. Even though that worked for 4 years for us that would just be stupid right now.

[JesSsica]

I'm a part of this group for sure. With my last loss being just a month ago and my third loss, I'm so over it for a long, long time. We're on hold primarily until we get my dh's chromosomal testing results back. There's a chance that we're out of the game forever if that comes back a problem. If it doesn't we both agreed on a year... or at least until I lose weight, we sell my pre-marriage house that's been on the market for over nine months, and we both feel that emotionally we're in a better place. We'll see because we may end up deciding that we're not ever going to TTC again and start taking lots of vacations we wouldn't take with a little one in tow. LOL

Right now I'm just feeling numb and confused but back to normal if that makes any sense at all. On one hand I feel like I've recovered. I feel back to "me". I'm over the TTC, I don't care when I ovulate, and the thought of being pregnant right now scares me more than anything. I HAVE looked at a few big and pregnant moms and been a teeny tiny bit jealous because I'm not big and pregnant like I should be right now, but it is a fleeting feeling and then I'm ok again. I'm numb because I feel no sadness for the babies anymore and that makes me very confused. It's like I have compartmentalized that sadness and emotion and packed it way far away in my mind. It's denial for sure and the weight I've gained as a result of my losses shows the world that I'm really not ok like I've been faking I am.....

[Halloween81]

It's nice to have a place to hang out. My name is Kimberly and after my third m/c we decided to put TTC on hold until we see the specialist. After waiting for what seemed like forever (it was only 2 months but it seemed like forever) we finally have an appointment at the end of next month.

Jessica - I completely understand wanting to go on vacation after several m/c's, after the last m/c DH and I decided to go to Europe. We leave in 12 days! It's been nice to have something to be excited about while TTC is on hold.

[BuckeyeGal23]

Hi - I'm Amie and we're waiting to ttc for another cycle. We lost our baby in May at 8 weeks, and right now I feel like I am back to my old self at least, which definitely took some time to get to. I am excited to ttc again, but I am nervous too because our loss was so unexpected that I am just terrified it's going to happen again. But I have to keep the faith, right?

[Brittanie]

I know we're all waiting to TTC, but is there anyone who is secretly wishing for an "oops?"

[LisaG825]

For me I definitely can't have an oopsie right now. Wish I could, but I can't even have that.

[Brittanie]

Originally Posted by LisaG825

For me I definitely can't have an oopsie right now. Wish I could, but I can't even have that.

Well, yes, in your case, I totally get that.

[tobi4]

Originally Posted by Brittanie

I know we're all waiting to TTC, but is there anyone who is secretly wishing for an "oops?"

We are using the 'pull and pray' but no one is really praying it doesn't happen lol. Im just taking a break from the stress of ttc. Im beginning to find Im enjoying the freedom from it!
Dont get me wrong, as soon as our 'break' is over, Ill be back at it with a vengance!

[~Lynda~]

hi gals, i'm here too. i'm only not trying for this cycle. we are doing IVF next cycle. so i thought i'd hang out with you gals for awhile. hope it's ok!!!

[tobi4]

Originally Posted by ~Lynda~

hi gals, i'm here too. i'm only not trying for this cycle. we are doing IVF next cycle. so i thought i'd hang out with you gals for awhile. hope it's ok!!!

Of course its ok! We love to have ya!

[Brittanie]

Well, as much as DH is worried I might be pregnant (we had an issue with antibiotics and birth control pills and not using a backup method right around O time), I'm fairly certain I'm not. I tested this morning and it was very negative. I'm only 10 dpo and have never gotten and early positive, but I'm pretty sure AF is on her way.

[LisaG825]

Originally Posted by ~Lynda~

hi gals, i'm here too. i'm only not trying for this cycle. we are doing IVF next cycle. so i thought i'd hang out with you gals for awhile. hope it's ok!!!

It is ok with me too!!!




So ladies, what can we do to pass the time? I am thinking of starting P90X with DH. I really need to lose some weight. This is the most I have ever weighed. I have been doing a lot of depression eating. I am going to feel silly working out in front of DH so I may do it by myself. LOL

[Brittanie]

I should be working on my weight...lol. I just have very little motivation lately because I'm SO tired when DH gets up for work so I go back to sleep until the babies wake up, and then it's just too hard to do wii fit with the babies away because they need this or that or the other thing. It just seems like way more effort than a few pounds warrants, and since I'm hypothyroid it has SUCH a hard time coming off (even when I work out/eat well and even with my levels normal)

I've been doing crafty things lately. I have several pregnant friends and I'm getting my nesting need out on them (I'm crocheting a blanket for my niece coming in August and a ring stacker for a good friend's baby due in January)

[Halloween81]

It must be a common thing to gain depression weight after a m/c. I used to joke that I was trying to eat myself pregnant.

[Brittanie]

Yeah, I do think it's a common thing. I mean, gaining weight when depressed is fairly "normal" and I think that just about everyone has bouts of depression after a loss.

My weight is all from nursing my subsequent two though. I lose weight while pregnant (thanks to severe morning sickness the ENTIRE TIME), but I gain a lot while nursing. Boo.

I think I'm down to Cora's prepregnancy weight though. So now it's just the hypothyroid weight I'm trying to get off.