[okiliz]

Hello ladies... I am glad to have found this new home here.. but very sad to be joinming if you know what I mean .. We tried for 20 months and finally got pregnant with twins after an IUI .. Sadly I lost both of them and had a D&C today .. My heart is so broken.. and I am so scared we won't get pregnant again .. Though the DR said we can try again in 2 months.. it does not give me my babies back .. We lost 1 at 9.5 weeks and the other at 10.3 weeks .. We named them Abby and Andrew ..
Is it true that you are more fertile after a D&C? how long did it take you guys to get pregnant after a loss ? and when will it stop feeling like it is my fault?

I look forward to your responses and I am very sorry for all of your losses as well .. !!

[3Sapphires]

Big Hugs - I am so sorry

I recently had a loss too, and found out yesterday my midwife will not continue my medication to help me get pregnant, and now I am also worried I will never be pregnant again.

It is so hard when you try for so long

[markswife]

We are equally sad that you have to join us but we welcome you with open arms. I hate to think that another person has to share in our pain. Please know that you are among a group that understand completely what you are going through. I'm so sorry for your losses.

I lost my first baby at 6 weeks in February 2010 after trying for over a year to get pregnant. I got my first AF on March 8, second April 3 and then got pregnant on the third cycle.

This is not your fault but I completely understand feeling like it is. That feeling has faded some for me but I still wonder sometimes if it was. I know deep down that there is nothing I did to cause the baby to not develop correctly but somedays it's harder to remember that than others.

I will be thinking of you and I'm happy to answer any of your questions that I can. Again, I'm just so sorry. Please take care of yourself and we are here if you need us.

[missy123]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is so painful. It takes time but does get easier. I wish I could take your pain away.

[ohnicole]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is so hard to make it through a miscarriage, but you will do it! I hope that this board can offer you some support.

[MomtoCTSK]

I am so sorry for your loss. I can not comment on the D&C as I did not have to have one but we waited a full cycle to try again. I still feel like there is something I could have done but in reality I know there is not. HUGS.

[Celena]

Okiliz I'm incrediably sorry to hear about your twins

The pain over time heals, but the memory is always there and yes there will always be some pain, grief there for your little ones. I hope that you can feel some sense of peace and let go of the thought that you did something, you DID NOT do anything wrong. Sometimes it's unexplainable, sometimes they're able to give you reasons but no matter what it isn't your fault. I think we all have felt that at first or sometime thru our greiving process and healing. The questions whirling around in our heads.

Your question about fertility after loss/d&c... well I've been told by a few of my dr's that your fertility is higher the first few months just after a loss. I guess because your cervix is more open because of the loss(es)?

My first loss with my DH I had gotten pregnant again before AF ever showed, found out at a follow-up appt (had tested - on a hpt after loss) then my hcg was in the hundreds, however that didn't end well (long story) second loss. Then it took 5 months to get pregnant which ended in an ectopic pregnancy. Here I am going on 5 months later and not preggo. (found out last month I have 1 tube open, other blocked more than likely from ectopic loss)

It's different for everyone so don't base it on what I've gone thru please. I know you just wanted to hear some different stories tho and I totally understand that. hopefully you'll be far more lucky and get pregnant sooner!

[MommytoaMiracle]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss!!
It is so hard.
Let's see. I had a m/c in Aug, one in Jan, one in March & one in May.
The one in Jan, I had a D&C & I got pregnant the next month, so yes, I would say you are more fertile. Though, I advise you wait for one cycle to pass.
Good luck! I hope you get your sticky BFP soon!!

[.:Shortcake:.]

Hugs! I am so sorry for you loss. Welcome to the board and if you need anything please feel free to PM me.

[BeccaM]

I am so sorry for your loss. The ladies on this board are wonderful and have helped me through some tough times. I hope your stay with us is short and you get a BFP soon! HUGZ!

[Brittanie]

I'm sorry that you have to be here, but the ladies here really are wonderful.

[tobi4]

Im so sorry for your losses. All of us here understand your grief, so feel free to express yourself when you need support, or just to vent. It makes the healing a little bit easier when there are people around you who understand.
After my first loss, I waited one cycle and became pregnant with my ds the very next month. He is now 13 and absolutely perfect. After my second loss, I waited one cycle, tried for 4 cycles with no luck and Im now taking a break. Everyone is so different hun, no only from each other but also in ourselves. I was for sure more fertile after my first mc, not so much after the second mc. Im also 13 years older this time around, so maybe that has something to do with it. Our bodies are such a mystery!
Anyways, Im going on and on, so Ill stop now. Good luck with getting a healthy, sticky bean quickly!! Welcome to the board.

[T_Mommy]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Yes it is true that you are more fertile after. I asked my doc this very question. It took me over 2 years to conceive my son. Then when we ttc #2, we got pregnant the 3 rd month off the pill and the first month we really tried. We lost this baby in February at 11 weeks and I had a D& C. I had spotting/bleeding for 2 months afterwards (which is on the very long side of normal) and then I got my cycle back. The first cycle I ovulated on day 30 something and then AF showed 2 weeks later. We decided to try again in May with the first new AF since my loss. We got pregnant with that first try. I was/am shocked! So don't give up. I know how much it hurts and went through all the same feeling about what did I do or could have done differently and the truth is nothing. It was just bad luck. My doc said there are people that do all kinds of bad things to their bodies while pregnant and still deliver full term healthy babies, so there was nothing "I did." Tell yourself this too.

[KAB]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Dh and I had been trying for just over 3 yrs and we lost our twins in January at 10 weeks. I'm glad you found this board, and I hope your stay will be very short.