[msshamis23]

Alright, so thinking through the last few days, I realized something.

I'm scared to death of getting pregnant, and having it be another ectopic. I am so scared that if I do get pregnant it'll be another one. Last time, AF showed up right on time, and I just kept bleeding. I finally went to the doctor after about two weeks of continuous bleeding and they ran a pg test, and told me I was pg but that I was most likely miscarrying.

It wasn't until a week later after my d/c that they discovered it was in my tubes. I went through the chemo for it, and the hell it put me through after. I continued bleeding til Mid May. (So from March to May)

What scares me so bad, is that I didn't even know I was pregnant! I mean I was bleeding, and AF came on time, so my first thought wasn't, hey I might be pregnant! But, I didn't know. I had all of the other symptoms. Side cramps, shoulder hurting, dizziness, etc, but what worries me is those what if I get a twinge on my side, when I do get pregnant, but ignore it--and it turns out to be ectopic. Or what if every time I get a twinge I think it's ectopic and it's not?

See i'm soo paranoid, and scared I don't know what to do.

Plus I know that if you go through one, you have a higher percentage of having another, and if you have another you are even more likely to have another.

I want to be pregnant so bad. I want to be able to hold my own baby in my arms, but I think I might be giving myself gray hair just worrying about my baby that's not even conceived yet!

For instance AF is roughly 13 days late, I took a pg test and it was BFN, but right now i'm having hellish cramps on my left side only. I can barely walk. I know that if it's ectopic sometimes your HCG is so low that it doesn't register on home pregnancy tests. But it could just be me miscalculating when AF was, or my body adjusting itself since the cycle in May was my first cycle since. AHH!

Any advice?

[SkyBaby]

I would definitely go see a doctor. I have irregular cycles, and I know how confusing those can be. I have never had an ectopic, so I'm sorry I can't be more help to you.

Good luck!!

[MomtoCTSK]

GL I hope that it is not another ectopic but you should probably go in and get it checked.

[ohnicole]

First, just know there are other reasons for one-sided cramping that are not ectopic pg. You could just be O'ing late, or you could have a cyst that is causing your lack of AF. It's totally natural to be worried after what you've been through. Could you call your doc and ask either for a quantitative blood hcg test or a pelvic ultrasound and explain to them that you want to ease your mind after a pg loss? There is no reason to stay worried.. most doctors will do some testing for your peace of mind.