[MomtoCTSK]

I went to my annual with a new OBGYN today, I saw one of the midwives when I had my M/C. So she is asking me all these standard questions and when she said "Two pregnancies, one child?" I had to pause for a minute. It sounded so strange to hear someone that wasn't DH say it. So I said "Yes" and she apologized for my loss, and then when she was done with my Pap Smear she asked if I was going to try for number three. Again it felt weird that she was saying three. I don't know why what she was saying was bothering me. I kind of left sad and I really wasn't expecting to. I guess this just comes with the territory.

[~LaurenNoel~]

Ya, I just started that with my intake appointment. They asked me the same question, and I had to say, 4th pregnancy, 1 child. I had the same kind of reaction to the words leaving my mouth. *hugs*

[Brittanie]

I think hearing medical personnel say it just makes it more real. And that's hard.

[ohnicole]

I always dread that question at the doctor's office Hugs.

[ldovey83]

That stinks.. I am sorry hun.. I had a friend say to me the other day so you have been pregnant 4 times, and it hit me yeah I have been pregnant 4 times with only 1 child to speak for... It felt like a dagger to the heart.. I know when I go to my OB's office I am going to have to answer those questions.

[Kary♥RN]

HUGS... it is so hard.. We all know what we have been through. But hearing.. someone else ask and confirm.. how many losses we have had. Is always a slap in the face. HUGS

[KDD]

It's tough, but I would rather have my pregnancies acknowledged than ignored.

[martilynne]

Originally Posted by KDD

It's tough, but I would rather have my pregnancies acknowledged than ignored.

I agree with that 100%

[MomtoCTSK]

Thanks ladies. I agree about the acknowledgement my family calls it the "incident". It is just weird that it was always be so many pregnancies but this many children.

[MountainMomma]

This is hard. I was calling around to a few RE's the other yesterday and one nurse asked how many times I've been pregnant. I said 9. She paused and then said...ohhhhhhkay. I knew what she was thinking. Why call an RE if you've been pregnant that many times. Then she asked... How many children do you have? I wanted to cry as I said "2". Another pause and a small "oh" was her response. That little "oh" just made me realize even more how bleak my personal situation actually is. When I was done with that call, I sat down and had a nice long cry.

[luvmykids623]

That's definitely a tough one! I always shudder when any medical type person asks me that question. It really does make it more real and is like a slap in the face. I'm glad that she acknowledged your angel by asking if you were going to try for #3 instead of #2. Not all medical professionals do that.