[TayAnd2Angels]

How come everything says different things? Some drs say to wait 2-3 cycles, others say to start TTC when you are emotionally ready and your body will know when it's ok to get pregnant again.

I ask because my loss was 2 weeks ago, and I am using OPK's to see when I will O so I know about when I will start AF again. But there is a small part of me that thinks when I see the OPK turn pos I will want to try even though I have read on some sites that getting pg before you get a regular cycle back can increase chances for another m/c.

I was 6 weeks along and my Hcg only ever got up to 1300, and was already down to a 35 a week ago when I had my blood drawn. Ugh! What to do?? I want to be pg again right away, but I don't want to risk the chance of making myself more prone to have another m/c.

Anyone wanna share thoughts and/or experiences?

[3Sapphires]

I don't know why there is so much conflicting info - I am in the same boat. My loss was a month ago, I am still waiting for AF, but my MW said no ttc till spetember, but I want to try soon than that...

*hugs* I say go with what your heart tells you.

[luvmykids623]

I'm so sorry for your loss! With my first loss my OB told me to wait 3 cycles, and I did. At the time I didn't realize there is so much conflicting info out there. With my second loss I decided that since there is so much conflicting info out there, there must not be one right answer. I was very impatient and wanted to try again right away, so I did. I didn't wait for my first AF after the m/c. I was worried, because of the info that said I'd be increasing my risks of m/c, but I put it in God's hands, and wound up pregnant with my daughter. Good luck with whatever you decide, and I hope you get a sticky BFP soon!

[MeganMomof5]

I started to TTC my first cycle after a 2nd trimester miscarriage and 2 D&C's, and got pregnant the first cycle...Yesterday I talked to my doctor about it and said it's fine and my chance of another miscarriage aren't any higher...He had told me before I was pregnant that if my body isn't ready to be pregnant, it won't get pregnant...He said that they used to tell woman to wait for emotional reasons and he said that now new studies are showing it's not always best to wait...I'm sure it's different for each person, but if you feel emotionally ready then go for it! GL!!!

[martilynne]

My first 2 losses I waited even longer than what my doctor recommended since I just wasn't ready emotionally. My third loss I had a D&E when my baby was 15 weeks but I wasn't ready to wait another 3 cycles that my doctor recommended. He said to go ahead and try but he would prefer for me to wait until after I got my period, he also said if it was an extra heavy flow or really clotty to maybe hold off one more cycle. I waited until my first AF to try and got pregnant that cycle. I'm now almost 16 weeks pregnant. I'm sure most doctors would've told me to wait longer but I was ready to be pregnant and it has been my most successful pregnancy so far.

Do what feel right for you. If you feel like you're ready to try before AF, go for it!

[Servilia]

When I had my loss (at 6 weeks), the nurse told me to wait two cycles. I had done research (well dr. google) and I had read there was no real physical reason to wait.. that I wouldn't be in any danger if I got pg right away and that the chances for m/c aren't any higher, so I pressed the nurse on the reason why I should wait two cycles.
Her explanation was that in a lot of cases it takes some time for the uterus lining to build back up, and so it's harder to get pregnant in the first 2 cycles afterwards and this could lead to increased stress for the woman. Needless to say I felt ready so I TTCd right away (no success).
I say your body won't get pregnant if it's not ready to, and if you feel ok emotionally then go for it.

And I'm sorry for your loss
xoxo

[angel3y35]

I found out really early on that my pregnancy wasn't viable. The m/c actually happened right at 5 weeks. The doctor told me to wait one cycle for my mental as well as physical health.

[Kary♥RN]

HUGS I am so sorry for your loss...

As for ttcal... the answer.. thier is none. Every Doc and MW have thier own reasons behind when you can try, they also know you medical history. If you are healthy, thier is no medical reason to wait. If you have had multiple losses, sometimes they want to do tests, and some tests you shouldn't ttc while these tests are being done. Some Drs tell you to wait until your first cycle. So that they can date the pregnancy, this is really no big deal since they have early u/s that can pinpoint almost to the day when you concieved. So you would end up having an early U/S for datting purposes. And some doctors also want you to wait until you are emotionaly ready to ttc again. So if you are healthy, with no medical complications, and you are emotionaly ready... It is your choice whether you go for it of wait... HUGS!

Also your body won't get pregnant unless it is ready, and getting pregnant does not increase your risk of m/c again. HUGS

[SD Mommy]

I'm sorry for your loss. My doc told me to wait 2-3 cycles before trying again but I just couldn't. I started trying right away. In a way it made me feel better just trying again. I got pregnant the cycle following my first period so I think that you won't get pregnant unless your body is ready. Everyone is different, you should do what feels right for you.

[sweetgirl51305]

So sorry for your loss. Well, I've had conflicting advice too. When I had my 1st m/c my ob/gyn dr told me to wait 3 cycles. Well, I didn't listen and low and behold I got pg and had a m/c the cycle after. He was mad and said it was my fault because I didn't listen to him and wait the 3 cycles. BUT, I went to my family dr recently and told him the story and he was is shock that my dr had the nerve to tell me that AND since I wasn't far along there was no need to wait. So I was in the same boat as you. I've waited the 3 months and now we're going to try again, so we'll see. I think the 3 months is mainly for dating purposes, and to get your body and mind back to "normal" because it's not only emotionally painful, it does a lot to your body. GL on whatever you choose. And remember, it is your choice!

[TTCin2010]

Sorry for your loss. I just had a D&C friday and I am ready to try again ASAP. At first my doc said wait 2-3 cycles but when I pressed him he said it was up to me. My hubby does not want to try until after my first cycle, bc he wants to make sure I have healed. Getting pregnant again will help me deal with the loss (it will never replace our angel but it will make things more manageable.