[sheephater321]

hello again everyone. I'm just hoping for some input from people who may understand where I'm coming from. I have had two miscarriages in the past 6 months. I tested positive for a heterzygous C677T gene defect which from what I hear 'probably' isn't even causing the miscarriages. I also had a chem 20 done,a basic metabolic panel, and anticoagulant/phospholipid screening done. Nothing was found on those. My first question would be whether anyone has any other suggestions for what I should do before trying again.(I've been taking folgard 2.2 for the past 2 months for the MTHFR defect) I also have a history of unexplained, random chest pains that has never been diagnosed and I have a social anxiety disorder.
My second question is regarding my job. I work as a secretary and its not a terrible job but I am not happy there and am uncomfortable most of the time. I feel very drained emotionally and I just know its showing in my work. My husband and I are planning on trying to conceive in about a month. I'm debating quitting my job and staying at home. I don't want to be unemployed, but I also don't want the stress of starting a new job at this time. I am going crazy waiting to conceive and I'm just wondering if it wouldn't help in some way if I just devoted myself fully to our third pregnancy attempt. Does anyone have any experience in this area or have any input??? BTW...if I left my job it would be a harder for us to get by financially but I know we can handle it (we've done it before)

[missy123]

I cant help much however have the doctors ever said that your random chest pains are anxiety related? I had chest pains about 4 years ago and the doctors put me in the hospital and did many tests including a stress test. It all came back good and 3 different doctors all agreed it was stress related.

Best of everything to you.

[sheephater321]

Thank you for the reply. I did have a doctor tell me one time that it may be related to my anxiety. He wasn't sure but it was an idea. I've had them for 10 years and they usually are pretty painful so I'm not convinced yet, but its possible. Thank you again for the comment. There could definately be a connection.

[.:Shortcake:.]

I also had chest pains and they were related to all the stress I was under. Also I wanted to say that if your not happy at your job maybe find another one and then switch, that way your not unemployed at all. Hope you get your sticky BFP soon.

[ohnicole]

I think that you are really the only one who can decide what is the best thing for you to do about your job. I am in sort of a similar situation job-wise.

My unhappiness with my job had been growing for a while, and then a bunch of family stuff happened that took away a lot of my ability to focus on TTC. It was very frustrating, and now I am ready to put both family and job on the backburner to make TTC my top priority. I know I have other stuff to keep me busy, so I am not too worried about becoming too obsessed with TTC. Taking time off from work just feels right to me. It's such a personal decision.

Good luck with whatever you decide!

[Celena]

how are you!? I'm going to add quotes from your original post so I can answer you a little better

Originally Posted by sheephater321

I have had two miscarriages in the past 6 months. I tested positive for a heterzygous C677T gene defect which from what I hear 'probably' isn't even causing the miscarriages. I also had a chem 20 done,a basic metabolic panel, and anticoagulant/phospholipid screening done. Nothing was found on those. My first question would be whether anyone has any other suggestions for what I should do before trying again.(I've been taking folgard 2.2 for the past 2 months for the MTHFR defect)

I would suggest 1 baby aspirin a day after ovulation until af arrives, it'll thin your blood slightly to prevent clotting in the develouping placenta if you are pregnant. I believe most women stop taking it around 10-12wks in pregnancy.

Originally Posted by sheephater321

Thank you for the reply. I did have a doctor tell me one time that it may be related to my anxiety.

it is very well related to your anxiety especially if all the testing came back good. Have they ever checked you out for asthma? That can cause chest pains, it all depends on how your describe them as well like how exactly the feel and where.

Originally Posted by sheephater321

My second question is regarding my job. I work as a secretary and its not a terrible job but I am not happy there and am uncomfortable most of the time. I feel very drained emotionally and I just know its showing in my work. My husband and I are planning on trying to conceive in about a month. I'm debating quitting my job and staying at home. I don't want to be unemployed, but I also don't want the stress of starting a new job at this time. I am going crazy waiting to conceive and I'm just wondering if it wouldn't help in some way if I just devoted myself fully to our third pregnancy attempt. Does anyone have any experience in this area or have any input??? BTW...if I left my job it would be a harder for us to get by financially but I know we can handle it (we've done it before)

Ok, my best advice in reguards to the whole big picture... is don't ADD more stress or change the stress in your life by leaving your job. I think continue with your normal routine, it's possible that just the emotional upsetting of 2 losses in 6 months can still be effecting you. It's not easy to go thru a loss and/or multiple losses and while we think we're ok we're still greiving. Being drained physically a general meloncholy both sound like direct effects of your losses honey and I wouldn't add financial stress to your life if you can just hang in there. Perhaps cut back on how many days you work while staying there to ensure there's no added stress to your life. (if that makes sense)

I hope this helps you somehow

[sheephater321]

Thank you all so much for the support and for the input. Celena...the aspirin may be a good idea and I'm going to ask my doctor about that. I appreciate you mentioning that. Also, I'm told I dont have asthma but I have heard of that being the culprit. I hope I can figure that problem out and I really hope my chest pains are not related to/causing the miscarriages. I'm pretty high strung right now and so I'm sure that is making work harder. I just want to do anything and everything I can do to help the next pregnancy stick. I've read that stress is a controverisial but possible cause of miscarriages. I feel like a crazy person for even considering leaving a job right now. I'm just scared and I secretely wish I could just wrap myself up in a ' safety cocoon' for the next pregnancy. Part of me thinks If I basically hide out and focus on the baby and myself that maybe things will just work somehow. However, I think you may be right Celena. I'm probably just overthinking things because I'm scared . Sorry if I'm rambling too much. Thank you all so much =)

[Kary♥RN]

First off.. HUGS.. I am so sorry for your losses.. I have a MTHFR Mutation.. I am homozygous for the A1298C. I have had three early m/c.. I am on a baby aspirn. I went on it 2 days after Ovulation. I am now almost 25 wks pregnant. I will not stop the baby aspirin until I am 35 wks. I would check with your Dr before starting anything.. since Aspirin can leutinize eggs. I don't think anyone should start anything without talking it over with thier docs... If you have any questions please ask.. and also I started a group on JM.. here is the link....
Any of the MTHFR Mutations... can possiably cause m/c... depending on the study you read... my dr says better be safe than sorry.. and does the baby aspirin for the lesser cases... You will see alot of our TTCAL ladies on the group.. HUGS

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