How bad is the first post mc af?

Momo · #1 August 4th, 2010, 09:47 PM

I think I am having major pms already. I'm not due for at least 5 more days but I am so moody and I actually feel kind of depressed. Just have no motivation to do anything, cry at the drop of a hat, feel so tired and exhausted. Like pms times 10. Not to mention the physical symptoms. Everything hurts.
And all it does is remind me how I should be almost 9 weeks. I would have had my first ob appt tomorrow. I would have met my little bean on the ultrasound.

I know the regular grieving is amplified from stupid pms.
So give it to me straight, am I in for it?

MeganMomof5 · #2 August 4th, 2010, 09:53 PM

I was farther a long when I had my miscarriage, and had 2 D&C's, so I don't know if that made a difference...I have to say that my cramps were pretty painful before AF came and they got pretty intense, but not so bad I couldn't do anything...My actual bleeding wasn't any different, except I spotted a few days longer at the end than I normally would...I hope it's not too bad on you...I felt better after I had my first cycle, it just made things easier....I hated being in limbo.

BeccaM · #3 August 5th, 2010, 05:05 AM

My first AF after mc was pretty intense. Lots of cramping, very heavy flow/clots and just overall an emotional wreck. Hang in there. It will ease up over time. BIG HUGZ!

mary30 · #4 August 5th, 2010, 07:25 AM

I was 11 weeks along and my period after my miscarriage was pretty normal I spotted(barely) for 2 days before and then two medium flow days then one light then spotting.

Servilia · #5 August 5th, 2010, 08:38 AM

I was 6 when I had my natural m/c. My actual m/c flow was pretty much like my regular AF except with some clots. The next AF was completely normal with no cramps or extra blood. I'm sorry for your loss and hope your AF is manageable!!

MamaRN · #6 August 5th, 2010, 03:27 PM

I was almost 8 weeks along and my first post m/c AF really wasn't bad, a few days of heavy bleeding, the cramps weren't nearly as bad as my first PP AF's when I had my daughter.

Hope it isn't too bad for you.

*Melissa* · #7 August 6th, 2010, 10:33 AM

Hey Cuz

Hang in there ... If it helps, the first actual AF I had after Adriel was fairly normal. The emotional aspect was most definitely NOT normal. Mostly what you are describing, which is out of character for us. But the bleeding itself was normal. My heart breaks with you

Faith will always be missed.

Momo · #8 August 6th, 2010, 04:24 PM

Thanks Melissa! I usually have heavy periods anyway so I guess I will just see. I just need to hole myself away on an island so I can be a psychopath by myself.

*Melissa* · #9 August 6th, 2010, 07:31 PM

I wish I was there with you... I am due for my period any time now... can you imagine the heck we would put our husbands through if our "meld" happened when we were both emotional pmsy disasters? hehe
I really am continuing to lift you and the family up in prayer. Can't wait to see you in a few weeks and give you hugs!

KDD · #10 August 6th, 2010, 08:16 PM

My first AF wasn't much different from other AFs in terms of flow. The big difference was that I had a lot more cramping for about 6 - 8 months afterwards before AF would show. I could always tell when she was coming, my legs would even get achy!

Momo · #11 August 6th, 2010, 08:34 PM

Thanks again Meliss, I can't wait to see you too!

I already have really painful periods. I have endometriosis so the cramping I get normally is very bad, all in my kidneys, down my legs, uterus, everything contracts and cramps. I hope it's not worse than normal! I'll really be in for it. And best of all, my inlaws are coming Tuesday so I am fully expecting to have af in full swing for their arrival!