[MeganMomof5]

First of all, i'm so happy to finally get a referral for the office I want to go to...I started asking for one like back in May, and I called I think 4 times asking about it, and never got one before I got pregnant again...My intention was to go meet with 2 doctors before I was pregnant to see which one I liked better, and that never happened...Now I can do that!!! I guess it just took talking to the right person...Which just happens to be the poor nice nurse I was yelling at yesterday...She just called and said it's all sent over and she even called them and let them know about me and what's been happening.

So any way, I had my appointment today, with a female doctor I've only met once, which just happened to be in the ER back in May when I went in for my hemorrhaging, which some of you probably remember...She's the one that did my 2nd D&C...I didn't really talk with her much, she came in and introduced herself that night right before my surgery, so I didn't get a "feel" for her...So any way, today she walks in and said "so what can we do for you" and I didn't know what to say, and just looked at her lol...Then she said "so you had a miscarriage, have you gotten your period yet" WTH???? I said "I just had a miscarriage less than 2 days ago"...She pretty much told me that nothing's wrong with me, I have 4 kids and if something was wrong with me or my husband we wouldn't have any kids, and we do, so it's pretty much just bad luck that I keep losing babies...She said 25% of all pregnancy's end in miscarriage, and that's just what's going on with me, everything is fine...I pretty much had to beg for some blood tests, and i'm still not even sure what she's testing for, but she said that they probably won't find anything wrong...She also said since I already miscarried and the baby is dead they can't do any chromosomal testing on it since I already passed it (even though I brought it in)...It doesn't make sense, how can they do chromosonmal testing on other woman? it's not like they take the baby out while it's still alive to do the testing?...The doctor was really rush rush, and nothing like my doctor who would of probably sat and talked to me for 45 minutes or an hour like in the past...The nurse that I talked to yesterday came in and I guess I just had a breakdown and started crying and venting about everything...about their office, about my doctor leaving, about losing my babies, about the horrible doctor I saw a couple weeks ago, about not getting a referral, how horrible my miscarriage was, no one is supporting me etc etc...She was so nice and sat and helped me for about 45 minutes...She hugged me and let me cry and vent all I wanted....She wants me to file a complaint about the doctor I can't stand, and i'm going in to pick up the paper to do that when I bring my daughter in for her check-up next week (Not in their office, another office)...She also agreed that I should break free from them and start fresh with a new OB since I have so many bad memory's and experiances there...So that was pretty much it...She said she would call me when she finds out the results from all the tests they are doing...I was told by the twit doctor that i'm fine and I can TTC right away and there shouldn't be any reason for me to wait...I asked if it can be too much for my uterus and she said no that it's fine...So I guess i'll just move on, wait for my next AF and try again...I'm so sick of TTC, but I guess it's all I can do, and hope next time will have a better outcome.

[brandi.lyn]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I hope they can find some answers in the blood work they did. Glad someone finally listened/comforted you and is referring you to a new OB. ((hugs)) t&p your way.

[LisaG825]

I am sorry you didn't have any luck with your dr. I am glad you will be getting to meet a new dr. though.

When I was induced at the hospital I couldn't see my baby boy very long. My dr. said that they didn't want him to dry out before the testing, etc. Maybe that is why they aren't doing the chromosomal testing.

Try and take it easy for a little bit. I know that is easier said than done. You will have a new dr. soon. Think positive: this dr. will help me get my sticky bean!

[MeganMomof5]

I'm not sure Lisa. the baby wasn't dry, it was in a bowl with a lid, and it was pretty moist when I looked at it this morning (I Know gross huh)...When I had Ella I kept her in my room with me for 19 1/2 hours before I handed her over for her autopsy...I know that i'm not a dr, but the way she said it, it just made no sense...They knew right away after I had my miscarriage that I wanted testing done on it, and if that was the case they should of had me bring it in right away...I just feel like they are so ignorant at that office...I called the new office i'm going to, and they are having a dr look over my referral and will be calling me back to set up my appointment soon.

[Brittanie]

I hate the way some doctors act like you're a bother. They must have at least started out caring about people, right? Or why be a doctor?



I hope that the new office is better in every way.

[~LaurenNoel~]

That just makes me so angry. They should have done more testing, and that doctor needs a better bedside manner. Awful.

[Halfbaked]

Wow, that's a lot to have to go through to get a referel. The testing doesn't make sense either. Why are people told to bring stuff in then? Maybe that office just didn't want to deal with the lab, insurance, etc. I hate to say this, but I have 2 brothers that are doctors. One is very caring, the other is cold and callous. I don't understand how it happens because they were both so excited to become a doctor.

I'm glad you get to see someone new. Hopefully they will be more caring and willing to help you get answers.

[~InHisHands~]

I don't like that female dr & I don't even know her! I'm assuming you told them about your thyroid being removed. IDK, since being dx hypo I just wonder if my thyroid isn't playing a big part of this & maybe you too. I'm so sorry for the HORRIBLE appt. I hope you get a new GREAT dr & they can figure it all out soon!

[MeganMomof5]

I did mention my thyroid today...She wanted to know when I last had my levels checked, and it was actually 2 weeks ago, the day before I started bleeding...I was told by my thyroid doc that my levels were perfect, and he kept me on the 175mg...She then said I didn't need them re-checked, but when I went to the lab I told them check my thyroid (I have an open lab order for it)...I actually got a call from the nurse at the thyroid doctor and she said my levels were all good and I can just keep taking the 175mg levothyroxine...I then told her that she needed to let him know that I had another miscarriage...So she is going to tell him and call me back tomorrow...I've been told by him and my OB that my losses don't have to do with my thyroid because I haven't had any problems with my levels since I had my thyroid removed...It's hard for me to not have that thought in the back of my mind since this is now the 3rd loss since having my thyroid out...I don't know what else to do about it, i've talked about it with both doctors...There isn't any one else for a 2nd opinion for the thyroid, unless I want to travel to seattle, and I can't really...He seems to be pretty good though, and when I went in to see him on June 9th we talked about my thyroid and pregnancy loss...I'm giving it 1-2 weeks when I hear back about my blood tests and pathology to see if and when i'm going to ttc again...I told my husband that and he said that we should takea break, and I knew he was going to say that...I know that it's my choice and he'll go with whatever I want.

[Ashmommyof3.5]

I am so sorry!!!! The Docs there sound like total quacks!!! (((HUGS)))

[ldovey83]

Megan sweety I am so sorry you are going through this, and I am so happy you got your referral so you can go to a new office.. I would be saying goodbye to those Dr's and be moving on.. Hopefully you will get more answers from this new office and you will have Dr's that actually seem to care.. HUGs hun.. Hang in there..

[stargatemommy]

The right doctor can be the best thing! I am sorry you were not treated well... I hope the new doctor helps you out.

[zkat]

Megan,

I am so, so sorry you are dealing with such an insensitive, uncaring office! Do you know when your appointment for the new Dr. is going to be scheduled? I think you shoud ask for the Anti-Cardiolipin and Anti-phospholipid antibody tests. It is common for people with Thyroid and autoimmune diseases to develop these antibodies, even after 4 healthy pregnancies.

Now, on to attack this ***** of a Dr. According to her 25% of all pregnancies end in m/c and you are "normal", except that you now have 42% of your pregnancies end in m/c - all AFTER a heartbeat has been established. The chance of miscarriage after a heartbeat is 5% and it drops to 2% once you enter the second trimester. It doesn't matter that you have 4 children all ready, because obviously something has changed and you are now needing some medical guidance.

Again, I am so very sorry. My heart just breaks for you.



Kat.

[MeganMomof5]

Thank you Kat for that info, i'm going to wite that down and bring it to me when I meet a new doctor...I'll also do some research on it too...I'm not sure when my appointment with a new doctor is...They said it will take a couple days for the doctor to review it and then they'll call me back to set up an appointment...She said if I don't hear from them by thursday to call back...I know something is wrong, and it's not just bad luck...I know it can happen to people who already have children, and it's so frustrating that they won't listen to me when I tell them that I know something is wrong...I hope my new doctor will be more helpful and I can get some answers.

[MeganMomof5]

I just got the phone call!!! I have an appointment on September 27th with a new doctor...She was my cousin's doctor, and she also treated my grandma's uterine cancer, and my aunt and cousin both said she's really nice...I also heard from a couple friends about her too...I asked if I happen to get pregnant before then, they said to call them right away...Oh it feels so good to have this appointment set up, I can't wait!!! kind of bittersweet, it's the day before my edd with my 2nd loss and also just 3 days before Ella passed away last year...It's going to be a hard time for me, but I hope things will work out.

[MeganMomof5]

Kat, I just did some reading on the anticardiolipin, and I think that was one of the tests that I got yesterday, I actually think my dr tested me for that too after I lost Ella...I'm not sure about the other one, but i'm going to look through my medical records that I have, and my labs and see if I was tested for both of those...I know after she was born they took 12 viles of blood from me, and he did test me for a lot of things...With my 2nd loss he didn't retest much because he didn't think anything would change in such a short amount of time, I think they only took 4 viles from me, and then yesterday I got 8 viles.

[Momo]

Well let's hope you get some concrete answers soon. New doctor, new outlook, fresh new set of eyes to find out what's going on. Your appt makes me so mad! Some doctors can just be awful. I hate it when they treat patients like ignorant hysterical fools. Hugs. I hope you can figure out what's going on.

And the thryoid stuff makes me wonder too. I didn't have my loss until after I developed Hashi's. And my levels were perfect right before I lost the baby too. I even asked my endo if antibody levels can impact miscarriage rates. He said no.... but I do know selenium can help lower antibody levels. Hugs. We'll be here during the next month when you have to face all these tough dates.

[Brittanie]

I'm glad that you have an appointment with the new doc set up at least. I agree with a previous poster: new set of eyes to see new things.

[Kary♥RN]

HUGS.... I hope you get answers from this Dr... HUGS