[Anna.Loves.Toast]

this got pretty long...

So this cycle we had decided to try the sperm-meets-egg-plan...unfortunately it didnt work out that way, and I'm pretty upset about it. Along with the SMEP, we were planning on BD twice a day on the 3 days in a row of BDing. The first day I got a positive OPK, we BD that afternoon. That night I hopped in the shower so I would be 'fresh' for BD that night, and he fell asleep and would not wake up! I was pretty upset, but I let it go.
The next morning, I tried to get things started, but he just wasn't into it. That really upset me, even though I know it shouldn't have. I guess I was a little over emotional. I started crying, and I just *knew* that was it for this cycle, we were out. All I could think of was where I'd be right now if I hadn't m/c. I'd be about 19 weeks, finding out the baby's sex, shopping for the nursery, wearing maternity clothes, and showing off my rounding belly to everyone that asked.
When I started crying, he told me to stop. It's not a big deal, we'll just try again later. I completely lost it. It's a big deal to me. A HUGE deal! I told him that trying again isn't easy. I worry about TTC so much, over analyze everything. It's exhausting! The temping, checking CM and CP, studying OPKs and taking supplements. I dont think he actually realized what TTC means to me, or whats actually involved in it...that most of my spare time is devoted to reading about fertility, studying supplements and other people's charts...
We ended up BDing later that night, and we were supposed to again on Sunday, as the last of the 3 days in a row, but he was busy, and still didn't think it was that big of a deal.
*sigh* I've thought about taking a couple months off from the charting, but I'm so worried that I'll miss 'the month' that it's going to happen, if i'm not paying attention.


anyway, i feel better that all this is now out.

[hollann1984]

Im sorry Anna. My DH is the same way sometimes. He is way to laid back and does always think there is a rush or we will just keep trying he says. I have had 2 losses so any month that is missed is more time than im willing to waste. Hang in there, sometimes men just have no clue whats going on. I hope you feel better soon!!!

[TTCin2010]

I think its hard for men to understand. My husband says we will get pregnant when its our time. I want it NOW! He thinks I an nuts

[MamaRN]

I'm sorry Anna,

My husband sometimes has a hard time getting motivated too. Like you, I'd be about 19 weeks along now (I think we were in the same DDC) and it's so hard to think about that and trying again. We also did the SMEP this month, but were too tired to do the last day after the 3 days in a row. I'm 9DPO now and honestly feeling very discouraged, and I haven't even tested or anything.

It's so hard.

[ohnicole]

I'm sorry DH isn't on the same page as you right now. It's so frustrating.... darn poopy-headed boys Just remember that you are still in the game! You definitely BD'ed enough to catch that egg!

[T_Mommy]

I'm sorry. It just isn't the same for men and the often dont' get it. The good news is your timing was perfect and you did bd enough to catch the egg. It only takes one time and one swimmer out of millions. My fingers are crossed this will be your month. I will be testing/due for af around the same time as you.