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August 18th, 2010, 01:37 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Baby B had no heartbeat today, and showed very little growth. This is so hard, I just can't seem to compose myself. This makes baby #3 that I've lost this year. Baby A looks great, the growth was spot on and the heartbeat was 167; we could see all the arm and leg buds and the baby making little movements, but I'm just so terrified that something is going to happen to baby A also. My heart is so broken, I hate losing babies. I'm struggling with being happy that Baby A is healthy because I'm so afraid that I'm going to lose that baby too and I'm afraid to get attached. The Dr kept telling me that maybe this was a blessing in disguise, because the twins were in fact mono-mono, and that can be very dangerous. I just keep thinking that if these twins were exactly alike that if something was wrong with baby B then baby A should have the same problem since they had identical DNA. This is just so tough and not fair.
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August 18th, 2010, 02:22 PM
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I am so sorry about Baby B. I hope Baby A stays super strong!!!
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August 18th, 2010, 02:29 PM
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Kelly, I just saw your post on facebook, so I came here hoping you had posted. I am SO sorry.  I am so sad for you!! I cant imagine the range of feelings that are hitting you right now. UGH and the Dr. I know he was trying to be sympathetic, but really, the dumb things that people say to try to help you feel better! Obviously we want baby A to be healthy and have the best chance possible, but not at the expense of what is lost. I wish I could be there with you, to help with anything you need. I understand your fears that something could go wrong with this baby as well, considering the identical DNA, but it could be something completely unrelated to the DNA. It could be something to do with the way the cord was developing, or something like that. I know it must be so hard to keep any hope right now, please try hun. And feel all you need to feel right now. It has to come out sometime hun. God, I wish there was something I could do! You are right, this is totally unfair.
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August 18th, 2010, 02:57 PM
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I am so sorry
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August 18th, 2010, 02:59 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear this....Keep faith, it might have nothing to do with DNA. Stay positive. HUGS
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August 18th, 2010, 03:12 PM
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Oh honey, I am so sorry. I once read an article though that discussed the differences environment had on the development of identical twins, and how even babies sharing the same placenta can have one be affected by something more than another, so the fact that they share the same genetics doesn't mean that Baby A is doomed.
I'm so very sorry that you have to experience this. 
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August 18th, 2010, 03:28 PM
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Oh honey, I'm so sorry. Hugs. I'll be praying that baby A sticks like glue and continues to grow. Their little heart sure is strong. That's a great rate. I know that doesn't ease the pain of losing another little one but I'll just be praying that you don't lose both precious darlings.
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August 18th, 2010, 03:55 PM
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Im so sorry Kelly. I will be keeping you and Baby A in my thoughts and prayers. Stay stong lil bean! HUGZ!
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August 18th, 2010, 04:06 PM
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I am so sorry Kelly. Hang in there baby A!
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August 18th, 2010, 04:25 PM
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Aw, Kelly, I am so sorry that you lost another little one Huge hugs.
It must be so hard to try to stay positive right now, but losing Baby B does NOT mean that the same will happen with Baby A. Just try to get through each day as it comes, and soon you will be about to deliver your happy, healthy baby.
We are here for you, Kelly.
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August 18th, 2010, 05:05 PM
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I am so sorry! I hope that Baby A remains sticky and strong!
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August 18th, 2010, 05:17 PM
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Kelly, I am so sorry... I am crying for you... I wish I could take all your pain away. This is just so not fair. I am praying for baby A...... Baby A... this is for you little one, I need you to stay strong for your mommy and daddy. You dig in nice and deep, make yourself comfy and we'll see you in March... XOXOXO
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August 18th, 2010, 05:47 PM
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I am so sorry. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers.
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August 18th, 2010, 05:53 PM
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Oh Kelly, I am so very sorry. I can't imagine the mixed emotions you must be having right now. I'll be keeping you and Baby A in my prayers.
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August 18th, 2010, 06:09 PM
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I'm so sorry sweetie!! Your in my prayers!
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August 18th, 2010, 06:32 PM
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I am so sorry about Baby B.
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August 18th, 2010, 08:15 PM
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I am so sorry to hear about your loss hun.... I am going to be saying a prayer for baby A that he/she sticks and stays put.... Hang in there. Try to stay positive and not think about the negatives.. I know it's easier said then done..HUGS!!
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August 18th, 2010, 08:49 PM
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I'm really sorry (((Hugs)))
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August 19th, 2010, 06:56 AM
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You and Baby A will be in my prayers!
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August 19th, 2010, 09:17 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I'm soo sooo sorry! I pray that Baby A snuggles in nice and deep and continues to grow and thrive. My thoughts and prayers are with you, DH, and Baby B!
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