[msshamis23]

Okay, I talked to some gals last Monday, in the chat room about this, but I'm still undecided. Ever since my loss (which happened in March, but I didn't get the injection til April 21st) I've had two AF's. One at the end of May (which was extremely long), and one mid July (which was lighter and shorter than usual) Is this my new normal? Skip a month? Or what? This month I calculated AF to be here anywhere between Aug 10-20 just because of the miss in June, but I had a blood draw which they automatically did the PG test on, come back BFN, so I'm not sure what to do. I really want to try to conceive, but it's kinda hard when AF is on the wack, and I can't even tell when I ovulate. (I've never had ovulation pains), i've also had really regular AF's since Jan of 09. (Right after I had DD, in Jan 07, I had two AF's and then nothing for nearly a year. Then my ex and I broke up and I began a relationship with somebody I was attracted too and haha there she was. I had tests done, and put on pills to make her come, but my doc said it was quite possibly my body saying that I didn't want another baby with this man, or that from the trauma of the labor my body was just saying no no. They never came up with a medical reason for losing AF for nearly a year.) I'm terrified that this is happening again. My body had something traumatic happen to it, and as a way to prevent that from happening it's just stopping regulation. If that is the case, then DH will take it badly because in his words, 'AF didn't come because I wasn't attracted to my ex anymore, and it was a fail safe.' I know that he will take this the same way, and the relationship will suffer. While that is NOT the case.

So, what should I do? Should I talk to my OB about this, or should I wait it out and see what happens? We do not have a credit card, nor debit, nor bank account (to prevent overspending, and going into debt....) so I can't order OPK's for cheap online to find out if I ovulate or not, and I can't afford to just buy them at the stores here.

Thanks for reading, if you got this far......

***********************UPDATE********************* *
So I guess I just spoke too soon. AF came today. I'm so relieved and, glad. (As much as I hate her) But it's good knowing that I predicted the right time frame. (Which is kind of frustrating, because does that mean I ovulated later? Or how many days is my cycle?) I'm probably going to talk to my OB anyway, but not right away like I was originally planning. I think I'll wait til next cycle to see if she's still screwy then. *le sigh*

[ohnicole]

If I were you I would be antsy enough to go see a doctor about it. Your OB may or may not be helpful- you may need to ask for a referral to a reproductive endocrinologist to really get anywhere with testing to find out what the cause of your irregular cycles is.

I hope you have peace with whatever you decide to do, and I'm sorry you have to deal with irregular cycles. It can be so frustrating. Hugs.

[~InHisHands~]

I would see a dr too... it def can't hurt & can only help.

[HopefulMommy81]

I'm glad AF came! I would still see your OB like you said. Does anyone know you're TTC? Could they order the OPK's for you? Or try temping, but that doesn't let you know when you'll O ahead of time... I hope AF stays regular, but I guess actually I hope you don't see her again for a long time due to being pregnant

[ohnicole]

I'm glad AF showed up on her own in the time frame that you expected her.

If you want to figure out your cycle length and when you might have ovulated, you use the first day of your last AF (in mid July) as CD1, then count forward until today. That's how long your cycle was. You can make a guess that if you ovulated this cycle, that it happened ABOUT 14 days before the first day of AF.