[ldovey83]

So last night after not having sex since before I found out I was pregnant Aug 1st.. DH and I DTD, and during it I started to cry... I don't know why if it was just I was emotional or what, but I started to cry.. I made myself stop and pull myself together before DH saw me.. It wasn't painful or anything.. I just thought it was so strange.. I wanted to cry after wards too.. I just think maybe my emotions are finally catching up to me, and it is finally starting to hit me....

[Halfbaked]

Not strange at all. When I've been emotionally spent and we dtd I've cried. It's hard to explain why. Sometimes it's just being close that I need and all my emotions come pouring out. The thing is, before having my first, I never cried about anything. Now I cry at commercials.

[ldovey83]

It was definitely strange for me cause I havn't been able to get myself to cry here lately.. DH and I did have a big fight that almost ruined our marriage and we were both emotionally pushed... Before that we sat and just talked for like and hr and half.. WE both got everything off our chest and for once he finally opened up to me and let me know why he has been acting the way he has.. I felt alot better afterwards, and I am glad that we got everything cleared.. I was crying alot yesterday after noon just from the argument and fighting with DH and I am sure the loss has finally caught up with me.. I am just taking one day at a time..

[Brittanie]

As hard as it is, it's a good thing, I think, that you're starting to move forward in your grief. I'm glad you talked with him about everything and you're feeling better on that front.

But I wish you weren't going through this at all.

[ldovey83]

Thanks Brittanie.. I wish that none of us had to expierence a loss let alone repeated losses.. It definitely takes a toll on things..

[ohnicole]

Lindsey, the same thing happened to me when DH and I first DTD after our loss. I was so surprised because honestly usually I don't associate DTD with much emotion, but there I was, crying. I think it is totally normal (or at least we can tell ourselves that )

I'm glad you and DH were able to talk about things. I hope it is a turning point for you both.

[MeganMomof5]

(((Hugs))) I'm glad you guys talked things out.

[luvmykids623]

I'm glad that you and DH got to talk things out. I'm so sorry you have to go through this again!

[Celena]

I'm sorry Lindsey, posted to you earlier here but somehow it's been lost in cyberspace

I'm sorry please know there's nothing wrong or weird with how you're feeling. BTW, I've done it as well after my losses.

[missy123]

Same here Lindsay. The first time we DTD after our loss I cried. Partially because he wore a condom (under doctors orders until after first AF) and part because.... well, it was just a very emotional time. ((Hugs))

[ldovey83]

Thanks ladies.. I am glad to know I was not alone on that.. I was afraid I was going crazy or something... Glad to know I am not weird...

[shen7]

No you are not crazy!!!! I think a lot of emotions can come out during BD. In fact, in traditional chinese medicine, there are 4 places on your body where you can access ALL the meridians/points of your energy body: the ears, the feet, the mouth, and the hoo-ha (to use a technical term ). So when that area is stimulated, any repressed emotions stored throughout your body can be brought up and out. Intuitively, this idea makes sense to me, because of my own experience. I recently had a similar crying fit myself with the first BD in awhile.

Cheaper than therapy! (As long as you talk it out with DH so he doesn't think he's hurt you!!)

[ldovey83]

That is really interesting Shen7... Thanks for sharing..