[Fallen2Love]

I'm kinda just frustrated and could use some ideas/thoughts/an ear

So, after spotting for 3 days Af finnally starts full swing. Dh said to me, "we've tried two months now. Obviously we just can't get pregnant." No, umm, month one - we only kinda tried. I am fairly certain the that while we were on vacation was my peek days when we got privacy at a hotel - ovulation had already passed. I can't count that as trying even though we both kinda hoped. Then this past cycle, we DTD during O but obviously missed our shot. I'm frustrated b/c the tone he had was like there is something wrong w/ me.

Then, I was talking to my mom describing my cycles and my frustrated with my cycles Wendesday. My mom, whos worked in OBGYN for a total of about 15-ish years said, "ummm yeah, there is something wrong. They need to look harder for a cause." Basically I spot for DAYS (btwn 3-5 days) then have a period for 7-10 days with heavy bleeding (I use a diva most of my cycle and actually my cycles are less violent with the diva - but from what I've read a typical period consists of lossing about 2 oz of blood. I loss about 5 oz). Anyways, no doctor has EVER found anything wrong with me. blood work is great, hormone levels are normal, no fibroids, no cysts, no endo, no pcos, no nothing!!! My uterus was tilted when I was pregnant w/ DD but after I had her it corrected itself I guess. The doctor that diagnosed it said that it was normally positioned and having a baby can sometimes correct itself. No other OBGYN has identified a tilted uterus in the numerous u/s I've had in the last few years.

I just am so frustrated by my violent cycles, DH thinks something is wrong so we shouldn't try, and I'm supposed to go for my annual appt on Monday but as of right now I'm still bleeding a good bit. My gut just feels like something is not right, I think I've had at least 1 more loss then what was documented in my medical records - maybe more. But the OBGYN has never reccomend more testing. I'm scheduled to see a "new" OBGYN. My normal doc transfered to a different location that is too far away. The new OBGYN is the one I saw w/ my recent loss and she was really awesome so I'm trying to be hopeful that maybe she'll have new insight. At least on the flip side my cycles ARE getting more predictable. And not nearly as irregualar and long as they used to be.

[shen7]

DH is being a booger! I would try to talk it out, or deal with it somehow. Maybe he just doesn't feel ready yet. I dunno... but I know if I'm having any problems with DH, it colors everything else, so no wonder you're frustrated.

Hope your new OBGYN figures out what is wrong... if indeed there IS anything wrong!... possibly there isn't, and you're just on a somewhat extreme end of the natural healthy personal variations in AF patterns. Definitely worth checking out, though. KUP

As for the frustration in general... Not much more I can do than that. I could tell you to go on Youtube and watch Paul Potts' first appearance on Britain's Got Talent, or something, but that might just make you want to bash your head into a wall too!!!

[.:Shortcake:.]

Men deal with everything differently than we do. My DH has still never had a SA done because he is too scared that if it comes back and it is him that I would leave him (isn't going to happen) but he is a man and thats how they are Hugs! I'm sorry for your frustration! TTCAL is definitely frustrating. But I hope your new OB can figure out the problem and that its an easy fix.

[TTCin2010]

I would def check into your cycles it doesnt sound normal..Sorry your dh is being a butt! Men can be so hard to understand. HUGS!

[Fallen2Love]

Thanks ladies

I know men process everything differently then we do as woman. I just can't figure it out. Because any other time outside of ovulation he is all for TTC. However, once ovulation hits he's hesitant (yet of course never does anything to stop pregnancy from happening). I just don't get it, and of course he never talks about it.

Of course I got my lovely trigger today (as if AF isn't trigger enough...) as I'm reading about Reproductive Choices in my health textbooks with a section on pregnancy and related issues. I had to just flip the pages and glace at heading to make sure I knew the info. Statistics are not my friend right now!

I really do *hope* that everything is just on the extreme side of normal. I really *don't* want something to be wrong, but I would like to at least feel "average" in this area - LOL!

I really really hope for another summer baby. So maybe its just a matter of time...and a lot of gloomy fall/winter-ish days with nothing else to do LOL

[missy123]

I stopped telling DF when I was ovulating and it made for much better BD;ing because he didn't think of it as a clinical process anymore