[~LaurenNoel~]

I seriously almost strangled the ob I saw today. It is a high risk hospital (and teaching hospital), and I got the village idiot doing my exam. First of all, I am still a wreck about our loss in April, and I am super paranoid something is wrong with this baby. It might not be rational, but it is what it is.

The guy starts off by going over my 2 miscarriages. He said "Ok, so you had a miscarriage at 5 weeks, then an elective abortion at 10 weeks, right?"

I was like (with tons of attitude, almost crying), "No, I lost the baby at 10 weeks, and had to have a D&C". For some crazy reason he thought maybe I had something mixed up. I think I would know if I had an abortion! I was soo hurt. I had to explain several times what happened. All I could think about was the sweet baby we lost, and I started crying.

Then, when I told him how freaked out I was that there is something wrong with this baby, or I might lose him/her (my mom also had 5 losses, and a stillbirth), he continues to tell me I "should look at the glass as half full". What the heck?!

Anyways, I left there absolutely crushed. At least on a happy note, I have my big ultrasound in a week. That should give me some peace of mind. If they try to give me that horrible excuse for a doctor again, I am asking for someone else.

Anyways, I thought you ladies might understand.

[ldovey83]

I am so sorry you had to deal with a hole of a Dr... It would've made me cry too.. I understand completely the fears you are having.. Loss does that to us... It robs us of the miracle of life.. Many many hugs to you .. Hang in there.

[JessP]

That is terrible. I would have said something before I left.

[Brittanie]

You should write a letter to the hospital director or something, that's horrible.

Prayers that everything is okay with your baby!

[Halfbaked]

I personally HATE teaching hospitals. The doctors there, in my experience, have no experience. They think everything is text book and that you are supposed to react in a certain way to certain things. They haven't developed a bed side manner yet either. I would have really let loose on the doctor and taught him how he should react to others in the future.

I hope you are able to enjoy your pregnancy a little bit more. I'm sure that doctor didn't help any. Hang in there. HUGS

[HopefulMommy81]

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that doctor. I definetly suggest you call and complain. Ask to speak to the office manager and then say you refuse to see that particular doctor again. I had to do that at my urologist's office. They were very nice about it and I haven't had to see the dumb PA again. Good luck, try to relax and enjoy yourself and your little one in your belly, and can't wait to hear about your ultrasound next week!

[~LaurenNoel~]

Thank you all. I knew you would understand. Most people I know irl have never miscarried, and just don't get it.

[ashj_1218]

OMG, I would have been soooo pissed!! That is just ridiculous. If he didn't know the difference between an elective abortion and a missed abortion (what they often call a miscarriage that does not proceed naturally...horrible term, I know), then he doesn't need to be seeing patients yet!! I too would be calling and saying something to the office about not seeing him again and possibly having him removed from miscarriage cases in the future. He obviously doesn't have the sensitivity to handle the situation. I hope you get some peace of mind at the big ultrasound