I HATE FACEBOOK (pg and loss ment)

8miraclez · #1 September 23rd, 2010, 10:52 PM

I haven't been on facebook since my mc. Today, stupid me decides I should go and at least update my status. What do you think the very top post is? It's an announcement from my cousin that not only is she pregnant, but she's due around the same time I would have been due. Everyone was congratulating her and she's talking about her ultrasound and finding out the sex and how she just didn't want to tell anyone until now so it would be a surprise.

I've been doing ok until that. I just broke down crying. It's a good thing my dh is at work because he would think I've gone crazy. I'm having a hard time responding to posts here too. I think I just feel hopeless until after ovulation, then I get a shot of hope, at least for a couple weeks. Then I'm back here again. I feel like I'm going to drive myself mad.

ashj_1218 · #2 September 24th, 2010, 02:49 AM

I would like to second the "I hate facebook" notion. I am on there mostly for family...but right after I had two back-to-back miscarriages, one of the FIRST status updates on my page was that a friend was expecting her THIRD in so many years, due shortly after I was. I wanted to rip her a new butthole, just for posting it! It seems so unfair to me. But I try to limit my time on there, and had to block her updates completely.

.:Shortcake:. · #3 September 24th, 2010, 04:38 AM

HUGS! I am so sorry... I know this might be horrible of me but girls that I went to school with are pregnant and are always complaining on facebook so I blocked it so that I don't see there status's in my feed.

ohnicole · #4 September 24th, 2010, 05:06 AM

Hugs! I'm sorry you had to see the updates! Sometimes it's just too much to handle on top of all the unfairness we're already dealing with.

And I totally understand feeling hopeless during the wait to O. Usually I am OK until around CD15-CD19, and then I start losing it. A long wait to O is truly horrible and can mess with your mind so much.

I hope you start feeling a little better soon.

TTCin2010 · #5 September 24th, 2010, 05:45 AM

So sorry. I hate FB too. I had to block a dear friend beacause we're due around the same time. She was saying she hoped it was a boy becuse they already have to two girls, and dh wouldnt be happy if it was another girl..BLAH BLAH BLAH. How about just hoping for a healthy baby?

ldovey83 · #6 September 24th, 2010, 07:16 AM

I totally agree. I havn't been going on there much until recently.. It seems like everywhere I go I have friends and family members pregnant, and I can't escape it.. So I just have to suck it up and deal with my emotions and try to be happy for them.. It is so hard too though.. Especially cause alot of them complain, when they should be thankful, that they aren't having their heart ripped out of them.. I also try not to drag them down cause it's not their fault I can't keep a baby right now.. HUGS...

Glitz · #7 September 24th, 2010, 08:48 AM

I don't go to my FB neither i come here to JM

MamaRN · #8 September 24th, 2010, 09:04 AM

Oh I know how you feel. Every month around O time I get hopeful and excited, followed by 2 weeks of worry and then total depression when AF shows. And EVERYONE I know is freakin' pregnant. My sister who is due 2 weeks after I was due just found out she is having a boy. My co worker 'accidentally' is PG with twins at 42 (her youngest is 19!), and a close friend just told me she is 10 weeks PG. In my daughter's PR there are about 8 women PG right now. It is so hard to heal when it is in your face all the time.

msshamis23 · #9 September 24th, 2010, 09:26 AM

*hugshugshugs*

I definitely know how you feel. Though to be quite honest I kind of felt that way before my loss. People were popping up pregnant out of the wood work before my loss, and I swear that number tripled after my loss. I still go on there every day, but it's mostly to keep up with old friends.

sarha81 · #10 September 25th, 2010, 07:42 PM

FB sucks. This happened to me tonight for the second time this week, and I keep having to hide people from my wall. UGH! So sorry. I know how it feels � down right awful.

eChristine · #11 September 25th, 2010, 09:31 PM

I've definitely been avoiding facebook too...quite a few girls I went to school with are pregnant, which wouldn't be too bad to see except they're COMPLAINING about it all the time. I get it, pregnancy isn't always the most glamorous/comfortable thing but I'm so tempted to be like "JUST BE HAPPY YOU HAVE A LIVING BABY INSIDE OF YOU!" sometimes.