[Joanna1127]

Hello everyone,

We just found our we lost our baby yesterday at around 8 weeks. Last Monday at 7w4d everything was fine. We saw the baby and the heartbeat. She pointed out the trunk/head/where the brain would be, arm and leg buds, etc. We thought all was well.

I started having a bit of brown dishcharge Tuesday night and it continued Wednesday morning. All day wednesday it was almost gone, I thought it was just a fluke thing. Wednesday afternoon I went for an u/s and got the news that changed my life. I knew something was wrong when the tech wasn't saying much, said she was looking for the heartbeat (but I could tell she wasn't having any luck), Finally she had me wait in the waiting room while she paged my doctor. I knew things were bad. My doctor talked to me and said that it looked as if the baby stopped growing. I was in complete shock! I was trying to remain so optimistic through it all and then a big slap in the face!

So now I wait for my doctor to squeeze me in for a d & c....we're hoping for tonight (she's on call) or tomorrow afternoon. This has been the worst 2 days of my life so far!

so for those of you who had a d&c, how did it go? I have a HUGE fear of hospitals and this is not helping. also, how long after your loss did you get pregnant again? was it successful?

Thanks for letting me vent.
Joanna

[GoldenTickets]

Hi Joanna -- I am sorry for your loss. This experience is definitely not easy, but the ladies here are great. We all vent on here! Since I told so few people about my pregnancy (let alone the loss), this is one of the only places I can go to get things off my chest!

I was lucky enough to get a D&C the day after I found out there was no more heartbeat. (my doctor was on call the next day as well, thank goodness) Everything went very smoothly.... the procedure was delayed about 60 minutes because there was an emergency on the ob floor and my doctor had to take care of that first. The physical recovery was easy, at least for me. I had minimal cramping and light-medium bleeding for about 5 days. The hospital was great with me.. they knew I was there for a D&C and were very kind, and gave me a big hug.

I hope you are able to get your D&C quickly

[TTCin2010]

D&C itself was easy, very little pain, fast procedure. I had very little bleeding, but did catch an infection afterwards. The emotional impact was much harder. I lost all of my pregnancy symptoms as soon as I woke up from the D&C.

As far as how long it will take to get pregnant just varies woman to woman. I only have one tube and DH has a low count so for us it will take longer than a "normal" person. Good luck!

[luvmykids623]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had my first d&c last Tuesday (I m/c naturally the first two times). When I realized that things just weren't going to happen on their own this time around I was scared to death to have a d&c, but honestly it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be at all. I was delayed by about an hour because of complications in a previous appt, but the anesthesiologist was amazing and gave me "happy medicine" to help me relax while I waited. They gave me a double dose of the "happy medicine" before they rolled me back to the OR and all I remember once I got to the OR is the doctor sitting there waiting me and the big light. Next thing I knew I was in recovery. I've had very little cramping and haven't had to fill the pain meds they gave me. The bleeding hasn't been any worse than a period, and seems to be tapering off now. I hope they're able to get you in soon, and that everything goes well. I'll be praying for you!

[missy123]

I am so sorry for your loss. The D&C is an easy procedure, it is the emotional pain that is the worst part. Feel free to vent away and cry with us. We all understand.

((Hugs))

[Celena]

Hi Joanna,

I'm sorry for the devastating news you had gotten and the loss of your Little One Glad you have joined us, but I'm very sorry as well... it's not a place where I'd *want* to meet more ladies, just means we all have been bound by the thread of losing our baby(ies)'

I've never had a D&C nor D&E, sorry I'm no help to you there.

There are many ladies who can give you advice about it...

As far as the success rate of a healthy pregnancy afterwards, it's very likely. healing time and length of time to be able to ttcal is longer than a natural miscarriage or medicinally induced. My dr's steared me to methotrexate shots vs surgery with my ectopic loss in Feb'10 and I was also treated with methotrexate causing my loss in Aug'09. Was told I'd preserve my fertility as well as be able to ttc sooner. Every doctor is different tho and will give different advice.

Your best bet is to write down some questions and call their office, the RN will be more than happy to answer your questions or bring you in to talk to you about everything prior or the day of. It's best to write it down because of the emotions are running so high at that time it's easy to have nothing else but the sadness and heartache on your mind.

Again I'm so so sorry

[~InHisHands~]

First off, HUGE

About the same thing happened to me... we saw our little bean's HB at 8 wks then out of the blue we had a m/c at about 11 wks.

[ohnicole]

I am so sorry for your loss

I also had a D&C with my loss. The procedure itself wasn't bad at all. I just remember getting rolled into the OR, and then waking up in the recovery room. I barely bled after mine, just light spotting for 10 days or so. And I only had cramping the day of the procedure. I hope your D&C and recovery go smoothly!

As far as getting pregnant again, many of the girls who come to this board are leaving with their BFP within a few months of trying again. Everyone is different, so it's hard to predict. I hope your stay here is short, though!

[~LaurenNoel~]

I am very sorry for your loss. With my last m/c, I also had brown spotting then learned our baby had dies at my 10 week ultrasound. I had a D&C. The procedure was painless, but I did have some bad labor-like pain for a week afterward with little bleeding.

As far as pregnancy afterward, I am currently 19 weeks pregnant with a girl right now, and she looks perfect. *hugs*

[mommy jenn]

oh hun i am so sorry... i know the hurt you are going through right now and nothing makes it better. (((hugs)))

[sarha81]

My heart breaks for you. I did not have a D&C, but I have used this board to prop me up on really bad days. HUGS to you.

[ldovey83]

Hi Joann, and welcome.. I am so sorry to hear about your loss.. I have never had a D&C so I am no help there, but just wanted to offer support to you.. Like many have said the emotional recovery varies and when you are ready you can talk to us about it or vent away.. Best of luck to you with the D&C..

[Joanna1127]

Thanks for the warm welcome, ladies!

I must say I had my D & C Thursday night and it went very smoothly. I have very little cramping and bleeding. I thought it would be much worse. I am definitely still very much emotionally upset by this loss though. I feel so empty inside and can't wait to get pregnant again.