[Joanna1127]

Sorry to vent again, but I am very emotional over this. I feel terrible inside and feel like the only way to make myself feel better is to be pregnant again. That does not mean that my lost baby will ever be forgotten, I had just planned so much on being pregnant and now I'm lost.

Also, my poor daughter has been so excited to be a big sister. She just turned 4 and had been telling everyone about it. I can't even fathom how I can tell her. One side of me wants to be honest and tell her that the baby is now up in heaven, yet another side wants to just have her keep believing there's a baby in my belly cause I know that we are going to try again soon. Those of you with older children, how did you explain your loss? She's going through a lot of changes right now (we just bought our first house and moved today away from my mother), and I can't bring myself to disturb her little heart and soul anymore.

Yikes, this is hard....so very hard!

[ohnicole]

I'm so sorry that you're having a rough time. Losses are so hard, and it is very normal to want to move forward to another pregnancy. I don't have any advice on how to best protect your daughter from the news, but I so wish you weren't going through this.

[Halfbaked]

We all know that feeling.
We didn't tell the kids so they don't know we lost anything. Every now and then, one of them will say something about wanting a baby and I just say we're working on it. I don't think your dd needs to know you had a miscarriage. If you tell her the baby is waiting to come, she won't know the difference in time and you wouldn't be lieing.
Hang in there. Time does make it easier. Just remember to take care of yourself and allow yourself to mourn.

[missy123]

My guys are all older and for the most part young adults. My oldest was in the ultrasound room with me both times that we got the bad news so my situation is different than yours.

I really like what Rebecca said, at her age she will not understand time and the best is to just be low key about it.

I understand what you mean about not being happy unless you are pregnant again. I felt the same way for over a year after our first loss. It got so bad and I got so depressed I had to go on anti-depressants. I felt like the happy life I had built for myself was over. It took a long time (again over a year) to get out of the fog of pain and be able to look around and realize I do have a lot to be happy for. But then again I am 41 and chances are slim I will have another baby.

((Hugs)) vent away in here... Howl and scream. We understand. I am so sorry.

[avasmom603]

I cannot add to the advice already given. I just wanted to give you (((((hugs)))))