[luvmykids623]

Tomorrow I go in for my 2 week post-op check up with my OB. Before they did the d&c she said they would do genetic testing to see if they could figure out why I've had 3 losses. I'm assuming she'll have some results for me, but even if she doesn't tomorrow, she will in the near future. After my first two losses I really wanted to know what happened, and as time went on I wondered what the gender of the 2 babies was. Now that I have the opportunity to try and find these things out I'm not so sure what I want to know. I don't know if I want to know the gender or if I want to know if there's something wrong. The rational side of me knows that it would be helpful to know what's going on, especially if the fix is something easy, but I'm scared. I know that it could all be unexplained, and I've prepared myself for that... but the rest, like I said, I'm scared. What would you do or what have you done?

[ldovey83]

Lori as I've been wondering these questions myself sometimes I think it is great that you have the opportunity to get answers.. I say go for it.. It might help give you some closure and get you one step closer to your sticky bean.. HUGS hun.. Hang in there!!!

[ohnicole]

Lori, it's totally up to you and what you're feeling at the moment. That said, I wonder so often if my bean was a little girl or a little boy and I wish that I could have had the testing done to find out. Whatever you decide, I hope you find some peace.

[MeganMomof5]

I felt the same way....I was into my 2nd trimester with my 2nd loss, and I told the doctor before my D&C that I wanted to know the gender...They didn't do genetic testing, but they tried to look at the baby but he said the baby wasn't in good enough condition to see ...I think knowing the gender for me, is closure...I feel like I don't have that with my 2 miscarriages, more so with the 2nd loss...Did they do any blood work on you? have you been tested for clotting disorders?

[Celena]

Lori I'm sorry that you're so confused and unsure. I would be too, very much so...

It was very similar for me with the whole RE recurrent losses testing, bw, u/s's, cycle monitoring... As much as I wanted to know, I wasn't sure I wanted to exactly know if or what was wrong. What would I do with the informations. But at the same time now after I went thru it all I'm glad I did, but it's left me with more questions, uncertainty and didn't exactly "settle" my feelings like I thought it would. However that's just me... the situation is entirely different, but the feelings are similar.

[TTCin2010]

My gut tells me my little bean was a boy. I would love to have known the gender. I would also want to know what the cause is incase its something treatable. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Karen