[luvmykids623]

I've finally gotten to the stage where I can say "I'm okay... sometimes." I had a pretty good day today until I got home from work and checked the mail. There was an envelope from the hospital that at first I thought was a survey to fill out on how my surgical experience was with them. As I was opening it I realized that I was wrong.... very wrong. I could tell from the feel of the envelope that it wasn't a survey, and when I looked inside my fear was confirmed. It was the pre-registration paperwork for L&D so that when I'm in labor I won't need to answer all those annoying insurance questions. The only thing is, I won't go into labor. My baby is dead. You would think that they would know that since I had to have a d&c in their hospital 2 weeks ago. I'm assuming that I got the paperwork because I would be in my second trimester, but there should be someone who monitors this kind of thing. I'm so tired of the insensitivity and thoughtlessness.

[avasmom603]

OMG that is horrible. I am so sorry that you had to see that.

[ohnicole]

I'm sorry, Lori

I had to have an u/s 2 months after my D&C to check for retained tissue, and when I called to schedule it, the lady said, "Okay, we can fit you in for your 20 week anatomy ultrasound next week. Isn't that so exciting?"

Insurance companies, doctor's offices, and hospitals really need to learn to get things straight. It is so hurtful when things like that pop up

I'm glad you are starting to feel like you are moving forward, though. One day at a time.

[Brittanie]

You're right, there should be someone who monitors that kind of thing. But the fact is they're two totally different areas of the hospital, who have different administrators.

Write a letter. Tell them exactly how it made you feel. Maybe that way they'll realize they should have someone who checks on things like that.


I'm so sorry that you had to deal with that honey.

[LisaG825]

I am so sorry. I kept getting things in the mail from stuff I filled out. I would say call the hospital to remind them and let them know that you aren't happy about receiving that in the mail. Maybe they will start paying closer attention.

[Servilia]

Oh that sucks. And I know how you feel I've been going to an early pregnancy clinic (deals with m/c) for my current miscarriage at the same hospital where I was scheduled to have my baby and where my NT scan was gonna be and everything.. and I got a call from them ON THE SAME DAY I WAS SCHEDULING MY D&C asking me whether I've had a chance to attend one of their pre-natal classes. My OB's office is right next door to the clinic on the same floor. I wish they were more organized so this stuff wouldn't happen to any of us.

[Joanna1127]

I've been getting a lot of emails and regular mail about cord blood banking, etc. I wish there was a way to just shout out to the world what happened. Insensitivity is so not nice! I'm sorry that happened to you.

[MeganMomof5]

(((hugs)))) I haven't gotten anything from the hospital (except bills lol), that would be upsetting

I do however get lots of mail about my baby, and reminders about how old she is etc...I even get formula in the mail too...It's so depressing.

[ldovey83]

I am sorry Lori.. Hang in there hun.. I had a friend of mine at walmart yesterday ask me if I was expecting number 2.. I looked at her and said nope that is just weight I have gained from being depressed.. I have lost 4 babies, and she must have not understood what I said or wasn't payin attention cause she said Oh that's good.. I was almost in tears...