[Servilia]

Has anyone else noticed that there seem to be a lot of commercials where they use pregnancy, especially when the woman first finds out she's pregnant? I've seen it in phone commercials, camera commercials, even car commercials!

And it might be terrible, but having suffered two losses, whenever the woman announces she's pregnant and they're both so happy, I'm like "just wait a few weeks before you let yourself be so happy".. it's not jealousy (that would be dumb, it's a commercial), but more of a feeling of pessimism mixed with some anger that I will never be that confident or carefree when getting a positive test and a feeling of unfairness that there ARE people who are that carefree. Of course it's silly, since I felt that way after my first positive test, and even after my second. But I don't think I will ever feel that way again..

I don't know why I wrote this but it's been on my mind, especially since I see these commercials EVERY DAY now.

[ashj_1218]

Honestly, I think that in real life too. And I am sure that it is some jealousy for me. I feel robbed (if that is the word I want) of that blissful ignorance where everything always goes right and loss is not a huge weight hanging over my shoulder. Have you ever noticed you can tell those who have never had a loss and those who have? Just by the way they react to their pregnancy news and how they announce it to people. I wish I was back at that place where I screamed it from the rooftops the moment the second line showed up. But I left there a long time ago. I am very glad I have not seen commercials with people announcing pregnancy. I am not ready to deal with it right in my face yet. That just feels like a slap.

[luvmykids623]

I think that way about the commercials and real life too. I always think, "you don't know if you'll be bringing a baby home." I also think, "I wish I could be that carefree and happy." I wish I could experience a pregnancy with the blissful ignorance that I never really had. With my first pregnancy we told everyone but within days I made an appt because I just didn't feel right and knew something was wrong. Then I got word that my numbers weren't doubling and shortly after that they confirmed a blighted ovum by u/s. I've noticed that you can definitely tell those that have never been exposed to a loss themselves or with loved ones and those that have.

[ohnicole]

I have seen tons of those commercials, too. They are everywhere. When I see them, there is a little bit of the "How can they be so happy without the slightest hint of fear?" but mostly for me, it just makes me sad to wonder whether I'll ever have another positive pregnancy test moment. I really hate seeing those commercials

[Brittanie]

I feel that way about any point in pregnancy. I guess, having made it to full term without the baby, I always have to think "if" instead of "when."

Like, with my brother's announcement of my SIL's pregnancy yesterday, I was really excited in my texts to them. And then I put down my phone, and said a prayer that she wouldn't miscarry.

I'm always just waiting for bad news and I hate it, but I can't help it.

[msshamis23]

This makes me glad I don't have cable. Internet is bad enough with announcing pregnancies that I don't need the tv to be producing them too. When I was pg with DD even, I didn't announce it to anyone but my ex until past the first tri. I was so worried and concerned.

As much as I want that moment of pure happiness, and joy, I'm like you ladies. I don't think I'll ever get it.