something I did today (very sad, angels and cemeteries men)

msshamis23 · #1 October 10th, 2010, 06:43 PM

After a spur of the moment trip to Wal-Mart, DH and I decided to visit the grave of a dear friend who passed away recently. We couldn't remember where exactly the grave was, (later found out since it was so new, there was not yet a marker) and we were looking at the headstones to try and find the right one.

In our search I found that over half of that section of the cemetery (it was a rather large section) were angel babies. In finding every new one more and more tears came to my eyes, and pretty soon I was downright bawling. I had never even begun to think about stuff like this. I didn't understand why God was so unfair and caused so many angel babies to be placed in the ground before their time. I had no idea that so many women in my town (it's not huge, but not tiny either) had suffered such losses. I cried for each and every one of them.

DH finally came to me, and guided me to the car. Before I knew it we were back at Wal Mart and DH purchased four dozen roses. He took me back to the Cemetery and let me place a rose on each of the gravestones of the babies, and let me cry some more. I know it's not a lot, but what DH did meant everything to me. I take back all of the frustrations I had at him earlier. He could not have done a kinder, more thoughtful thing for me, and for those babies.

It's one thing to know that we have all suffered losses, and that many many other women have as well. It's another to see it in person. To see what who loves them has done for them. I'm still crying.

I'm sorry this is too sad, and probably not completely appropriate, but I had to share it with someone who would understand my deep rooted feelings. I hope that I put the right tags in the title. If not--I apologize.

ohnicole · #2 October 10th, 2010, 06:45 PM

I'm sorry that you had such a rough visit to the cemetery. It sounds heartbreaking

But you are right, what your DH did was touching and beautiful.

.:Stace:. · #3 October 10th, 2010, 06:48 PM

What you did is so amazing. How wonderful for you to do that!!

tobi4 · #4 October 10th, 2010, 06:48 PM

What a lovely thing you and dh did today. I agree, he did exactly right today. Thanks for sharing Amy, Im feeling so much better about your earlier post now. Hes been forgiven! lol

Halfbaked · #5 October 10th, 2010, 07:56 PM

Ahh... that was actually really sweet.

Brittanie · #6 October 10th, 2010, 08:22 PM

That was really sweet. I hope one of those mothers visits and sees that. I didn't get to bury Cora, but if I had and someone placed a rose on her grave like that...I'd be so touched.

I don't think my husband would have thought of that.

msshamis23 · #7 October 10th, 2010, 08:31 PM

Thanks guys. I don't think I would have been that emotional before my loss. I would have been sad, yes--but not like I was.

The worst part about it, is that it is a fairly new cemetery. (Probably less than three years old) and there were that many there. Some got to see life for a few days, and some not at all. I just couldn't believe it. I'm really glad that DH understood as well. He didn't think I was just throwing a crying fit for nothing (you know the usual guy excuses)

I do think that it brought us closer. If he didn't realize how deeply hurt I was by our loss, he does now. He even cooked dinner for me. He never does that. I honestly was surprised he thought of it himself. I should probably give him more credit, but for the past few days i've been so frustrated with him that it's been hard. But that's over now.

LisaG825 · #8 October 10th, 2010, 08:50 PM

Very sweet of him. I am not even sure if I would have thought of something like that.

luvmykids623 · #9 October 11th, 2010, 06:24 AM

It was so wonderful of you to do that. I hope one of the Angel Mommies visit and get to see that someone other than them was thinking of their baby. Your DH did an amazingly thoughtful thing! I'm so glad that he thought to do that and helped you feel better about him with what's been going on lately.

SkyBaby · #10 October 11th, 2010, 07:28 AM

What a beautiful thing. I definitely hope an angel mommy sees that rose at her baby's grave. He is very thoughtful. Our men surprise us sometimes.

shen7 · #11 October 11th, 2010, 07:59 AM

Amy, I have tears in my eyes, this is a beautiful sad story and it is so beautiful what you and DH did. I'm so glad this experience brought you closer and let him show how much he loves you and understands. It is all so sad and so sweet at the same time. There are indeed far too many losses... how wonderful that you were able to honor some of the angels in your town...