[Joanna1127]

I just had my loss on 9/29 and am waiting for my period to arrive. My doctor said to wait 2 cycles before ttc again.

My question is, is there any actual evidence that states you should wait 2 cycles? I'm dying to get this show on the road again and I'm not sure I'll be able to hold off for 2 cycles. thoughts?

[luvmykids623]

My first loss was a natural m/c and my OB at the time told me to wait 3 cycles. I did, and was miserable the entire time. My second loss was a natural m/c and we didn't even wait for my first cycle to return. My daughter is here, and is perfectly fine. This time I had a d&c on 9/21. My OB said to wait until I got my first cycle and we could try again. Part of me doesn't even want to wait that long, but I'm not sure if there is a medical reason I have to wait because it was a d&c. I'm curious to see what everyone else has to say. I'm the type of person who heals much better when I can try again.

[Joanna1127]

yes, thats exactly how I feel. I also had a d&c and this was my first loss, so I'm new to this all.

[Halfbaked]

I had a natural mc. The ER doctor told me to wait 1 cycle, my OB told me 2 cycles. We started trying as soon as I realized I was ovulating. From what I've read, there isn't a medical reason to wait. If your body is ready, then it will happen. If it's not, then it won't.

[shen7]

I read this post and it reminded me of a response I wrote to another post a few weeks back, so I dug it up - here it is again (I just added a bit to the end):

I read recently that there's no proven medical benefit to waiting to TTC after m/c, for women in developed countries. They usually say to wait both for emotional healing reasons, and for convenience in terms of dating the next pg. In the developing world, WHO likes women to wait because they tend to have nutritional problems and need the time to get their physical strength up again.

Here's an article (note: ACOG, the organization of American OBGYNs, has no recommendations for how long to wait): Should Women Wait After Miscarriage Before Conceiving Again? - TIME

My friend's sister-in-law conceived in her first cycle after a m/c (before 1st AF), and had healthy fraternal twin boys. I know a bunch of ladies here on JM have conceived in their very first cycle after m/c (before first AF). I think if you don't have an obvious physical problem (i.e. recovering from blood loss, etc) and you feel emotionally ready, then go for it! If you had an uncomplicated D&C then that shouldn't make a difference either.

HTH!!

[ohnicole]

I agree... I haven't found a medical reason to wait. I was told 1 cycle by one doctor, and 3 cycles by another doctor. We didn't wait at all, but we also didn't get pg yet. I hope you get a BFP on whatever cycle you decide to try.

[GoldenTickets]

I had a D&C in August. My ob originally told us to wait until after the first AF. At my post-op appt I showed her the list of my cycle lengths over the last 3 years (irregular, and typically over 35 days), and she told me not to worry about waiting. She said that we may get a "surprise ovulation." She also said that one reason for waiting so just to make dating the pregnancy easier.

[Toots216]

My OB told me just to wait for my first AF - I had a natural m/c. I am going to wait until AF shows just bc I need a little break from the stress.

[MeganMomof5]

I've been told different things...After i had Ella, which wasn't a miscarriage, I was told to wait 6 months, which I didn't...Then I had a 2nd trimester missed miscarriage in April and had a D&C, and my doctor told me that I didn't have to wait...That I wouldn't get pregnant if I wasn't ready...I got pregnant just 2 months later, which ended in a miscarriage (which wasn't from getting pregnant too soon)...I had to wait this time 3 months for other reasons...but from everything I read, and everything my doctor told me, it's okay to try again right away...they like you to have a period first

[KDD]

My loss was at 10 weeks and it was a natural m/c. My Dr. told me to wait until after AF showed until we tried again. I think that they say that for dating purposes. I don't think that your body will let you get pg if it isn't ready. I would wait to TTC until you are emotionally ready to try again.

[avasmom603]

My OB told me to wait just one cycle.

[ashj_1218]

Like the others...I had conflicting advice from different sources. I was told by one doctor that there was no physical reason to wait if I was emotionally ready. I was told by another that I should wait three cycles before trying again because of the physical and emotional toll a miscarriage (with a hellacious D & C) takes. I was told by a third that I should wait until I got a period and then try again since it would be easier to date the pregnancy and my body would likely be more prepared (since it was producing and shedding a healthy lining). I didn't wait at all...and have had two chemicals in a row. I sorta wish I had waited to this point to try, simply because I don't know if those chemicals were because my body could not handle a pregnancy, kwim? But I can't go back now, and we are still trying as of now.

I would go with whatever feels right for you. Some people need time to heal. Some want to get pregnant immediately because it seems like that would make it better (I personally don't think it does, but it is a common feeling). Some can't even think about babies without losing it and need a much longer period of time to get ready to concieve again. If you know you really want to get pregnant immediately, I would try again whenever. Just be aware of your reasoning...since getting pregnant seems like it would take the grief away. But I do believe that in order to move past the miscarriage healthfully, you should allow yourself time to move through the stages of grief and properly heal before getting pregnant again. But that is my counseling psychobabble talking

[.:Shortcake:.]

I've had both natural and D&C's. My first doctor told me to wait 3 cycles, my second doctor said to wait one (for dating purposes) and my doctor now said that there is no medical reason to wait. If your body isn't ready to get pregnant it won't. Super big massive hugs hun. I know how hard it is and I don't wait anymore. I tried to after my first few losses but now I try right away.

[*~ Joni ~*]

I had a natural m/c at 10 weeks. The ER doctor (LOVED him) said there was no reason to wait. He said to continue taking the prenatals to help the body build the blood supply back up (I lost 1/4 of my overall blood supply) and that the endometrial lining would build back up in 2 weeks just like it does every month. He said if the body was weakened too much from the blood loss or if the lining was irregular this month, the body wouldn't put out an egg. "If the body is not ready to support another pregnancy, it won't release an egg."

My OB that I saw for the follow up said to wait 1 cycle, but she doesn't like to do u/s so I'm guessing she said that so we wouldn't need to do a dating u/s.

[Joanna1127]

Thanks Ladies!

I just read some of this responses to my fiance, who then says he wants to wait a little while to give my body time to heal.....argh! I want to get starting NOW! I'll have to work on him.

[tianis_mommie]

my dr just said to restrain from sex until after you stop bleeding and at least wait until your first period arrives to ttc again. but she also said that there have been woman who conceived before their period came and went on to have a normal, healthy pregnancy. She said if your body isnt ready to get preggo than it wont. They just want you to wait for your period so they can give a an EDD but thats why we have u/s these days good luck mama! hope you get your bfp soon

[MamaRN]

Ditto to the other ladies, my OB said to wait until I had stopped bleeding for sexual intercourse and to wait until a 'normal' AF returned after my m/c bleeding stopped to TTC again. We didn't wait, but it took 4 months to get PG again. I agree that if your body isn't ready it won't get PG.

I hope your DH comes around, maybe he just needs some time to grieve.

((HUGS))

[Micksbabe]

I was told that I could try right away, but I decided to wait until after my first AF just to make sure that my body was working right. Now DH is working 5 hours away from home so TTC is on hold until he gets back.

[Pitridge]

I was also told 2 cycles. I didn't want to wait that long, but I wanted my body ready to get pg, after the 3 cycles, it only took 2 cycles before I became pg with ds.

[LindseyE117]

Girl I am trying now. I am not waiting for anything. I already stopped bleeding, so why wait in my opinion.