Guilty Mummy

Jackjack · #1 October 13th, 2010, 09:11 PM

So I went to the docotors this morning as DS has this thing where he chews on everything, He's being doing it for a while but I just thought he'd grow out of it. Much to my surprise she's referred him to a paediatrician who specialises in the emotional aspects of childhood development. She thinks its an obsessive compulsive behaviour and not right at all. She thinks its related to anxiety and that he may need to see a child phsycologist

So me as a child care worker is feeling very guilty. I should've known it wasn't right and I've left it too long DH thinks that the doctor is over reacting but me I just feel terrible and cant believe I've let him down like this.
Has anybody else experienced anything like this?? Any advice??

Thanks Girls

.:Shortcake:. · #2 October 14th, 2010, 04:16 AM

HUGS! I have no advice hun but I do want to say that sometimes doctors can get you all worked up for nothing. You are a great mum and don't you ever forget that!

~LaurenNoel~ · #3 October 14th, 2010, 08:16 AM

Sorry to hear that. My mom works as a child behaviorist, and I know a lot of child psychologists (field I am in too). First off, don't feel bad. You are an awesome mom for bringing to his doctor's attention. Now you can get some help for him, and find strategies that will help him to cope better (if that is indeed what he is doing). *hugs*

Pitridge · #4 October 14th, 2010, 08:20 AM

First, YOU ARE A GREAT MOM!
No advice here, but tons of HUGS

Jackjack · #5 October 24th, 2010, 07:52 PM

Thanks girls I haven't brought myself to fill out his forms yet I hav a blubber everytime I try thankyou for your kind words tho fingers crossed he's ok n I haven't left this too long

missy123 · #6 October 24th, 2010, 08:03 PM

It is so hard as a parent when we find ourselves faced with tough decisions with our children. The first reaction is to put blame on us but really, none of this is your fault. If he has anxiety issues then you are doing the right thing and taking the first step into a treatment plan for him. It is so hard and scary all at the same time!

When my youngest (who is 15 now) was 5, his teacher said he had ADHD and needed help. I was in total denial - my child need help? He is so smart and loving... teacher is crazy... what are they talking about? It took me a year before I took him to the doctor, then a psychiatrist for help. They diagnosed him with adhd. It was so hard for me to mentally deal with that. I felt like I failed him and let him down and it was all my fault and oh my what did I do to my baby for him to be going through this? Fast forward to today. He is 15 and been on low doses of meds since the age of 6. He lives a very happy life and is an honor role student. I had to be strong and get him the help he needed and in the end it was what was best for him.

Sorry, I am rambling. Summary: If he does have anxiety issues it is ok. He will be ok because he has an awesome mom who loves him and will be his biggest advocate. ((Hugs)) You rock!

ldovey83 · #7 October 24th, 2010, 09:18 PM

Honey you are not a bad mom.. You are a great mom... Don't ever think that.. Right now I am dealing with my son having a little lisp and everyone is telling me he needs speech therapy, but I am denial over that, and I have to accept the things I cannot change, and move forward from there.. Hang in there hun..

Brittanie · #8 October 24th, 2010, 09:56 PM

At 5 years old, chewing on everything is an abnormal behavior. But, since you're not beating him, the anxiety probably stems from something that you can't control (ie: brain hormonal balance and things). So you didn't fail him! And asking his doctor about it is a good thing. Getting it under control now will be so much better than trying to deal with it as he gets older and his behaviors get more dramatic. At least with chewing on things he's not hurting himself or others.

A bad mom wouldn't care about something like this.