[Celena]

What are 3 of your most hated things or advice people "offer" or have "offered" during your TTCAL jorney?




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What are 3 of your most loved (hysterical) advice or things people have said during you TTCAL jorney?












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[ldovey83]

One thing I have been told a lot is that you will heal over time, and another one is God never gives you to much you can't handle..

One good thing I have been told is that a friend looks up to me for what I have gone through and how strong I am...

One I really hate is the one well maybe you should take a break and don't even try.. It will happen in time, and when your body has a break it will work properly..

[TTCin2010]

The number one thing I hate is just relax it will happen. My friends think I am nuts for using opks etc but none of them have struggled with if or MC


My sisters best friend said she hopes we get our baby soon bc she knows we will be wonderful parents.

The top three most hated is "Well, at least you know you can get preggo", "You can just try again", and "It was just meant to be so you have to just move on".

[Pitridge]

Hated ones "It wasn't meant to be" "there was something wrong with the baby" "you are young, you'll have more" All said by the OR nurses when I went for the d&c.
Dh, always says lets get drunk and we will get pg, it happens to college girls all the time.

[ohnicole]

The ones that really ticked me off were:

"You have to put it in perspective, it's not like it's the saddest thing that's ever happened to you." Said by my doctor immediately following the u/s where we found out about our loss.

"Are you pregnant?" Said REPEATEDLY by my mom over the last year, even though she will never ask me how I'm doing with TTC or the loss because 'that's personal.'

"Since you're starting Clomid, why don't you forget about the year and a half you've already been trying and start counting from month 1 again?" Said recently by the only friend I talk about TTC with IRL.

Favorites? Hmmm...

My aunt got pg after our loss and told my mom that she understood how hard it must be for me to hear about it. Which was so sweet.

That's about it, other than the people who restrained themselves and only said "I'm sorry that must be hard."

[Celena]

Most HATED comments or advice....
"there was something wrong with the baby"
"nature has a way of taking care of itself"
"don't stress it'll happen"
(as much as I know it has some truth, THAT is not comforting!) said by numerous idjits that haven't ever had a loss

a friend of mine didn't think about it when she said it, but had said something to the effect of another couple who hadn't tried opk's and charting that "they haven't gotten to the point of stressing over ttc" thought to myself REALLY, is that what you think of ME??

Most loved / hilarious comments or advice...

"too shy shy, hush hush IUI" DH singing his own lyrics to a song after talking about IUI
"I don't care if our baby is a hermaphrodite, as long as it's healthy" also said by DH
"I'd pee on a fire hydrant if I didn't have any opk's or hpt's" Said by a fellow TTCAL lady quiet some time ago LOL

[dreamer10]

Well, lets see....the worst has to be "Why are you so stressed? It's not like you don't already have kids..." In reference to our last loss....like that baby was no big deal...

Another would have to be, "It just wasnt meant to be"...I am tired of hearing that one.

The best of course to me is "At least its fun trying to get that baby"...yes it is...

[ashj_1218]

Let's see...my most hated ones:

"Well, maybe that was a way of saying your son was too young for you to have another" (in reference to our second loss, which had he/she made it would have been 15 months younger than our son).

"Maybe you shouldn't stress about it and you would not lose so many babies" (said by my MOTHER...and we are usually on the same page, I coulda kicked her)

And then just general "don't worry, it will happen, it was nature, etc" responses. I also hate the "you can just try again" one. That totally makes me feel like crap.

And my favorites:

"Those babies are still lucky, to have parents who remember them with such love" (my lovely grandma about our second loss)

"Do you doubt you will get pregnant again? Because I just don't see that as a reality" (sounds strange, but was really sweet in context)

"You have learned so much and that is going to make you better parents to both Liam and future babies" (again, could have been hurtful, but was not at all)