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October 27th, 2010, 10:16 AM
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Instead I sit here empty.
I think all the excitement of the wedding kept my mind off our loss, today it is hitting hard. Yuck. Why is my body acting so old when my mind and spirit are so young? Should I just give up, be honest. I can take the truth.
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October 27th, 2010, 10:22 AM
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No, I don't think you should be giving up.
I'm so sorry that today it's such a hard day for you. 
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October 27th, 2010, 10:52 AM
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I am so sorry Missy...love you!
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Our rainbow baby Brynlee Sue was born August 17th after four heartbreaking loses! Life is an amazing journey. Hang on, keep your faith and try to always move forward!
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October 27th, 2010, 11:10 AM
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I'm so sorry, Missy  I wish that we all could answer that question for you, hon... if you still feel hope in your own heart that you will hold your little rainbow baby someday, then don't stop trying! I hope that today is just a rough spot in your TTCAL journey and you feel a little more hope again soon 
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October 27th, 2010, 12:16 PM
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Missy I  love you sweetie!!!
Can I just say how excited and what a good feeling I had gotten when you said y'all were going to keep TTC???!!! I don't want to sway you from anything y'all have talked about or are planning, but something says y'all should still sorta try... but I can entirely understand not wanting to anymore (feel that way allot lately) But I always have had a good feeling for you both honey. Go with your heart of hearts
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October 27th, 2010, 01:51 PM
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(((Hugs))) I understand how your feeling  ...I honestly don't think you should give up...I don't want anyone here to give up!!! We are all going to get our babies 
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October 27th, 2010, 02:46 PM
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Thanks Ladies... I guess I am just having a bad day overall. I am just in a funk. I think I will go to bed early tonight and hopefully wake up tomorrow with a better attitude!
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October 27th, 2010, 03:43 PM
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Ahh sweetie The way I see it, I would regret not trying more than if I tried and failed. It's gonna happen. It happened before, it will happen again. Hang in there, we're all rooting for you.
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October 27th, 2010, 05:22 PM
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I'm with everyone else. Keep trying. You are only 41...
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October 27th, 2010, 05:24 PM
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I'm so sorry you're having such a rough day. That empty feeling is the worst! I would have been 16 weeks yesterday, and was down in the dumps all day. I don't think that you should stop trying at all! You keep going until you feel like you can't go any more, don't let your age dictate what you do if you're not ready to throw in the towel.
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October 27th, 2010, 05:28 PM
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I completely understand how you feel. I would have been 13 weeks now. While I have many friends posting about their pregnancy milestones, I sit here feeling completely empty, as you described.
I don't know you but I would definitely say not to give up! I know I can't wait to get back to ttc, just need my da*n period to come back now!
big hugs!
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October 27th, 2010, 07:03 PM
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Missy....you are entitled to have days like those. It comes with the territory....you need to feel sad, mad, hurt, angry, lost and empty. Those emotions come with the all the good ones...joy, happiness, faith, and so on. I think the message your baby was here to give you would be lost if you didn't allow yourself all of those emotions, the bad and the good. Think of the little person often....he/she would want you to. Sometimes that will make you sad and sometimes it will make you smile!
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The adventures of raising a big family....Life, love and family in the Sock Bin! www.thesockbin.blogspot.com
Our rainbow baby Brynlee Sue was born August 17th after four heartbreaking loses! Life is an amazing journey. Hang on, keep your faith and try to always move forward!
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October 27th, 2010, 07:45 PM
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Missy it is totally normal to feel that way... I look back on markers myself, and know that is where I should be, but instead I am empty inside.. I don't think you should give up.. Keep fighting and staying strong for that rainbow baby.. You have all of us behind you rooting for you.. HUGS hun
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October 27th, 2010, 07:48 PM
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you should not give up....hang in there 
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October 27th, 2010, 08:04 PM
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*bigs hugs* We love you Missy, and we don't want to hear about you giving up! You have your own cheering section in the stadium, and we will be rooting for you every single step of the way.
You'll get your rainbow baby. You proved it once, and you can do it again!
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~Ectopic pregnancy March 2010.
~First Cycle Since ectopic May 21st 2010
~Forever missin' our little angel.
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October 27th, 2010, 08:30 PM
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Missy, I think I understand pretty well where you are coming from. Ill be 40 in 4 months. All I can tell you is to follow your heart, be true to you. You know we all have our ups and downs through this struggle. You will spring back up again. I do have to admit, Id be sad if you gave up, simple because of a number. For me and for you, because you inspire me to keep fighting the fight. Hugs
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October 28th, 2010, 06:18 AM
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wow, thanks! You all always understand...
Thanks for always being here for me girls. I woke up feeling much better today, just had an off day yesterday.
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