I'm starting to wonder if TTC right away is such a good idea physically...

Erin84 · #1 November 10th, 2010, 09:07 AM

I still want to. Badly. But I also don't want to have a chemical or an early m/c if my body isn't ready, especially since my body carried to term... Or any other complications... I'm healing amazingly well and I look and feel great (physically), and I'm reading some things that say if you feel good enough, you're probably healthy enough, but other things are saying to wait at least a cycle or even up to a year (nonsense). IDK what to do... And I really don't get why some say to wait while others say waiting isn't necessary. I feel like I'm going to go ahead and TTC, and if it's not meant to be, then it simply won't be. Leaving it up to God I guess. Some women don't ovulate before their first period, some women drop more than one healthy egg, and some women's bodies just go back to a normal "ovulate then AF" cycle, so I figure my body will do what it wants and I'll just sit in the back seat. Part of me thinks it would be amazing if I got pregnant with twins

But because of the complications that can come with that, part of me is scared to death of that possibility. Especially since my aunt was pregnant with twins and lost them around 5 months. Sorry, I got to rambling... There's a point somewhere back in there!

Plan: Use OPKs. Get a pos? BD if I can, hopefully more than once. Never get a pos before AF? Hope for one in a couple of weeks on my CBEFM. In the meantime, take FertilAid to try and get my body back to normal.

MeganMomof5 · #2 November 10th, 2010, 09:26 AM

Erin, I talked a lot about this with my doctor when I started to TTC right away...He told me that I was fine, he did say that if I had been full term he would want me to wait a little bit, BUT he also told me that your body wont get pregnant if it's not ready...I think they tell woman to wait for emotional reasons more than for other reasons...I do know from my experiance, now that i look back in the last year that maybe I shouldn't of jumped back into TTC right away (I don't regret it, and i'd probably do it again if I had to), but I was still very much healing from the death of my baby girl, and I think the stress that I was under probably wasn't good for me...I still thought about her every moment of every day...Now a year later i'm in a much better place, and i'm hoping that when I do get pregnant again, that I won't have has much stress...Of course everyone is different, i just wanted to share my experiance with you

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Erin84 · #3 November 10th, 2010, 09:59 AM

Thank you for posting that. I wonder why he would have wanted you to wait if you'd been full-term. I agree with you and your doc though, my body won't get pregnant if it's not ready... Can I ask what a Miracle Rainbow Baby is?

MeganMomof5 · #4 November 10th, 2010, 10:09 AM

a rainbow baby is your baby after a loss...Your rainbow after the storm

mmllhh · #5 November 10th, 2010, 12:11 PM

My doc says the same thing, you aren't getting pg if your body isn't ready for it, and god forbid you mc'd, it has nothing to do with the wait. Only you can know if you are ready for it emotionally, for me that was the hardest part to get over, more so that the physical. KUP and good luck.

zkat · #6 November 10th, 2010, 02:18 PM

Erin,

My sister lost her son at 28 weeks. Her therapist and support group all said to wait for a year and the reason was for you to heal emotionally. The others have said it, your body won't get pregnant if you are not ready.

Think of it this way - how many times have you heard of siblings 11-12 months apart? TONS and the second child is just as healthy as the first one. I think this applies in your case. You did not lose Andrew because your body failed and it needs time to heal, it was a different circumstance.

ohnicole · #7 November 10th, 2010, 04:06 PM

I think that when you're ready emotionally, you're ready. Like the other girls said, if your body isn't ready, you won't get pregnant. Waiting to TTC can be so excruciating after a loss, and I don't think there's any reason to put yourself through that.

Lynley · #8 November 10th, 2010, 04:36 PM

I don't have much experience with all this, but I think the other ladies are right - the suggested wait is more for your emotional health than your physical health. Our bodies are very resilient, and if your body isn't ready, you won't get pregnant. I think we'll probably wait until AF shows up, mainly to make sure things seem to be working right, but I'd say if you feel emotionally ready, get out those OPKs and see what happens! Good luck and lots of baby dust to you!

luvmykids623 · #9 November 10th, 2010, 04:44 PM

I agree that you won't get pregnant if your body isn't ready. Most of the time the wait is for emotional reasons. For me I heal better if I'm able to just start trying again. I waited for 3 months after my first loss (my dr told me to and I didn't know any better) and it was an excruciating experience. If you feel you're ready, go for it! I wish you all the luck and baby dust in the world!

Joanna1127 · #10 November 10th, 2010, 04:50 PM

I'm going back and forth with this daily myself too! I depserately want to TTC right away and finally just got my period back. I think we're going to try and just put it in God's hands.

*~ Joni ~* · #11 November 10th, 2010, 06:15 PM

I agree with the others. Tons of

and baby dust to you

lulumama · #12 November 21st, 2010, 09:20 PM

Erin, first let me tell you how sorry I am to hear of the loss of your son. My son, Otis, was born at full term on September 12, 2010. He had a trauma in delivery and suffered catastrophic brain damage, and left us 36 hours later.

I did want to add to the discussion here that my doctor has told me to wait 6 months. He said after 4 months that it wouldn't be "a bad thing" if we were to get pregnant, but really that a body needs a minimum of that to be ready to carry another baby to term. He cited studies that show low birth weights and growth issues as well as a higher m/c rate in pregnancies that occur that soon after a full term loss. He also told me that ideally he'd recommend I wait a year, but because I am older he worries that if I wait a full year then I'd be dealing with other issues possibly, which is why he says 6 months.

Sending you many thoughts for your physical and emotional recovery.

Brittanie · #13 November 21st, 2010, 09:53 PM

Cora was 38weeks1day when we confirmed she had no heart beat. I was pregnant 5 months later with Erin, who is perfectly healthy. My doctor ordered me not to get pregnant for at least 3 months, and suggested I wait 6, but his main concern was that I had been so horribly sick throughout my pregnancy with Cora and probably would be again, and he wanted my body to build up its supply of things like calcium before being pregnant again.

In the end, only you know when you're ready. If you're a little nervous, wait another cycle or two. I know how much torture it is two wait even a month though when you want so desperately just to have a baby in your arms.

.:Shortcake:. · #14 November 22nd, 2010, 03:13 AM

I agree with the other ladies

TnPhotoMama81 · #15 November 22nd, 2010, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by zkat

Erin,

My sister lost her son at 28 weeks. Her therapist and support group all said to wait for a year and the reason was for you to heal emotionally. The others have said it, your body won't get pregnant if you are not ready.

Think of it this way - how many times have you heard of siblings 11-12 months apart? TONS and the second child is just as healthy as the first one. I think this applies in your case. You did not lose Andrew because your body failed and it needs time to heal, it was a different circumstance.

I totally agree.

If it were me, I would probably go ahead and TTC. I truly believe you won't get pregnant unless your body is ready.

I pray that you get your BFP when the time is right.