[yellowbird]

After my follow-up with my OB/GYN today, I decided I really do hate her. I asked a gazillion questions, all of which were answered coldly and briefly. I asked her why I couldn't have the testing done sooner and she had the nerve to tell me I have to wait another 6 weeks because I'm still pregnant. I think the better explanation would be that I still have the hormones in my system. Duh! I'm definitely NOT pregnant anymore. I asked her about taking low-dose aspirin when TTC and she told me with an expressionless face that it hasn't been proven to work. Just Monday, she told me that if it turns out I have a clotting disorder, she'd treat me with low-dose aspirin and maybe heparin. WTH? She even told me it's "normal" to have 2 miscarriages. I left the room feeling empty, cold, alone and defeated. Needles to say, I made my next follow-up with the other doctor in the practice, who my future sister-in-law says is great. Fingers crossed!

I'm having the testing done for sure, but I don't see any harm in trying low-dose aspirin when we TTC again. I've read a ton of success stories with the aspirin, the only thing giving me a glimmer of hope so far. Doctors don't know everything! But, I'm scared, wait...no I'm terrified. I've been advised to wait 2 months to start trying again, but the weight of defeat just washes over me and I feel so discouraged. I'm 22 years old and I refuse to give up. I'm just so stressed out.

I would really appreciate some input, some advice, anything you ladies can offer. Nobody understands what I'm going through and it's been awful.

[avasmom603]

OMG what a cold hearted B*TCH!!!!!! I would have walked out of there so fast! You definitely need to find someone else. Not only is she wrong, but she has such terrible bedside manner. I would hate for her to deliver my child Are you able to switch to someone else?

[yellowbird]

Yeah, I'm going to see the other doctor in that practice. My beloved nurse practitioner would have hugged me today.

I live in a small desert town, so my options are limited unless I travel. I really do need a second opinion.

[avasmom603]

Thank goodness you have another option. I would definitely pass along how you were treated as well.

[ohnicole]

I'm so sorry your doctor was so cold and rude... I had a similar experience with my doctor after my loss, and I have to say that for that reason alone I'm glad we moved and now I will have a different OB.

I don't think there's any harm in trying the baby aspirin, and I hope you're able to get the testing done!

[Erin84]

Be careful with the Aspirin, because it can actually make you late in ovulating or even prevent you from ovulating properly. Google it. But if you can confirm your O date and you take it for a few days post-O, then that might help!

[yellowbird]

I've heard about that, but I've read that a low-dose such as 81mg shouldn't cause any problems with ovulation. I'm not sure I should take it while TTC or once I get a BFP?

[missy123]

I know girls in here took aspirin when they got their BFP's... I have not been one of them so I can't give you any advice except to RUN away from that doctor. Like losing a baby isn't hard enough she wants to be nasty to you? I would write a letter to the head of the practice. She may be hurting others too and unless someone says something, will continue to get away with it.

[yellowbird]

The head of the practice is the other doctor I'll be seeing next time. Trust me, I plan on complaining one way or another. I'm a big believer in seeing the nurse practitioner(s) whenever possible, they care about you and treat you holistically.