Thought I might join here...

TnPhotoMama81 · #1 November 21st, 2010, 06:50 PM

Hi everyone,

I figured I would join in here. I am Melissa (29) and my husband is Jeremy (25). We have a 2 year old, Ethan. We waited a year to ttc after the c-section I had with him so I could attempt a VBAC for our second one. We got pregnant this past Feb/March and then I had a miscarriage in April (04/21/10). My due date would have been tomorrow, 11/22

We have been ttc pretty much since we had our loss. I honestly thought it would have happened sooner than this because we got pregnant so easily the first two times.

I still cry a lot about our loss and I wish I had more to remember our baby with. I called my doctors office on Friday about getting the ultrasound photo from when we found out our baby did not have a heartbeat. It was the only ultrasound we had (at our first appointment) and I almost hate myself for not getting it at our appointment. I was so distraught though and at the time I was not really sure about having it. The receptionist pretty much told me that legally they cannot give me an original copy out of my file

They are supposed to call me back tomorrow after they talk with the medical records dept. They said they could give me a photo copy but I don't want a photo copy. It was MY baby so I don't understand but whatever. Hopefully they will be able to help me.

Anyway, didn't mean to go off about all that

Thanks for having me here.

Brittanie · #2 November 21st, 2010, 07:36 PM

Hey Melissa!

I do know that in most places legally the dr's office owns the records, not you. I don't see why that means they can't give you the original, especially now that enough time has passed that you would have been due already. I hope they get it figured out for you.

I also hope you get a sticky bfp soon!

dreamer10 · #3 November 22nd, 2010, 04:38 AM

I am so sorry about your loss. You are welcome here. There are some amazing ladies here and you will feel loved, understood and welcome here! Sorry again.

Erin84 · #4 November 22nd, 2010, 09:30 AM

We'll be in it together

Welcome to TTCAL, hope your stay is short <3

ohnicole · #5 November 22nd, 2010, 10:03 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss

Could your doctor's office scan the u/s photo onto their computer and give you a digital version? I also went back after my loss to request a photo from our u/s where we found out our baby was gone. It did help me to have it, and I hope you're able to get it.

TnPhotoMama81 · #6 November 22nd, 2010, 10:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brittanie

Hey Melissa!

I do know that in most places legally the dr's office owns the records, not you. I don't see why that means they can't give you the original, especially now that enough time has passed that you would have been due already. I hope they get it figured out for you.

I also hope you get a sticky bfp soon!

Thanks Brittanie

I hope so too.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Erin84

We'll be in it together

Welcome to TTCAL, hope your stay is short <3

Thanks Erin

I really hope we both get a BFP soon.

Quote:

Originally Posted by ohnicole

I'm so sorry for your loss

Could your doctor's office scan the u/s photo onto their computer and give you a digital version? I also went back after my loss to request a photo from our u/s where we found out our baby was gone. It did help me to have it, and I hope you're able to get it.

I just called the Dr.'s office again and the receptionist said she gave a note to my doctor about it and they are going to see if they still have the images on the u/s machine if they cannot give me originals. I did also ask if they have a photo scanner but she said she wasn't sure if medical records had one or not. I am pretty much just waiting on the nurses to call me back and let me know what the doctor says about the photos. If there is no luck there I will try and find out if they have a scanner.

Thanks for the suggestion!

*SamF* · #7 November 22nd, 2010, 11:33 AM

I'm sorry about your loss, and hope the doctors office can get you a copy of that u/s.

Welcome to TTCAL! Hope your stay is short!

*~ Joni ~* · #8 November 22nd, 2010, 11:38 AM

I'm sorry you're here though. I hope your stay is short

TnPhotoMama81 · #9 November 22nd, 2010, 12:53 PM

Thanks everyone.

Heard back from the Dr. They cannot give me originals and do not have a scanner. So I am stuck with photo copies.

I really wish I would have gotten the originals when I had a chance. This really stinks.

*Tracy* · #10 November 22nd, 2010, 01:15 PM

sorry to hear about the scan

i really hope u get a bfp soon

Pitridge · #11 November 22nd, 2010, 01:55 PM

I'm sorry about your loss....I wish the doctor office could do more to get you the picture...I'm sorry you are getting just a photocopy of the picture

ohnicole · #12 November 22nd, 2010, 03:21 PM

I'm sorry

That stinks that they can't get you the picture. Would they let you take a picture of the original, it might turn out better than a photocopy. I don't know, I wish I could figure out a way for you to get that picture!

TnPhotoMama81 · #13 November 22nd, 2010, 04:00 PM

I thought about going in and taking a photo of it myself but the nurse made me feel like crap for even asking about the pics.

After I finally gave in to the photo copies she actually asked me (with a tone) "Why do you want them?".

:/ Why does it matter why I want them! I felt weird about calling about them in the first place and then to have someone ask me why I wanted them made me feel like something was wrong with me.