[HopefulMommy81]

Hi ladies!
So I had a follow-up appt with my OB yesterday because he had put me on Zoloft my last appt- I felt like I eeded something to help me get through October (my EDD) and the holidays. Good news is the Zoloft seems to be working and I actually am on half the dose now. I'm planning on taking it through the holidays and then hopefully stopping in early January. My OB said if I get pg while on it it's OK.
So we discussed a little bit more another pregnancy- this is the first time we could really discuss it because every other appt since having Matthew I've been too emotional and could barely speak. I love my OB but I'll admit walking into his office is hard- not only seeing pregnant women but just remembering being there and getting bad news about Matthew and then being told I needed to be induced and not to expect him to make it. Anyways, we discussed that all of mine and DH's genetic tests came back normal and that really there's no explanatation for what happened with Matthew. For those of you who don't know, the short version is that I apparently broke my water between 17 and 18 weeks without realizing it (I had bladder issues so sometimes urine leaks so I must have thought amniotic fluid was urine) and I was induced at 23 weeks due to an impending uterine infection. After multiple doctor's visits, we had known that no matter when Matthew was born, he would not survive due to undeveloped lungs due to the lack of amniotic fluid. Anyway, my OB mentioned that he discussed me with the perinatologist and they are debating whether to recommend a cerclage for me for my next pregnancy. I didn't show any signs of an incompetent cervix (it stayed apparently closed and long) but apparently it could have been the case anyways? However, apparently a risk of that procedure can be weakening the amniotic membrane. Basically, my OB said that I should research it and discuss it with DH and then we can discuss it more later with my OB- my next appt will probably be when I get a BFP.
I've been thinking about my appt since yesterday and it's stressing me out even though I'm not pg yet. Anyone have any similar experiences or suggestions where to research? I just needed to vent ladies- thanks for reading!

[ohnicole]

I'm glad that your OB is giving you a heads up on what decisions you'll have to make once you get your next BFP. I don't have suggestions on where to research, but I just wanted to give you hugs and wish you luck!

[Joanna1127]

Hello,

So sorry to hear about the loss of your son. I also dont have any further info about that, but your doctor sounds like a great one.

hugs!

[missy123]

I would suggest the TTC with medical assistance board. Brandi got a cerclage on Friday last week and a few of the ladies have had them inserted for various reasons and gone on to have their babies. They may be able to help you out there.

[LvdL]

I don't have any advice, but I'm new to the board, and just wanted to say that I am so sorry for your loss... the picture in your signature just breaks my heart, and I wish you peace and healing.

[Erin84]

I never knew the story behind what happened with Matthew -- I'm sorry you guys had to go through that pain Like the others, nothing to really offer, just wanted to say that I'm glad things are moving forward for you and that your OB is willing to 1) pursue multiple avenues, and 2) give you the power to make your own decisions instead of taking that away and just telling you what "should be done." I can't wait to see a BFP post from you

[Pame£a]

I know it's so hard not to worry after such a loss but I would try and find some comfort in the fact that your ob is suggesting preventative measures. I know in Brandy's case, she asked for a cerclage with Evan and it was refused. I understand it is worrying because you don't want to pose any risk at all to your baby. Def check out ttc with medical assistance and maybe even the high risk board.

I'm so sorry you lost baby Matthew and I hope you get pregnant quickly hun.

[luvmykids623]

I don't have any advice, but I wanted to offer ((((HUGS)))). I'm glad that your doctor is giving you options. I agree with trying the Medical Assistance board.

[Halfbaked]

Try asking over on the high risk pregnancy board. I know there are a bunch of ladies that had declares. I'm glad you got some answers and at least have options now.

[MeganMomof5]

I don't have any advice, but i'm glad your OB sounds like he's on top of everything! I hope you make the best desison for you, and you get your BFP soon!!!

[ldovey83]

Jackie I am so glad that your OB is being so great and giving you options.. I don't really know much on your options, but I think the TTCW medical assistance might can help you out.. I am so sorry about what you have been through, and I pray that God blesses you with your rainbow baby very soon.. Many Many hugs hun..

[.:Shortcake:.]

I don't really have any advice but I am glad your OB is staying ahead of the game and has a game plan for you. I agree with Missy the ladies at TTC w/ MA have had them done before! Hugs!

[*SamF*]

Ditto to the others on TTC w MA.

Hope you get your BFP soon!!