[KCMomma]

Hello, I'm new to this board. I tested at 10DPO with BFN then at 14DPO and no AF, I tested and got a faint positive with FRER so I was excited so I held my pee and tested again with FRER and that was negative. So, I waited till the next morning 15DPO with a DIGI and it clearly said PREGNANT! So I was so excited. Then this morning 16DPO I tested again (because I'm obsessive like that) and it was stark white...then comes the dark brown spotting and now bright red. My boobs no longer hurt either, so I'm assuming this is a miscarriage right? I feel silly being so upset, but my hopes were so high and I was so excited. I called the on call doc at my OBGYN and they were super nice but basicaly said that there was nothing they could do and I would only need to see them if my bleededing was excessive or lasted longer than a week.

I'm just so confused. I am now questioning if I ever was pregnant, but I had a lot of symptoms and AF never came (till now anyway). I've had no experience with a loss and am just left so confused and heartbroken. I know I only had 1 day to get used the idea that I was pregnant but I'm still so heartbroken. I guess I just needed to vent a little.

[ohnicole]

I'm so sorry that this happened to you I wish your doctor's office was more helpful, but the girls here are great. I hope they can give you some support.

[.:Shortcake:.]

Hugs! A loss is a loss no matter how long you knew you were pregnant. The ladies here are wonderful and if you have any questions please feel free to ask. Welcome to the board and I hope you get a sticky BFP soon!

[Micksbabe]

I am so sorry to see you over here Gwen

[KCMomma]

Thanks girls. I'm just so heartbroken and confused. I'm going to call my doctor tomorrow morning and see if I can get in. I just want some answers ya know? Like, I was prego right? I wouldn't have had those symptoms and a positive digi test if I wasn't right? And I'm sure this is a miscarriage, but sometimes if a doc confirms it then it makes more sense. I just have known a ton of people that had bleeding and still went on with the pregnancy, but then why did I get a negative test this morning and my symptoms have now been replaced with cramps...UGH. I guess I just need to hear it from my doctor, but I'm just so upset..I was 4 weeks 5 days....

Oh and Megan, please don't say anything on FB, I haven't told anyone! Thanks.

[Servilia]

I'm sorry. It does sound like you were pregnant. Your doc is right, there would be nothing they could do to save the pregnancy (and they won't be able to tell you why it happened unless they do extensive testing which docs won't do after one miscarriage), but if they give you a hard time, tell them you want a beta to be sure so that you have it for your records that you were in fact pregnant. But get in soon before your beta goes back to negative!
(((HUGS)))

[KCMomma]

Thanks Judy. I guess I just want to talk to MY doc so she knows and its on record, God forbid this happen again.

Will I bleed for a long time? Also, is it OK to continue TTC this coming cycle?

[Servilia]

HI Gwen, since it was so early I don't think you'll bleed very long. With my first m/c that happened at 6 weeks, it was just like a regular period so I would expect the same for you. And there's no reason you shouldn't TTC right away this next cycle.

[KCMomma]

Thanks so much. My eyes hurt from crying all day...and of course I had to come to work...I work with all men...UGH!

[ThankingGOD4my2girls]

Lurking, I am so sorry that you are going through this. I lost a baby at 6 weeks also and I started losing the baby the day I found out I was pregnant. Even though I had only known for a few hours it still hurt. I was devistated. I bled for 25 days and it took 18 days for my HCG levels to go down. They kept going up so the Dr's thought I was still pregnant but I wasnt. It was hard waiting 18 days to finally have an answer. The Dr told me that I needed to have 2 cycles before TTC again but I only waited one.

[asunflower]

Sounds like a chemical pregnancy. You were in fact pregnant and still may have some HCG in you at this time. I have had this happen 4 times. Have you started to bleed like a period? That will happen and since you were so early, it should be just like a normal period and then you can TTC again next month for sure. But I would get a Beta checked just to be sure. Good luck!

[TTCin2010]

Sorry for your loss

[TnPhotoMama81]

I am so sorry. I hope the doctor can give you some answers <3 Hugs! We are here for you.

[luvmykids623]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree that it sounds like a chemical pregnancy. I hope you're able to get in to see your dr. The ladies here are awesome! I hope you find comfort here.

[Joanna1127]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[KCMomma]

Thank you ladies so much. Yes, after I read more about a chemical pregnancy that is exactly what it sounds like. Yes, I started bleeding today, like a normal flow for a first day of a period. Much more cramping than normal. Not double me over in pain cramping, but more than normal that's for sure. I do feel silly about being so upset, but you girls have made me feel better so thanks for that. I get what you are saying about my HcG levels, but wouldn't they be low or back to normal if I'm getting negative HPT?? I'm still gonna try and see my doc (I love her) tomorrow just for some peace of mind. Again, thanks for understanding ladies. I'm just plain heartbroken.

How do you move past?

[missy123]

It doesn't matter if you are pregnant for 5 minutes or 40+ weeks the pain of loss is real. The minute we see the + pregnancy test our whole worlds change. A love we never thought enters our hearts and our minds look forward to the future with our baby.

I am sorry for your loss. Time helps but there will always be a void where your baby should be. It hurts and it is hard for others to understand unless you have been through it. ((Hugs)) We are here for you.

[KCMomma]

Originally Posted by missy123

It doesn't matter if you are pregnant for 5 minutes or 40+ weeks the pain of loss is real. The minute we see the + pregnancy test our whole worlds change. A love we never thought enters our hearts and our minds look forward to the future with our baby.

WOW, I couldn't have said it better. The sucky part it, I would have been due on my friends wedding (which I'm in) so now I will have to remember that every year on their anniversary... But the upside to that (if there is such a thing) is that now I can definitely be IN the wedding. Trying like heck to find a positive in this crappy situation.

Again, thank you girls for understanding. I hate that I have to join this board, but thanks for being so supportive.

[*Tracy*]

so so sorry

[ashj_1218]

I am so sorry you are going through that pain. As the other's said, it doesn't matter that you only knew for one day...that time was enough to be attached. There are many of us on this board who know what chemical pregnancies feel like (I have had three in a row now) and they hurt just like any other loss. It is good you can go see your doc for some peace of mind. They will likely keep a record of it, especially if they draw blood and get a level. If it happens a few times, they might send you to a specialist. Mine just did after four miscarriages, the last three being just like you had. YES, you were pregnant and YES you are experiencing a loss. There is not so much you can do to move past it. Just weather out the days and it gets less hard to deal with. It never goes away, but you feel a little more at peace and more hopeful to try again. There is no reason to wait to try again and you should not bleed much more than a typical period.