[Halfbaked]

I just need to get everything off my chest and since I feel more comfortable here than anywhere else, I hope you all don't mind me complaining.

My DH still has no job. He hasn't heard anything back on a third interview he had. He got a call for a contact position they want him to interview for but it doesn't offer any benefits. I currently still have insurance from my DH's old job and will have it until the end of December. So I have been SUPER sick this week. First a sore throat that lasted 4 days, then congestion, runny nose, now a sinus headache and today a splitting ear ache. I also started spotting again but I'm hoping it's just from coughing so hard today. I called my OB who I am beginning to really hate, and tried to just see someone since my copay is $30. They told me I couldn't be seen until tomorrow by someone else. When I explained that I couldn't wait until tomorrow, they informed me that I should just go to a clinic. I could do that, but then I'd end up paying $50 plus 25% of the bill.

On top of that, I spent the day driving all over the place trying to apply for financial aid for some past medical bills. They told me instead of waiting for them to mail me everything, that I should go into the hospital and talk to them. When I went in there, they had no idea why I was there and couldn't help me. So tonight, we get a call from them saying we need to make a payment today or they will be sending it to collections.

I just can't believe any of this is happening. I was so sad when I miscarried and then when I had a chemical but now that I'm pg, I can't even enjoy it. I can't even look for a different OB because I don't know what insurance, if any, we'll have. All this right before Christmas. If a miracle doesn't happen, we won't have a Christmas.

I'm just so anxious I can hardly sleep. All this crying can't be good for things either. If you read all of this, thanks. I just need to talk to anyone that understands.

[BeccaM]

Rebecca Im so sorry you are going thru all this. Is there Medicad in the state you are in? Could you possibly get on that now that DH is out of a job. I know it sometimes takes a while but maybe get it started now and by the end of Decemeber it will be started. Could you also see your GP for the illness. Im not sure what you could take but maybe they could offer something. Things will look up soon and you will get your Christmas miracle. We are here for you and you can vent anytime you need to. HUGZZ!!!

[ohnicole]

Rebecca, I'm so so sorry that you guys are going through this right now I don't really have any advice for you, but I hope that things work out quickly so you can relax a little and have an amazing Christmas and enjoy your pregnancy. I really wish that things were going better for you right now. I'm always here if you need to talk or vent or anything

[Brittanie]

Ugh, I'm sorry honey. This is such a stressful time of year anyway. I'll be praying for a little miracle for you.

[ahawkin2]

I am so sorry that you are going thru this right now.....be patient and things will get better just when you least expect it....try to stay positive for that baby growing inside you....

[missy123]

Originally Posted by ahawkin2

I am so sorry that you are going thru this right now.....be patient and things will get better just when you least expect it....try to stay positive for that baby growing inside you....

I agree!

Just when you think things can't get any worse they get better. (I know)

[StaceygirlPa]

Rebecca, I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. I know it is very hard to try to keep thinking postive thoughts when everything is happening. You have to take care of yourself and the little baby growing inside of you. They say holidays are always stressful. I pray that things start to look up for you and your family soon. You know we are all here for you. Sending lots of hugs your way.

[*SamF*]

I'm so sorry Rebecca! I'm hoping for a miracle for your family!!

[mom2moose]

I live in Michigan and we have Medicaid. They do NOT turn down pregnant women. Ever!!! Not sure where you live, but it's something to look into too. Because the baby is what matters! And to have a healthy baby, you have to have a healthy mama too! Good luck! I know money problems suck!!

[Pame£a]

I'm so sorry hun. Is there a way you could explain your situation to the hospital to make reasonable payments until you dh is back at work?

We've had some rough times too and we've been fortunate to sell stuff on ebay or online sites to get money in for Christmas shopping.

I know it's hard hun but God will see you through, just hold tight. My dh is out of work right now too, was let go illegally and we had to get an attorney on it. Thank goodness we won but what a battle to finish it.

You know you're in my prayers hun. hugs

[Halfbaked]

Thank you all. I have already applied for Medicaid. After them telling me I had to take in birth certificates and immunization records for all my kids, they then told me I didn't need them because they could have looked it all up. Then today I got a denial letter because they are saying I didn't send proof that 2 of my kids are in school. What proof could I use and why only for my 1st and kindergartener? I'm just so frustrated and my ear is killing me.

I'm just so tired of people making it so hard the one time we ask for help.

[dreamer10]

Rebecca....where has your hubby looked for a job? My hubby might be able to help. I know your just north of us...pm me and lets talk a bit. I know how stressful it can be this time of year and with all thats going on with you I can only imagine your stress level. I too spend many an hour at night worrying, worrying where christmas will come from, where food will come from, etc. Since were so close to each other, lets talk and see what we can do for you...ok?

[Pitridge]

Rebecca...I'm so sorry you are going through this and specially now with the holidays coming and you bean nicely growing in there.
It really sucks that the world works that way that it does. The people that need help the most to get by for a while are the ones that don't get the help and the ones that don't need the help but wanted just because is there get it without a problem.
I hope everything turns out ok, be positive for the baby, have faith that everything will get solved.
Julie, I think it's wonderful that you are willing to help, you are a great person.

[.:Shortcake:.]

*HUGS* I am so sorry your having to go through this! I know especially with the holidays it has to be even harder for you right now. Things will get better soon. Stay strong hun!

[KDD]

I'm so sorry Rebecca. I can't imagine the stress that you must be under right now. It's bad enough with your DH out of work but the thought of losing your benefits too would keep me in bed all day! I agree with the other ladies, there has to be some sort of solution for this. Keep trying medicaid - it sounds to me like you talked to someone who is very grouchy and maybe you should try someone else. Are there any other groups that could help you out? I'm not familiar with the US medical or aide benefits so I can't be of too much help.

I hope that everything gets sorted out ASAP!

[Erin84]

Rebecca, your family doesn't deserve this, especially not right now. It breaks my heart that all these things are going on that make it so difficult for you to try and enjoy a time in your life when you should be able to just sit back and be thrilled. I don't have any advice to offer, just wanted to say that I'm here, I hear you, and I'm praying things get better soon

[ohnicole]

Rebecca, I'm sorry that the Medicaid paperwork is such a pain I hope that it gets worked out soon

[GoldenTickets]

I'm sorry you are going through all of this Rebecca. Can a school counselor or social worker write a letter for you, verifying that your kids attend school? Have you appealled your decision to the Medicaid office yet? That's the best thing you can do. Hand deliver it (along with the school letter, if possible), and hopefully your local Medicaid office will give you a receipt verifying they received all the information. This way they cannot claim that they never received it. By appealing, instead of applying again, they may be able to make the coverage retroactive to your initial date of application. Sometimes they will even cover unpaid bills for a few months prior to the date of application. (This is what occurs in my state, at least).

Navigating the Medicaid system is so difficult. Sometimes it helps to find an agency/person that can guide you along... and they may know about additional programs you would be eligible for. Are you from Utah? (I am guessing this from Julie's post). It looks like Utah has Help Me Grow, which is an agency that supports families and kids... Help Me Grow agencies around here can assign case managers to eligible families, and I think they assist the family get the help they need. Help Me Grow Utah

I'm sorry you have walking pneumonia, a sinus infection and an ear infection... Hopefully everything gets figured out soon!

[Halfbaked]

Thanks Golden. I think I've found something else that may work. They have a Baby your Baby program here that gives you a temporary medicaid card until you get actual medicaid coverage. I tried applying online but it wouldn't work so I'm going to call them tomorrow or maybe just walk in with my letter saying I'm pregnant and see what can be done. I stopped back over to the work force services today and demanded to actually talk to my case worker. Instead, I got put in a room with a telephone. I got my case workers voice mail so I left a message. I also had someone give me her direct line so tomorrow I'm going to call her again, and again, and again. I may end up just applying all over again. The thing that is messing this all up is that my youngest is on SSI because she was so premature. Because of that, she has medicaid coverage. It's that that has them so confused.

I'm also going to call around tomorrow and find a new OB. I've decided I don't care that this one has an ultrasound machine. I hate the Nurse midwives that work there and I need a practice that has more than one doctor in it. Wish me luck.

Thank you everyone for just letting me vent. I feel better now. Maybe it's the antibiotics I'm on

[StaceygirlPa]

Rebecca, I things work out for you when you call the A Baby your Baby program. tomorrow. Hopefully you can get through to your case worker. Good luck with finding a new OB. I know how important it is to fine a doctor that you really like and trust. Sending lots of hugs your way.