[CherryTrue]

I had a "missed abortion" December 2, 2010. Had my d&c that afternoon. My husband is wanting to try and conceive again right away, and I have some mixed feelings. I really want another child, my oldest and only is almost 12 now. But I am now also scared to have another loss if I get pregnant again.

We have both been told by a few different people that I am very fertile right now and for the next couple months, and this is one reason why my husband wants to try to conceive, as it took us 17 months to get pregnant this last time.

I am just wondering if anyone out there knows much at all about this information people has passed onto us, about my being more fertile right now.

[j&jmom]

I've heard that too, but my dr. strongly suggested I wait one cycle . . . I didn't listen, but I didn't get pg either.

[*Tracy*]

i had a d&c just over 5 weeks ago and have got a bfp today, the last d&c i had 2.5 year ago i got pregnant on the 2nd cycle after and had my beautiful son

[purplelady]

i had a natural mc on the 5th of this month, mine was also a missed mc. my midwife told me that yes it is advised to wait but that plenty of women get pg right away with no issues, and that she thinks it is completely up to us to decide when we are ready. but to make sure that we are both emotionally ready. we decided to try right away. i think it is normal to worry about another loss, but in reality i think you will worry regardless of how long you wait to ttc again. after going through a mc i think that one will always have that lurking fear. another reason hubby and i are trying so soon is it also takes us a long time to conceive, so we figure this may give us a better chance at conceiving faster. is your fear of another loss stronger than your desire to conceive again? if so then wait until you feel more ready, if not then go for it. best of luck to you hun.

[CherryTrue]

Thanks Everyone. And sorry for your loss. I do believe my desire to conceive again is stronger than my fear of loss. I, as well as my husband, really want a child/children together, as my son is not biologically my husband's. I just get these feelings now and then that I shouldn't try again right now, like it seems wrong or something? But then other times I have these strong feelings that I want to just go on with it, and ttc right now. I do have the fear of losing again, but I also know that many women have lost and then went on to have happy and healthy babies. I am truly hoping to be one of the lucky ones and will be able to do so. Right now, everything is still kind of fresh, so I have alot of mixed thoughts/feelings from day to day... heck even from hour to hour sometimes. Thanks Everyone for you replies.

[purplelady]

HUGS hun i completely understand. mine is still so fresh also. some days for me i feel like i am disrespecting their memory by ttc so soon. like i didnt grieve long enough. but i cant let myself drown in my sadness over it, i grieve every night, but if i let myself grieve and not move forward i will find myself in a deep depression as i get depressed so easily. ok dont think im crazy but i talk to them and explain why i want to ttc so soon and how much i will always miss them and that seems to help me. hugs!!!!!!!!!

[CherryTrue]

HUGS back. I don't think you are crazy, I do the same thing! Like I am looking for answers or a response or something. And how you explained your feelings/thoughts is pretty similar to mine. I have my good days and bad days, which I am sure is normal. Hoping everyone is right, that it does get easier as time goes by... it's definately a hard loss.

[lindsey2000k]

My DR said they have never done any studies on if it is true or not true if you are more fertile. he said he has seen it go both ways.
As for me I never had a problem getting pregnant the last 3 times and now I am on cycle number 3.

[missy123]

I am so sorry for your loss. ((Hugs)) I understand the "hour to hour" way of life! A loss is so painful. Have you told your husband how you feel? That you are just not ready yet?