[Jessica121706]

Hi everyone my name is Jessica (23) DF is Adam and we have 1 dd Sara (4). On Nov 9 I had an abortion at 15 weeks because my baby was diagnosed with severe downs syndrome and a bad heart. I barely could stand the thought of losing the little one then but I knew it was for the best of the baby and my family. Right now df and i are ntnp but I think I am ready for more, DF on the other hand is terrified that we would have to go through another loss. I want nothing more than a baby.

[missy123]

That must have been such a hard decision to make. I am very sorry you went through that. Where are you getting married? In PA or outside the state?

TTCAL is hard and you are welcome to hang out here even if you are going to take some time off and wait.

[StaceygirlPa]

I am so sorry you had to make that decision. This is a great board to hang out on.

[asunflower]

Welcome to the board. There is great support here!

[mafiamom]

what a hard decision that must have been. glad you found your way here. hope your stay is short and sweet

[Pame£a]

I'm so sorry, no mother should ever be put in that position.

My baby boy Elijah was born sleeping. Found a very large cystic hygroma at 10 weeks that extended into his chest. Had a cvs and found out at just over 12 weeks that he had down syndrome. I had an apt at 18+5 weeks and it was over, I was induced and he was born sleeping at 19 weeks. Although he had full T21, they would never be able to tell how severe his T21 would be until well after he was born. How did your doctors know how severe your baby's was? I've not come across this kind of testing but am interested.

I pray that this doesn't happen again because it would have been a very hard life for him. I know our risk is automatically 1% due to recurrance and to me that is such a small number. My dh and I have talked alot about the what if's if it happens again and we are prepared.

PS, I'm from Pittsburgh! Carrick, but have been living in England for the past 4 years.

[Shadeauxe]

Really sad that you had to make a choice like this. I am a strong believer in things working out for the best, so hopefully you won't have to wait very long for what you want.

[*SamF*]

I'm so sorry you had to make that hard decision, and so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board, there is a lot of support here.

I lost a baby in October to Trisomy 18 which is similar to Downs (more severe) the choice was taken out of my hands, but I can understand the pain you went through deciding what to do. I think I ran across some of your posts when you were going through it.

[dreamer10]

I am sorry about your loss. Welcome to the board and hope you find peace and comfort here with those of us who have also suffered loss....

[j&jmom]

I have a friend with a teenage daughter that had a daughter born with down syndrome and holes in her heart. Trying to keep her pregnancy a secret, she didn't go to the doctor for a long time, so she didn't find all this out until much later in her pregnancy. However, she is now pg again by the same father and due any day. This pg they said everything is looking good for her to have a healthy baby girl. I don't know what the statistics are, but just because it happened once, doesn't mean it will happen again. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you get the same success story.

[Kary♥RN]

HUGS... I can't even begin to put myself in your shoes... What a heart breaking choice. I am so sorry for your loss, HUGS... Welcome to TTCAL... Your journey here will be hard, the anxiety, the want.. we all know what you are going through!!! We will be here for you... HUGS!

[TnPhotoMama81]

I am so sorry you had to make a choice like that How heartbreaking. I hope your stay here is short.

[Jessica121706]

Thanks for all the warm welcomings...I have trouble expecting them because it is such a contraversial decision. Can't wait to get to know you all better

[missy123]

Originally Posted by Jessica121706

Thanks for all the warm welcomings...I have trouble expecting them because it is such a contraversial decision. Can't wait to get to know you all better

Really? Anyone that judges you should look closely at themselves. As a mother and a person I just can't imagine the torture you went through to make your decision. ((Hugs)) You went through a loss just like the rest of us.

[JessP]

I hope you are able to get a healthy sticky bean quickly. Welcome to the board. I remember you from the pregnancy loss board. I would be surprised if people here were negative towards you. Everyone is so supportive.

[Jessica121706]

@ jessp everyone on jm has been amazing towards my decision it is close friends and family that are judgemental

[Pame£a]

I have a feeling they've not been in your shoes and personally, I would just have to tell them it's not their place to make comments or judge you. I don't know if you're Christian but that is something between you and God and nobody else.