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January 1st, 2011, 06:25 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Hi ladies! My name is Caitlin. DH and I started ttc in February 2010. I got my bfp the day after Thanksgiving and the miscarried on December 10th. I had a natural miscarriage but when I went to the er one of the nurses treated me like it was my fault even though the doctor told me that there was nothing I could do. I have been absolutely devastated and have had a really hard time. I thought I would at least be pregnant by now. I went to my ob the Monday after the miscarriage where he checked and told me that I was in fact miscarrying. He said that I have what he thinks is a pregnancy cyst on my right ovary and that we should wait two to three months to start ttc again. How long did you ladies wait to start trying again? Do I need to wait the alloted time?
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January 1st, 2011, 07:20 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Welcome! I'm so sorry for your loss. 
I had my loss at the end of September and when I stopped bleeding, we began trying. I'm in my second cycle, almost beginning the 3rd. As far as what I've researched and heard on here, it really depends on the doctor as far as how long to wait. Sending you lots of BFP dust!!
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January 1st, 2011, 08:05 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I'm so sorry for your loss
There are lots of different opinions on when to start trying again. Some doctors say immediately, some say after one cycle, and some say after 3 cycles. I think that whenever you are emotionally ready to start trying, you should feel okay doing so.
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January 1st, 2011, 08:18 PM
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It's me
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My doctor said to wait one cycle so that know how to date everything and for the hcg to go to 0. Sorry you got a crappy nurse.
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January 1st, 2011, 09:18 PM
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POAS Queen
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I carried Drew to term and was told that we could start trying again as soon as we were emotionally ready. I've read anything from right away to a year for a full-term pregnancy. And for early miscarriages I've heard right away to three months. I pretty much figure that as long as I eat right, take my vitamins, and exercise -- basically, take care of myself -- that my body will get pregnant when it's ready to handle it.
I'm sorry you find yourself here, but we're a pretty awesome group if I do say so myself  I look forward to getting to know you. I'm so sorry you have a little one in Heaven instead of on earth.
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(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
^^ Click graphic for chart ^^
 
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January 2nd, 2011, 07:25 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Thank you ladies for the warm welcome and for your advice. I am sorry for all of your losses.
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January 2nd, 2011, 08:21 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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A nurse really made you feel like it was your fault? OMG... Let me at him/her! Like losing a baby isn't hard enough and we don't blame ourselves enough unnecessarily... Uggggg sorry but that just irked me.
I am sorry for your loss. We understand how hard all of this is and we are here for you. ((Hugs))
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January 3rd, 2011, 03:32 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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HUGS! I am very sorry for your loss. I cannot believe a nurse did that. How horrible. Do NOT let them ever make you feel that way. As far as when you can try again like the other ladies said most doctors say to wait anywhere from 1-3 cycles. My doctor wanted me to wait 1 but told me there is not medical reason as to why you have to wait. If your body isn't ready it won't get pregnant. HTH!
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January 3rd, 2011, 03:47 AM
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Sorry for your loss. I can't believe a nurse said that to you. My doctor told me to wait one cycle but we are trying again.
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January 3rd, 2011, 05:51 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I am so sorry for your loss.
How crappy they made you feel that way. Not like you are not already in enought pain.
And your DR is right there is probably nothing you did to make it happen. I mean there are people smoking crack and able to carry a baby to term why can't we?
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January 3rd, 2011, 07:26 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I'm sorry for your loss! And really sorry you got such a crappy nurse!
Welcome to the board though.
I have never waited after a natural m/c. I did wait one cycle (technically) after my D&C- pr at least till my period came back.
My suggestion is when you are emotionally ready to try then go for it.
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January 3rd, 2011, 10:28 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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 I am so sorry for your loss.
I've had 3 losses and the third was the only one I didn't wait my OB's suggested 3 months to TTC. I got a BFP the first cycle trying and I now have my rainbow baby boy. I now believe there is no reason to wait unless you are not emotionally ready.
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January 3rd, 2011, 02:33 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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hi Caitlin - I'm so sorry about your m/c
I don't think there is any reason to wait.. they just say that to make it easier to date the next pregnancy in case you get pregnant right away, and also to give you time to heal emotionally. And the "pregnancy cyst" (actually your corpus luteum) is nothing to worry about and I don't see why they even mention that - that is the corpus luteum as I've mentioned and we actually get that every cycle after we ovulate not just during pregnancy. In a regular non-pregnant cycle it produces progesterone until the body realizes it's not pregnant and then disappears. Nothing to worry about at all. I hope you also come back to Newlyweds TTC when you're ready! 
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January 3rd, 2011, 04:14 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Sorry for your loss
I would start TTC as soon as you think your ready...My doctor told me it was fine to try right away and that doctor's used to say to wait...He also said your body wont get pregnant if it's not ready...Good luck!!
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January 3rd, 2011, 06:04 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Thanks ladies so much! That nurse was horrible! I think we will start trying again soon. AF should be here within the next week. You are really giving me hope!
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January 4th, 2011, 09:19 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. Was it your first pregnancy? I miscarried with my first pregnancy in June. I was about 6 weeks. The more I opened up about it and talked to people I realized a lot of people miscarry with their first. I had no idea because people don't usually talk about it.
After I miscarried it took a while for my HCG levels to go down. It was early July before my levels were at 5, at which point my doctor stopped testing the levels. I was told that once my levels went back to 0 I would ovulate in 2-6 weeks. Well, it was right around that time that I stopped bleeding from my natural miscarriage FINALLY, so my husband and I did the deed. We didn't use protection. We didn't think I could get pregnant again so soon, but... July 25 I got my BFP! I will be 27 weeks tomorrow!
My doctor never told me to wait a cycle. I never asked either because I didn't care. We just didn't plan on waiting after I did my own research on the matter. I know some doctor's say wait a cycle so that they can date you better, but somehow my doctor's did a good job figuring it out because I measure perfectly every time I go for a check up!
I did end up in emergency around my 5th week with sharp stabbing pains on my right side. They thought I might be having an ectopic pregnancy. I had an ultrasound done, but it was too early to see anything. I was told by 2 different doctors that I was most likely miscarrying again. The OBGYN who came to check me out before I left actually had the nerve to tell me I was probably miscarrying because I got pregnant so soon after a miscarriage. Oh that made me real mad! I was like, "Ummm, no. My doctor didn't tell me I had to wait and I did my research. It doesn't matter when you get pregnant after a natural miscarriage!"
My sister in law also had a miscarriage with her first child a few months ago. Her and her husband had been trying for about 3 years . It was devastating. Their doctor recommended waiting a cycle, they started trying right away however and she was pregnant within 2 months- she is almost 12 weeks now. So I say try when you feel ready and good luck!
Sorry I wrote a novel, but I was so devastated after my miscarriage that I just want to try to give hope to anyone who is going through it.
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January 4th, 2011, 05:02 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Thank you so much for telling me your story. Yes it was my first pregnancy. I just feel like I will never be whole again. I think we are going to start trying next cycle. AF should be here soon.
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