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January 6th, 2011, 07:36 AM
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*** am I going to do until then?
Having an u/s still and then appt following, not looking forward to the obvious outcome. DUH, I know I'm losing this baby. Just hope it was in my uterus and NOT in my tube. My husband tells me not to even think about that until THEY tell me something not me speculating. Sorry if i'm just trying to metally prepare myself. I never thought it would come to this again, at least I *hoped* not. There was a day when things just felt different and that's sorta when I knew something wasn't right no matter how I tried to convince myself that it was just the fear, worries, anxities creeping in again.
I feel horrible because I got scared, thinking about after the baby were to come and how things would be... feel guilty like I scared the baby's soul away. I know how crazy that sounds, but that's just how I feel like a huge spiritual connection is made even before conception occurs.
I'm going to ask the dr to test me for pelvic inflammatory disease, and if need be do the surgery and give me the courses of antibiotics to cure it. I did some reading on it. I really don't want to lose my fertility, it's already reduced 50% but I'm thankful to have at least half of it... my RE made me aware of how some ladies have 5-10% but she's gotten THEM pregnant!
Think if anything DH's sperm needs to be tested, it's 125- for an SA reguardless of what we decide as far as ttcal I think he needs it done.
I'm waiting for the RE's office to call me so I can pick up copies of all my lab work and procedures to take with me for my appt. Just hope they don't give me any **** over it or try to charge me. Told her that I WANT TO SEE IT ALL AS WELL not just them faxing it. I WANT COPIES, they're not going to push me aside on this one.
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January 6th, 2011, 07:52 AM
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Celena, I'm so sorry 
You're such a strong woman for taking control of things like this while you're grieving. Even if you feel weak right now, your strength is so inspiring! I wish that guilt didn't have to be a part of grieving, but it always seems to be there, doesn't it?
I am always thinking about you, honey. I wish there was more I could do to help. 
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January 6th, 2011, 07:52 AM
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Celena, I think you absolutely need to be proactive about it. Ask questions. They have to give you a copy of your medical recrods. Dont' be surprised if they ask for money, they are allowed too, it's your record but they technically own the paper it's on, so they can charge you for the paper if they want to be boobs.
I hope that you get some answers. I know that you are worried about another ectopic but I would think that because they saw a sac in your uterus, you should be in the clear for the tubes. What do you think?
You should also look to see if there are charitable foundations in your area that may offer financial assistants for fertility testing and treatments. It's work a look. You should even ask the new doctors office, they may have leads for you. Keep us updated. I've been thinking of you and want to hear that you are doing well.
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January 6th, 2011, 08:03 AM
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Celena, I'm so sorry that you have to deal with any of this again. I hope that you get some answers and some peace soon.
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January 6th, 2011, 08:06 AM
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I am so sorry you are going through this Celena. i was praying that i would be the last to leave the August due date. I know how hard it is knowing that you are loosing the baby and having to go to an u/s. I lost the baby on Sunday and had to goto the u/s Tuesday to check my tubes. It was the hardest thing ive ever had to do. I pray you get some good news today. you are in my thoughts and prayers hun!!!
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January 6th, 2011, 08:10 AM
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I know how tough today will be for you, and just want you to know that Im thinking about you. Praying for some peace to surround you once all this anger is exausted........sending lots of hugs and love to you Celena.
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January 6th, 2011, 08:11 AM
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Cleana, Even though you don't think so right now you are such a strong women. I wish one of us could go to the appointment with you to help you through it. I love how you are demanding answers. Sometimes I wish I would have demanded more answers. Please know all of us are thinking about you while you are at your appointment. Please up date us as soon as possible.
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January 6th, 2011, 08:14 AM
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Hugs Celena. I think your ideas are great. Get all the paperwork, get the tests done and go from there. Praying your appointment goes well today. Thinking of you.
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January 6th, 2011, 08:16 AM
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(((hugs))) Yes I agree, be proactive, don't let them brush this under the rug...What testing have you had? there's got to be something they can test you for...I hope you get some answers Celena! once again, i'm so sorry this is happening to you
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January 6th, 2011, 08:35 AM
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Hugs sweety! I agree with the others, don't let them try to push it aside- demand answers. Even if the answers are there was no reason having the data and testing to prove it can help.
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January 6th, 2011, 08:39 AM
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I am so sorry...
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January 6th, 2011, 08:53 AM
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I had about 25 viles of blood taken for all the recurrent loss testing, pretty much the same testing they do for infertility... in ffact it is the same if I'm not mistaking. Even chromosomal/genetic stuff.
Endo biopsy, PC test, something else that is fleeting my mind, HSG, cycle monitoring, day 3 bloodwork, u/s's during cycles
leaving for appt now, update later
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January 6th, 2011, 09:04 AM
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thinking of you and praying for you right this second~
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January 6th, 2011, 09:06 AM
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Praying you get some answers at your appointment and thinking of you.
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January 6th, 2011, 09:21 AM
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I am depressed for you today and can't focus on anything at all. I am feeling what you are and I am so sorry. This F'en sucks and I wish I could take it all away for you. Dam^&*^&* I am so sorry........
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January 6th, 2011, 10:45 AM
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Celena I am so so sorry that you are going through all of this again hun.. It is so not fair.. I admire your strength hun.. I will be waiting for the update.. HUGS!!
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January 6th, 2011, 11:27 AM
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I'm so sorry. I know how hard this is and yet I admire you for being so proactive and strong. I hope they find something and it can be easily fixed. With all that testing, they have to help you find a solution.
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January 6th, 2011, 11:32 AM
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nothing i can say will make it better so sorry hun
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January 6th, 2011, 12:55 PM
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I'm so sorry, Celena My heart hurts for you I'm glad you're demanding answers, and I LOVE your RE's attitude! I'm sorry this loss is part of your journey, but I can't wait to one day see you with a little one. *hugs*
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(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
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January 6th, 2011, 02:13 PM
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So sorry for all of this Celena - I hope your appt went OK. Have you been tested for mycoplasma/ureaplasma? I just went through a bunch of tests (still have more to go) and the only thing that came back so far is ureaplasma. DH and I are both on a 2 week course of antibiotics to clear it up - apparently it can mess with sperm as well as with our lady stuff. My RE seems to think this might be our silver bullet (so far). From what I've read online, not every doctor tests for it routinely.
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