this just really sucks

Braysmomma03 · #1 January 6th, 2011, 08:07 PM

SO i miscarried on Sunday, had an ultrasound Tuesday to confirm it and due to depression I could barely eat. Now im sick and can barely get any food down because my throat is so swollen i literally choke on food. So now im weak and dizzy and now I cant eat lol praying I wake up tomorrow and can eat without choking...things have to get better right?

Servilia · #2 January 6th, 2011, 08:32 PM

Oh I'm sorry

What kind of sickness is it? Like a flu? I'm really sorry. Can you get it checked out? I was very down after my miscarriages but I tended to deal with it the opposite way, by eating the most comforting and convenient food I could find ready made in the store or to order in. Is there someone you can talk to? Mom, a friend? We're always here for you but it's also good to have some support around you at a time like this..

I will say that I am still sad I had my m/cs.. but things do get better. It's a bit of a grieving process and eventually I started to look forward to things.. seeing friends, treating myself to a spa day, and then TTCing again. The process is different for everyone hon

Braysmomma03 · #3 January 6th, 2011, 08:34 PM

Ive pretty much been home alone since I lost the baby. My husband leaves for work at 7am and doesnt get home till 9pm, he has had to work 6days a week the past 3 weeks so i rarely see him. It is my sinus's...it went from 50 degrees one day to like 20 the next and its really messing with me

missy123 · #4 January 6th, 2011, 08:45 PM

I am so sorry honey... Can you try some ice cream? Can you ask DH to take a day off just to hug you and hold you? It helps.

StaceygirlPa · #5 January 7th, 2011, 03:37 AM

I am so sorry you are going through this. I agree with Missy. Can dh take a day off and just be with you. I know the only way I made it through my two losses was my husband. As for as being sick try to eat something like jello or at least drink some broth.

Braysmomma03 · #6 January 7th, 2011, 05:45 AM

Thanks ladies, I was very whiney yesterday lol Sadly DH can't take a day off

He is store manager at a store and they are changing workers there and they just hired a new boss for DH so he has to be there. The main thing that has been upsetting me with DH the past week is he knows how tired I am, he knows how I can't eat and how weak I am but he keeps requesting to get his daughter. We've had her 5 days this week all which he has worked so i'm having to be up chasing her around all day(shes 4) and ive had my son going to my mom's because I just can't stay up for long periods of time and think its best, well he requested her again this weekend so now after I even told him since it wasen't our weekend to have her I was going to lay down and rest the whole time trying t get my energy back so I could get back to work Monday. Please don't get me wrong I love my step-daughter to death but i need time to heal from all of this and get myself back on track and now I really can't. But on a positive note, I made him late for work and went and stocked up on chicken broth and pudding

~Lynda~ · #7 January 7th, 2011, 05:47 AM

i'm so sorry for your loss hun!! i went through 4 miscarriages so i know the heartache. big big hugs to you. if you can't keep food down, you need to seek medical help!!!

Servilia · #8 January 7th, 2011, 08:29 AM

OH I'm sorry DH can't be more helpful. It's a bit unfair that you have to send your son off to be away from you because you're so tired but he's having his daughter over and you have to look after her?? And if he's at work all the time he doesn't even get to spend time with her so what's the point? Can you tell him you're sick and you can't look after her?

Braysmomma03 · #9 January 7th, 2011, 09:01 AM

Ive told him, im just so sick of the whole situation but it always comes out as me picking on here. Here comes a big vent...she was here yesterday, she hit my son left welts my DH replies well he must have deserved it. She can basically do whatever she wants she lies, she doesn't clean her room hits, and nothing happens, but if my son does it he gets punished. Im just so sick of it and when I say anything im just picking on her. its a huge mess. The reason he gets here when hes not home is because because he likes to see her for those 5mins on the way home.