How long?

Braysmomma03 · #1 January 8th, 2011, 07:45 AM

I hope you don't mind me asking this but how long after your loss did you start trying again? I keep going back and forth between using condom's until next cycle to not trying but not preventing before my 1st cycle post. Ive heard there is no increased risk after a natural miscarriage trying again right away, then i've heard there is. What have you heard? When did you start trying again? Its been almost 4 weeks since Ive been with DH and I crave it so bad right now because I want the closeness so bad right now, but I don't want to risk a future pregnancy if the odd's are against it from the get go.

lindsey2000k · #2 January 8th, 2011, 07:54 AM

I did not wait. I started using OPKs to figure out when I was ovulating. I even told my OB what I was doing and he was ok with it. He said no increased risk you body will get pregnant when it is ready.
It however took me 3 months to get pregnant.

Servilia · #3 January 8th, 2011, 08:10 AM

I didn't wait either. I started right away. I was told I won't get pregnant if my body is not ready. Some people like to wait for emotional reasons though.

Also, there are plenty of days in your cycle that you can DTD without getting pregnant. Have you ever charted to see what your fertile days are?

KCMomma · #4 January 8th, 2011, 08:14 AM

We didn't wait either. The doc said we were ok to try right away. It's a very personal decision.

Braysmomma03 · #5 January 8th, 2011, 08:25 AM

Thank you all for the replies. Basically I don't want to wait...but stupid me googling stuff had myself scared to even try again. It took us 11months to get pregnant with this one and I don't want to wait if its going to take that long again. I was just scared to death to start trying again worried I was putting the pregnancy if I did get pregnant before my first actual AF at an increased risk of another m/c.

Celena · #6 January 8th, 2011, 10:56 AM

I don't know, we pretty much just let it go from the get go never really waiting per se but not really trying that first cycle after anyways.

If we decide to try, then we will right away and not wait.

purplelady · #7 January 8th, 2011, 11:35 AM

we started right away

. my mid wife said that she pretty much leaves it up to the couple to decide when is right for them.

AZsnowflake · #8 January 8th, 2011, 11:40 AM

All of you saying you tried right away did you wait one cycle first or do you mean you started before that? I was told to wait one cycle which I thought was here but turned out it was extra left from the pregnancy and I needed another d and c yesterday. I can't stand the thought of waiting another 4-6 weeks for my first period and I plan on talking to the dr about that too.

Joanna1127 · #9 January 8th, 2011, 11:42 AM

I started right away as well, after I stopped bleeding from my d&c which was around 5 1/2 weeks.

SillyKitty · #10 January 8th, 2011, 12:33 PM

We started trying right away after my first mc. I was temping and using opks, but didn't get pregnant that cycle. I ovulated about a week later than usual. We did get pregnant the second cycle. Since I'm going through another miscarriage, this time I feel I need to take longer to allow myself to recover emotionally, so we're putting off actively ttc until May or June.

StaceygirlPa · #11 January 8th, 2011, 01:03 PM

We had to wait after the first loss because of complications from the d/c. This loss we aren't waiting at all. We are trying right away. With my age I really don't want to wait. I am 41 and dh is 39.

Toots216 · #12 January 8th, 2011, 01:12 PM

After my first loss, we were told to wait one cycle, and we did. We got pg that first cycle, but lost it again.

I just got my first AF since the second loss, but we are now on hold due to recurrent mc testing with my RE - I'm actually kind of glad bc I really feel like I need the extra time to heal emotionally from this latest loss.