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January 8th, 2011, 01:54 PM
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Someone asked me today if DH and I have any children. I said no but wanted to cry because in my heart yes I do have a child but he is not with me. Will I forever have a void in my heart? Does it get any easier?
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January 8th, 2011, 07:27 PM
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It does get a little easier with time. ((Hugs)) we all understand how painful it is.
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January 8th, 2011, 07:47 PM
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It might make you feel better to say yes. It's strange. I always say "I have a son, but he passed away." Then typically the person says "Oh no, I'm so sorry," and I smile and say thank you, and then continue the conversation. I could never say I don't have a child, because I do. He's just not here. For me to say no would hurt me to my core. Have you ever thought about saying something like, "I have a little angel in Heaven, but none here on Earth." It might be easier, and it's not as awkward as you might think.
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With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)


Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.




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January 8th, 2011, 08:29 PM
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Thanks ladies. Erin I think that is a perfect response. When I said no to the guy today it cut me straight to the heart. I felt guilty.
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