[AZsnowflake]

Ugh, I'm frustrated right now and just need to vent. You ladies seem to be quite supportive I'm so glad I found this board. Here's my story, I'll try to be as short as possible.

We got pregnant with #2 sometime in August. I went 14 weeks (hearing/seeing heartbeat at 6 and 10 weeks) before they realized I had miscarried. The baby measured at 7w5d and had no heartbeat. I opted to try the medicine and let my body do it's thing, since my body had kept onto the baby so long already I didn't want to wait. I started the medicine on dec 7th and was still bleeding on the 13th after two doses and the bleeding wasn't letting up so I was scheduled for a d and c on Dec 17th. That went fine and well, I spotted for a couple days and then was done. We were told we could have sex, just had to be protected because of the pills side effects causeing miscarriage or birth defects if you get pregnant within one month of taking them.

I started spotting on 1/1/11, called on monday to make sure that wasn't a problem and I already had my followup d and c appt for weds the 5th, they said it wasn't a problem, was likely my period. On the 4th I was in the shower and felt a huge splash, looked down and blood was everywhere, I was like a leaking faucet and couldn't even get out of the shower it was soooo bad. It slowed a little bit for me to run to the toilet where Ipassed a small blood clot and the bleeding slowed back to spotting. Called the dr about all this and they said it was probably still just a heavy period after the miscarriage and jsut wait for my appt the next day. So that's what I did and I had a couple spots-no bleeding at all that day, when the dr did the internal exam she said everything looked fine and there was no blood in there so I should be done and we were given the green light to TTC, YAY!! But I started to bleed, just lightly-medium that day. I chalked it up to still being a period and probably from the internal exam.

The next day, thursday I still bled a little but it was gone at night. Gone enough that we even had sex. Yesterday, friday, it was still gone, no bleeding YAY!! Until about 1pm I was blowdrying my hair and had a huge GUSH! I was still wearing a pad, just in case, and that thing was soaked all the way through and blood was still coming out. I thought I was going to die there was so.much.blood! The dr said I was bleeding enough I could go to the ER or go to their office (50 min from my house) and run some tests. Since it was about to be the weekend I opted to go to the dr to have the tests ran to figure out what was wrong. We drive out there, I get out to sign my name in and I can feel another gush coming on so I run back to the car and have hubby tell them I am waiting in the car til a room is ready cuz I'm about to bleed alot again.

I get into the room and she tells me to undress and not to worry about getting blood on the table or even the floor. I say ok I guess, and undress and it starts gushing out again. I'm already freaking out because I feel liek I'm dying so I'm bawling and shaking and I'm getting over a cold so I'm coughing and everytime I cough blood spews out of me ALL ACROSS THE FLOOR, going everywhere. AFter this happens a couple times hubby opens the door and says someone needs to get in here she's bleeding everywhere!!! So they rush in and do an internal exam and hubby said a bunch of small apple-size clots and one huge waterballoon size clot came out, along with tons and tons of blood, I think I soaked like 20 of those puppy pads they put down!!

The dr says she thinks it's still my period because when she did the d and c there was only uterine lining left and nothing from the pregnancy but she takes urine and blood samples to check my hcg and sends me for an ultrasound. Long story short the ultrasound showed a 1cm piece left in me so the dr said we can do the medicine or d&c, I chose the d&C and we went in THAT NIGHT. So what a whirlwind day I had yesterday! I feel normal again but I'm so worried she will say we should wait another cycle to TTC, I DON'T WANT TO WAIT 4-6 WEEKS!!!! And hubby will NOT do anything with me unless dr says it's ok. I know in the other post a lot of you said you jsut TTC right away before your first cycle so I'm going to tell her I really don't want to wait and ask her the reasoning she is telling me to wait one cycle and go from there.

I can honestly say I never thought this would be me. We get pregnant really easy, first try with my son and first month with this one, and I had no reason to believe anything was wrong. With my son I had NO pregnancy symptoms whatsoever until I started to show and that was the only symptom! I was never sick, no boob soreness, nothing. With this last one I was sick all the time, boobs were so sore, I showed right away it was crazy!! I feel so betrayed by my body that it made me hold onto the pregnancy I keep thinking how much better (not really but do you KWIM when I say this?) it would have been to have miscarried at 8 weeks in October then to have gone all the way to 14 weeks in December!!!!!!!!!! Ok sorry so long, just had to get this out!

[Servilia]

Eeek almost the same thing happened to me - stupid docs can't even do a D&C properly! I'm so sorry this happened to you.. first of all, the doctor CANNOT tell that everything has come out without an ultrasound! I went for 2 months thinking everything was ok after my D&C and it turns out they left a 3 cm (over an inch) chunk of tissue in me! And when it finally came out the bleeding was not pretty.

So sorry you had to go through that - we're here to listen

[AZsnowflake]

yea I think I'm going to ask to be scheduled for the followup when their ultrasound tech is there to make sure everything is out! I can't imagine having been in public when these gushes happened, I don't want to chance it! Thanks for listening

[Shadeauxe]

Wow, that would have been a scary experience. In the vein of more TMI (who doesn't love the TMI, really?), when I went to the hospital to get a confirmation ultrasound that I was going to miscarry, I thought, "Oh maybe I should go to the bathroom" just in case and I had a similar thing where the pad just filled up instantly and a clot the size of a walnut came out. It definitely freaked me out. I only had to deal with that for about 2 hours that night and it was done. I am sorry that you had to deal with it for so long.

What was the medicine? Was it methergen (spelling)? If so, I took one of those. They didn't warn me about any birth defect possibilities.

[Joanna1127]

yikes! what an ordeal! I would have been freaked out and been right at the hospital. I hate when doctors try to rush you out saying everything is fine.

I hope you get the clear to start TTC. Like you said, I got pregnant with my daughter and my second pregnancy as well in the first month. Now we are ttc and going on our 3rd month. Its so hard not to think something is wrong because of all this, as to why I"m not pregnant again yet.

sending lots of bfp dust your way!

[AZsnowflake]

Originally Posted by Shadeauxe

Wow, that would have been a scary experience. In the vein of more TMI (who doesn't love the TMI, really?), when I went to the hospital to get a confirmation ultrasound that I was going to miscarry, I thought, "Oh maybe I should go to the bathroom" just in case and I had a similar thing where the pad just filled up instantly and a clot the size of a walnut came out. It definitely freaked me out. I only had to deal with that for about 2 hours that night and it was done. I am sorry that you had to deal with it for so long.

What was the medicine? Was it methergen (spelling)? If so, I took one of those. They didn't warn me about any birth defect possibilities.

No it was misoprostol, spelling?? The Dr didn't tell me about that but it was in the warnings of the medicine. I'm assuming she didn't tell me because she told us not to TTC til after my first period and we were going to go along with that, but now that it may be pushed back again I'm going to ask if we can just start!

[SillyKitty]

I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. Your doctor should not have assumed all the tissue was out without an u/s. I do understand what you mean about feeling it was worse to go to 14 weeks. My second mc was tougher than my 1st because I knew about it longer, and I would have had just that much more attachment had it gone to 14 weeks.

I think since you didn't take the medication again, you should be good to ttc again once the bleeding stops. Many OBs will tell patients to wait until the next cycle because they want a lmp to date the new pregnancy. If you are going to try before AF, I would recommend that you confirm you have a negative hpt so there is no confusion if you do get pregnant again, and that you do some basic charting so that you at least have some idea of when you O again. Good luck!

[AZsnowflake]

Originally Posted by SillyKitty

I'm so sorry you had to go through all that. Your doctor should not have assumed all the tissue was out without an u/s. I do understand what you mean about feeling it was worse to go to 14 weeks. My second mc was tougher than my 1st because I knew about it longer, and I would have had just that much more attachment had it gone to 14 weeks.

I think since you didn't take the medication again, you should be good to ttc again once the bleeding stops. Many OBs will tell patients to wait until the next cycle because they want a lmp to date the new pregnancy. If you are going to try before AF, I would recommend that you confirm you have a negative hpt so there is no confusion if you do get pregnant again, and that you do some basic charting so that you at least have some idea of when you O again. Good luck!

That's a good idea. My periods are very irregular off the pill so maybe I should get some ovulation kits if we do decide to go ahead and TTC before AF? I only had one month to chart myself with this last pregnancy so I'm not very good at all that and it kind of makes it seem like a chore for me. Maybe I'll start with the ovulation kit for this month and then if AF arrives start charting after that. thanks!

[missy123]

With your hormones all over the place right now the OPK's may not be completely accurate. I am not saying don't POAS, but just keep a diary each day so you can track how you are feeling and what is going on with your body.

((Hugs))