[luvmykids623]

As the title says I'm out, the witch showed this morning. I knew from 10dpo that it was over, so I'm actually glad that she's here. I'd like to say before I get started on the rest that I know there are women on this board that have been trying for a lot longer than me, so I want you all to know that I'm not trying belittle what they've been through/are going through. I'm just trying to figure out what could be going on with me. Trust me, if I could wave a magic wand and make all of you pregnant with a healthy take home baby I would in a heartbeat!

DH and I have never had a problem getting pregnant, it's the staying pregnant part that we've had trouble with. I've been pregnant 5 times and all of those have been on the first try. I've always known (especially being on JM) that we've been VERY blessed to be able to say that. I don't want to say it's been luck, because my luck isn't that good. I'd be a millionaire if I had that kind of luck.

Anyway, we've been trying this time since July. I got pregnant on the first try, so I'm pretty sure that my problems aren't because of the c/s I had with DD or the fact that I am 30 now. This was our second cycle trying since the D&C in September and our second BFN. This cycle was completely wacky. I didn't O until cd24 (cd16-18 is normal for me). That caused the cycle to be 39 days long. I'm wondering if the D&C could have screwed something up. Maybe the eggs are being fertilized and just aren't able to implant because the lining is too thin. I know that stress can cause problems, and I can say that I've been stressed at work. I've been having a really hard time watching the 3 girls I work with and their growing bellies. One is due 2 days before I was, one 1 week after, and one 2 weeks after. It's been killing me. That could be part of it.

Another thing I'm considering is this. I know not all of us have the same beliefs, but I am definitely one that believes in God, so please bear with me if you don't. It took the full 6 weeks for AF to return after my D&C. Of course as the time passed I was thinking about how far that would push me back. I was originally due in April, and I kept thinking to myself at this rate I'd have an October baby. I've had this strange pulling feeling toward October since then. Now, I've always wanted an October baby- ALWAYS! It's my most favorite month of the year. I've never been willing to try for one, because I'm a teacher. I've always shot for spring/summer babies because I never wanted to be out a ton of the school year. I've been so attached to the last two cycles, because they were my last hope for a summer baby. When I got my BFNs this week, I had this really strong feeling wash over me. Maybe God is trying to give me my October baby, because he knew I never would have done it for myself. Maybe he's made the last 2 cycles BFN, because he plans on the BFP for this cycle I started today. Maybe he's doing this FOR me, not TO me. Along with that feeling came this sense of peace I can't even describe. For the first time this week I was able to look at the 3 preggos and not want to jump off the roof. It's very strange.

I don't know what's going on with my body. If you have any input it would be greatly appreciated. I'm going to try lemon water and Geritol this cycle and see if that helps. I'm contemplating red raspberry leaf tea, DHEA, and vitamin D too. I've heard that a vitamin D deficiency can cause fertility issues. We've never TTC in the winter, so I'm wondering if not being out in the sun and having lower vitamin D could be it. What do you all think? Any suggestions?

Sorry this was so long. If you made it this far you deserve a cookie.

[Pame£a]

I'm a Christian and I pray and I talk to God. I open my heart to him. You are right in saying this is all God's timing. When I first started praying, I always prayed for a healthy baby first but as I grew as christian, that changed, I started giving thanks and praise for all the riches in my heart and all the blessings. Then I prayed for others then finally I prayed for me. Mostly helping me get through and understanding His timing.

I have felt led since we started ttc. I didn't even want to try again but felt He put that desire into my heart again. then came along the CBFM. Then my husband didn't want to so we didn't use the monitor the first month and now here we are using it the first time and we are pregnant. I'm due in Sept and feel that was God's timing. See, Elijah was born in Sept and now we have a reason to celebrate.

I don't know if I'm making any sense but pray for healing in your heart, calmness and ask about His timing. I wish I knew more but I'm still new at this and pray I get stronger as a christian. You are on my prayer list hun.

God bless hun

[MeganMomof5]

Lori, I'm sorry I don't have any advice....I too think i'm out (my temp is dropping), actually I know I am...I am also one of the ones that never had problems getting pregnant (I got pregnant my first try last time) and now I seem to be having problems...I wish I knew what to tell you...I'm thinking of trying some different things this cycle myself...I need to come up with a plan of action...Good luck and I hope things work for you and you get your October baby!

[lindsey2000k]

My D&C was in Oct. It took 6 weeks for A/F to return. I did OPKS that cycles and was hoping to get pregnant and not even have a A/F but no such luck. Then another cycle came and went, it was very heavy and long. This was my 3rd cycle and I finally got my BFP. This is the first time it has taken me more than the first try or it not being an opps. I do think the D&C might have played a role. I had a nasty infection that came back 3 times and just got it cleared up the same week O came along so that could have been another factor.

[luvmykids623]

Thank you ladies! Pamela, you make perfect sense. I'm going to try that. I'm so terrible at waiting, maybe praying for help in that area would be a good thing.

[.:Shortcake:.]

Just wanted to offer you hugs. I wish I had some advice for you or could help.

[Joanna1127]

I share many of the same concerns you do. With my daughter and my last pregnancy, we got pregnant right away. I was also hoping to get pregnant again right away after my d&c.....that never happened. I am now beginning cycle 3 and hoping that its soon! I've also wondered if the d&c affected my ability to get pregnant. It's really frustrating!!

Sending you many +++ vibes! HUGS!

[missy123]

What kind of cookie do we get?

Hang in there, TTCAL is very hard ((Hugs)). I hope you get pregnant and have that October baby!

[Erin84]

Babycenter.com :
# Some like it hot: More newborns arrive during the late summer and early fall months of July, August, and September than any other time of the year. In 2006, August hosted the most U.S. baby births.
# Paul Sutton, a demographer for the CDC's National Center for Health Statistics, says it makes sense if you think about what happens nine months earlier in most of the country – the weather gets colder and people spend more time indoors snuggling with their sweeties.

I read somewhere else that cooler temperatures can also lead to slightly better sperm quality. If you're worried about vitamin D, my advice is to switch to vitamin D whole milk. Whole milk products are better for TTC than skim, 1%, or 2%, and it's not hard to find whole vit. d milk, even organic if that's how you roll.

White chocolate chip & macadamia, please!

[StaceygirlPa]

I don't have any advice. I just wanted to give you hugs and I hope you have your October baby.