What a 2010...support needed

HopefulinOrlando · #1 January 12th, 2011, 07:31 AM

Hi Ladies,

WOW...what a 2010 I had. I did my first round of IVF in October and found out in November that I was pregnant! YAY!!!! A three year journey had finally come true! We had our first sonogram in November and found one little heartbeat (we put two back) and I was so happy!

Two weeks later...unfortunately out perfect little heartbeat disapeared and after further confirmation we learned that it was not a "viable" pregnancy. I hate that word....

Anyway....I waited to misscarry but had complications and ended up doing a D&C two weeks later.
I so wanted to move on with my life and look forward to a new year...so I planned a great New Years party. THEN on New Years Eve I got severe stomache pains and went into shock...we decided to go to the ER and I learned that the second egg we put back was Ectopic and caused the first Misscarriage. My Tube Ruptered on New Years causing internal bleeding and I had Emergency surgery. I lost the tube of course.....and now I am finallay at the point where I can talk about it.

I have to make a BIG Decision as now they tell me that since I have had one Ectopic that my risk goes up now to have it happen again with IVF. SOO They suggested I tie the other one off.....I do have two more rounds of IVF and if I am lucky to get any frozen ones I have those too....BUT this really ends my chance of ever being able to get pregnant naturally and its sad....and a very hard decision to make. I cannot imagine ever gong through an ectopic this way again....its been hard.

Especially having TWO misscarriages in basically three weeks! UGH.....I can try agian in 3-4 months they say. I am sooooo scared!

missy123 · #2 January 12th, 2011, 07:43 AM

Hi Christina - I remember you from the MA board. I am so sorry for your losses, it hurts so bad

You are in good hands here, the girls here are great. Feel free to post/vent away, we completely understand what you are going through. ((Hugs))

Sounds like you have a hard decision to make with your tubes. I wish I could offer some suggestions but I really don't know what I would do. ((More Hugs))

StaceygirlPa · #3 January 12th, 2011, 08:07 AM

I am so sorry for you two losses. Agree with what Missy said though. You can count on us.

mafiamom · #4 January 12th, 2011, 08:49 AM

bless your heart. that is one heck of a couple months you had to suffer thru

i dont have any advice on what you should do... there are pros and cons to each. i would sit down with dh and make a list of each.

the fact that you are using ivf makes me think that naturally conceiving wasnt working out too well? i dont know what the stats are on people who conceive with ivf who than go on to conceive naturally - are they out there?

gl with your decision. i pray that you hold a babe in arms very very soon~

AZsnowflake · #5 January 12th, 2011, 08:59 AM

I am so sorry for your losses

I say weigh your options and give yourself time to truly think them over. Don't rush into anything one way or the other so that you don't have regrets. Good luck

ohnicole · #6 January 12th, 2011, 09:27 AM

I am so sorry for your losses

LindseyE117 · #7 January 12th, 2011, 09:39 AM

Oh wow. I am so sorry. Is the risk the same if you would have had a normal eptopic without the IVF? I dunno, I do not think I could tie my tubes, then again, I don't know what your position is on the whole subject. Plus it is not my place to say any different. I just cannot believe that they did not notice the eptopic with the other ultrasounds.

Once again..... I am sooooo sooooo sooooo sorry. The girls on here are great. They helped me with my depression after my loss. Just know that you are in a good place.

kzoo1280 · #8 January 12th, 2011, 09:39 AM

I don't have much advice as I don't have a clue what I would do. But I wanted you to know that I am truly sorry for what you have been thru and the hard desicion that you have to make. I hope everything works out for you. Keep us posted....

HopefulinOrlando · #9 January 12th, 2011, 10:24 AM

Thanks for all of your kind words and advice! I think that I know the right thing to do if the other tube is very weak to begin with.....I dont want to put my life at risk or put my body through this kind of pain and surgery again. My doctor said that it would only help not hurt me...and after three years of trying to get pregnant on my own....it never happened so I know the chance is slim it ever would for me the normal way.

We are going to sit down in a month or so and talk about everything with the doctor and go from there....maybe sometime in April for IVF #2....right now....right now I just want to do something fun I told my husband. I have not heard that word in a really long time and a nice weekend away or a fun night out someplace would be a great feeling! WINE! I would love to drink some wine! Hahah.......

Thanks agian for all of your support and I will definately keep you posted on my journey and moving forward. Thank you!

j&jmom · #10 January 12th, 2011, 01:47 PM

After all you have been through you definitely deserve something fun. Good luck and KUP!

.:Shortcake:. · #11 January 12th, 2011, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by j&jmom

After all you have been through you definitely deserve something fun. Good luck and KUP!

I agree. G/L on your journey and I hope your at peace with whatever decision you make.

luvmykids623 · #12 January 12th, 2011, 02:55 PM

I am so sorry for what you've gone through and for the difficult decision that you have to make. I wanted to offer great big

because I have no idea what I would do.

mmllhh · #13 January 12th, 2011, 05:31 PM

My god, you have been to hell and back. I think that you are making a good decision. It sounds like you have put a lot of thought into it and are not making a rash decision. I hope that you get your bean soon.

Celena · #14 January 12th, 2011, 07:50 PM

Christina,

Hi, I've been over on ttcma and I'm glad you came by over here, Welcome

You've had so much happen in such a short amount of time within the last few weeks

I'm sorry that you've lost your little ones and your tube.

It's all so very painful, especially all at once. It leaves you with so many feelings... I'm so sorry for all of your losses and all the devestation. Sounds like you're healing slowly but surely emotionally and physically. Taking it one day at a time is the best thing I can offer to say, it's not been fun journey here either and sometimes I look back not knowing how in the sam hell did I make it thru it ALIVE? But here I am, one day at a time...

SillyKitty · #15 January 12th, 2011, 09:26 PM

I am so sorry for your losses, and for the loss of your tube. What a new years' eve! I would recommend getting a second opinion before you take any permanent measures. Make sure they show you research indicating that there is lower chance of ectopic with your tube tied, and make sure it is such a difference that you really want to take that step. Make sure you have recovered emotionally (as much as you can) before you make any big decisions. I hope everything works out and you have your rainbow baby soon.