[wishfulgal]

Hi there...I wish I didn't qualify to be a member of this board but I guess I do now

My DH and I have been TTC #2 for 13 cycles. We conceived our son within 7 cycles, but this journey has been much harder. We found out in June (after 6 months of TTC) that my DH had severely low sperm count. We basically had a 1% chance of conceiving naturally at that point. He had a varicocele repaired in September and at his 3-month post-op check up his sperm count and motility were borderline normal. About the same time we found out my FSH is elevated (12.5) and I'm only 26 years old My RE still recommended IUI but we decided to try one more cycle on our own. I had an appointment with another RE for a second opinion on the day I expected AF, but I took a test that morning and got a BFP at 13 DPO. The RE I saw that day was pretty negative about our chances of natural conception, so we were soooo excited to have proved him wrong. My BFP was obvious but not super dark, but I thought it would get darker over the next few days....it didn't . My first Beta at 13DPO was 54. On Sunday, which happened to be my son's 2nd birthday , the nurse called to say my second Beta was 50. We were so dissappointed and sad and I've been expecting to start bleeding ever since. Now 3 days later my hcg is at 39. I'm still not bleeding yet. I really just want to get this over with so I can grieve and move on...I'm 4 weeks 4 days today....

Question #1: Is it odd that my hcg is dropping so slowly? Is it weird that I'm not bleeding yet when this is obviously not a healthy pregnancy?

Question #2: Do you think we can TTC right away this cycle? What can I expect from this cycle (do you O later after an early loss, etc?)

To be honest I can hardly bear to think of TTC again after the last year of the stress of TTC...we thought we had finally done it and were going to have a baby It seems like a cruel joke that we would have to go through this on top of everything else. But b/c of my high FSH, we really don't have time to waste, so I guess we'll just try again...

[SillyKitty]

I'm so sorry for your loss, and sorry we have to meet this way.

It isn't uncommon for it to take awhile for the miscarriage to happen (some will wait a couple weeks and then go for a D&C if it hasn't happened by then). However, being early in your pregnancy I would think you would likely m/c naturally in the next few days. It will most likely be like a heavy period. The hcg can take a couple weeks to go down, especially as it approaches 0, and usually won't completely go down until the miscarriage is complete.

Some OBs recommend waiting a cycle or two, but there is no real research saying you can't try right away (trust me, I obsessively looked it up after my first miscarriage). Some people like to wait until they get their first AF just for dating reasons, too. I'd say start trying again once you are emotionally ready. (hugs)

[.:Shortcake:.]

Hugs I am very sorry for you loss hun! Welcome to the board. There are alot of ladies here that have proven the doctors wrong!

Question #1: Is it odd that my hcg is dropping so slowly? Is it weird that I'm not bleeding yet when this is obviously not a healthy pregnancy?
You should get checked by the doctor you may need a D&C if your body doesn't do what it's supposed to.
Question #2: Do you think we can TTC right away this cycle? What can I expect from this cycle (do you O later after an early loss, etc?)
You can TTC as soon as your HCG gets below 5 then your body should gear up to O. It just depends on how quickly your numbers reach zero.

[ohnicole]

I am so sorry for your loss, and for how hard your journey has been

The amount of time it takes for HCG to get back down to the negative range can really vary. I would say that it is probably normal, but if at any time you feel like you are getting worried or if you haven't started bleeding within a week, go get checked out by your doctor.

I think you should be fine TTC your next cycle (when you are done bleeding), but your cycle may be a little off.

[purplelady]

i am very sorry for your loss.

[ashj_1218]

Hi there I am very sorry to hear about your loss It can be so heartbreaking and hard. We all know that sadness. You came to the right place.

As for your questions: Yes it can take time for your HCG to drop, even enough to bleed. I have had an HCG as low as 13 and not been bleeding yet (I started bleeding the day after that draw). If you do not start bleeding in the next couple days, I would call the doc to make sure it is okay and if he is concerned, he will likely do a sonogram and/or more blood work. The main concern is that your body does not recognize the pregnancy is not healthy and you would have to have a d/c. That would seem rare for an early loss like yours. Chances are your body will take care of it

And after an early loss, there is even less of a reason to wait than after a later loss. Chances are your body will return to a regular cycle fairly quickly and once you ovulate, you can concieve. It might be a week or two later than normal, but you should have no issue with trying again right away, if you so choose.

Again, so sorry for your loss.

[angel3y35]

I'm so sorry to see you here. I found out the pregnancy was viable on a Wednesday, my beta was 9. Even with it being that low I didn't start bleeding until late Saturday evening. The on-call Dr. I saw told me to wait a cycle but that was because we were using Clomid at the time. I HATED waiting even that one cycle but was glad I did in the end because emotionally I wasn't ready for it. Medically I don't believe there is any reason for you to wait.

[AZsnowflake]

I am so sorry for your loss

[StaceygirlPa]

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't have much more to add to what the other women have already said. I just wanted wanted to welcome you to board and say how sorry I am.

Like Katie said there are a lot of women on this board that have proven doctors wrong. I was told dh and I wouldn't get pregnant on our own. Well we got pregnant twice now on our own. (sorry to say both of them resulted in losses) Even though they ended in losses we got pregnant on our own.