Do you find reasons why you should be pregnant "this" cycle?

sadie97007 · #1 January 19th, 2011, 10:51 AM

Though I only had my loss recently, I keep finding myself discovering reasons or signs why this is the month that I'm meant to get pregnant. For instance, this month would be the best month because if I am pregnant, I would be due at the beginning of October, and all of our birthdays are within first 9 days of the month, and we will all be equally spaced 2 months apart with an October birthday added.

I can't remember why I justified last month, but I'm sure that there was a reason why it was perfect for me. Does anyone else do this? I'm kinda feeling a bit mental lately obsessing over this.

Shadeauxe · #2 January 19th, 2011, 11:01 AM

I can assure you that probably everyone does this. I have read many comments to this effect on here.

I do it a bit differently. I have gut feelings, which are generally very reliable, but in this case they may not be very accurate because it could just be me wanting it. I am convinced I will get pregnant in February this year, but it makes no logical sense since it took a year to get pregnant last time and it's only been a month since my miscarriage.

AZsnowflake · #3 January 19th, 2011, 11:08 AM

I do, I keep thinking how badly I want an October baby simply because I don't want my kids to share the same birth month. Not that it's THAT big of a deal but that's just what I always wanted. My DD with our angel baby was early early June but would've come via c-section end of may and I loved that my kids would be spread out month wise like that...the miscarriage totally ruined my plans lol. So yes, I do become a bit obsessive thinking I WANT TO BE PREGNANT THIS MONTH! but in the big scheme of things, I really just want to be pregnant with a healthy baby and that is all that TRULY matters to me.

missy123 · #4 January 19th, 2011, 11:47 AM

Yup... give me just about any scenario when it comes to ttc and pregnancy and I obsess...

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Originally Posted by Shadeauxe

I can assure you that probably everyone does this. I have read many comments to this effect on here.

I do it a bit differently. I have gut feelings, which are generally very reliable, but in this case they may not be very accurate because it could just be me wanting it. I am convinced I will get pregnant in February this year, but it makes no logical sense since it took a year to get pregnant last time and it's only been a month since my miscarriage.

Hopefully it takes you a lot less time to get your BFP!

wishfulgal · #5 January 19th, 2011, 12:35 PM

Last cycle (which ended in an early miscarriage), I thought it was the month I was meant to get pregnat b/c we would find out if I was pregnant right before my son's 2nd birthday, and I knew it was going be tough having him turn 2 and not even being pregnant yet (we had wanted our kids close together....wanted to HAVE another baby way before he even turned 2..).

Well, I did find out I was pregnant a few days before his birthday...but found out that we were going to lose the baby on the morning of his birthday...so I guess that didn't work out so well

Shadeauxe · #6 January 19th, 2011, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by missy123

Hopefully it takes you a lot less time to get your BFP!

Thanks! The reason I am convinced that I will get pregnant in Feb is because it would give me a due date of Nov. A co-worker of mine share the following:

birthday - august
spouse birthday - september
anniversary - october
first child birthday - february

His second child was born in November. I can't remember if we share any other life details, but it's still weird.

ashj_1218 · #7 January 19th, 2011, 12:53 PM

I do it. I have convinced myself that this is our month because we wanted our kids less than two years apart and if we are not pregnant this cycle, we will be due after our son turns two. Stupid. Last cycle it was that it was December and we would get a Christmas present. In November it was that we were seeing the RE and it would be ironic to go in for losses and be pregnant with a sticky baby. I am sure there were reasons before that too. It is a little game to keep up hope...not necessarily a bad thing

missy123 · #8 January 19th, 2011, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by wishfulgal

Well, I did find out I was pregnant a few days before his birthday...but found out that we were going to lose the baby on the morning of his birthday...so I guess that didn't work out so well

((Hugs)) I am so sorry for your loss.

TTCin2010 · #9 January 19th, 2011, 03:12 PM

I do the samething, drive myself crazy!

SillyKitty · #10 January 19th, 2011, 03:28 PM

While I was ttc the pregnancy that I just lost, I was actually stressing over what bad timing it was. My dh is a teacher, and I was due August 25th- first week of school. My June pregnancy (1st loss) would have been perfect, but the August pregnancy was bad timing. When I'm having my bad second guessing myself moments that most of us go through, I question whether I jinxed myself by having those thoughts. I don't really believe that, though.

Practically, it would be best if we waited to ttc again until June so that I'd be due in March, be able to take a 3 month maternity leave, and then have dh home with the baby all summer. In reality, I would be very happy if I had a baby earlier than that.

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Originally Posted by Shadeauxe

Thanks! The reason I am convinced that I will get pregnant in Feb is because it would give me a due date of Nov. A co-worker of mine share the following:

birthday - august
spouse birthday - september
anniversary - october
first child birthday - february

His second child was born in November. I can't remember if we share any other life details, but it's still weird.

That's pretty cool!

Joanna1127 · #11 January 19th, 2011, 06:04 PM

yes, I definitely obsess over it!

My last pregnancy that I lost it all would have been perfect with my job(teacher). I was due Apirl 30th. I had it all planned that I'd take the rest of the year off, then have the summer, etc. Little did I know, I would lose my angel.

angel3y35 · #12 January 19th, 2011, 06:15 PM

Yep. Every month. This month it's because I would find out before my angels EDD, because I would be due after the busy time at work, because the baby and the one we adopt would be close in age, because I would find out about a week before my appointment to talk about having a hysterectomy, and because our friends just found out they're pregnant last week

I honestly think maybe it keeps us all sane.

.:Shortcake:. · #13 January 19th, 2011, 06:18 PM

I do this all the time but at this point I'm constantly like.... "this has to be my month... because of... "

I think we all do this to drive ourselves a little more crazy!

okiliz · #14 January 19th, 2011, 10:26 PM

Well.. This month has to be my month because.. I had a reading done and it said I would find out with a BFP/conceive in Febuary ... So THATS why AF took so long to get here and my IUI won't be till the end of the month !!! I KNEW there was a reason :-) ..

StaceygirlPa · #15 January 20th, 2011, 03:05 AM

I do that every month. When we were trying in November/December I said this has to be my month. If we got pregnant I would be pregnant the same time my mom was pregnant with me. We did end up getting pregnant but we had a early m/c. Now this month I think it is our month because the baby would be born in October and we no birthdays in October.

sandel07 · #16 January 20th, 2011, 11:38 AM

I agree we all do it......When I was due in March it would have been right at the time of our anniversary, when I was due in July it was because my boys were both born in July. This month I am hoping for an October due date....it would be near the due date of the babys namesakes birthday (if it were a girl) ....then I have thought ahead. 11-11-11 would be a cool due date....

SkyBaby · #17 January 20th, 2011, 12:43 PM

I did for the first several (2 month long) cycles after my loss. It was making me crazy and more disappointed than I already was when I discovered I wasn't. Needless to say, I quit doing that a long time ago. Sometimes my wishful thinking gets the better of me and I think I am and get a case of IPS. Right now, I'm just thankful my cycles are no longer 2 months long. They are now pretty much back to normal. It'll be soon, I know it will. I guess that's what I have to keep telling myself to save my sanity.