Is it pathetic...

ashj_1218 · #1 January 19th, 2011, 01:01 PM

...that I already have planned out the way I am going to tell our extended family if we get pregnant between now and March?

Every year we have a HUGE family reunion at my aunts over the 4th of July (we all get along great and spend the night for a week...we look forward to it!). Last year I was 9 weeks pregnant...had no idea about loss and was planning to tell everyone that week that I was expecting our second child. We found out we lost the little guy the day before I was supposed to leave for our trip. I was a miserable mess and everyone ended up finding out why, just because I was so out of sorts.

So...I was thinking it would be kinda cool to tell everyone over the same holiday if we get our rainbow baby. But I would only tell them if we concieve before/in March, since we will be farther along. But I was thinking it would be cute to not tell a soul we were pregnant (they know we are sorta trying/having issues, but most just think we are waiting a little longer, they don't of the later losses or the RE). And then I would send DH in with Liam when we get there. Greet everyone, with Liam wearing a shirt that says "I am the Big Brother." And then when they are all excited, have me come in with "I am the little bro/sis" (since we would hopefully know by then) and a nice round baby belly. It would certainly take them all by surprise, since my family can't keep anything under wraps.

But tell me the truth, is it totally obsessive to be thinking of how to tell people when we are not even pregnant yet???? Lol. I think I need a "group" for this.

Shadeauxe · #2 January 19th, 2011, 01:13 PM

Why would that be pathetic? People get excited about stuff and plan. It's perfectly normal.

If you were doing photoshop blends of your face and your husbands face (like in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days) to predict what your children would look like, then I might question your sanity a bit.

missy123 · #3 January 19th, 2011, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Shadeauxe

If you were doing photoshop blends of your face and your husbands face (like in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days) to predict what your children would look like, then I might question your sanity a bit.

OMG I totally did that about 6 months or so ago and was going to start a thread about it today...

I guess I win the award for being the most pathetic

Jessica121706 · #4 January 19th, 2011, 01:30 PM

I think that is sweet, it's not pathetic it is hope

gl

AZsnowflake · #5 January 19th, 2011, 01:30 PM

Nope, I had found this cute verse that I planned on using to tell everyone on Facebook before we were even TTC last time! It's super cute:

Twinkle twinkle little star, how we wonder what you are, we hoped and prayed it would happen (again!) someday, and OH, I'M PREGNANT BY THE WAY!

I was so excited when I got to use it lol

StaceygirlPa · #6 January 19th, 2011, 01:42 PM

I think it gives you hope. I like the way you will surprise everyone.

TnPhotoMama81 · #7 January 19th, 2011, 02:29 PM

I don't think it is pathetic at all

I have thought about things like that before too.

TTCin2010 · #8 January 19th, 2011, 03:07 PM

That is so sweet! I think about stuff like this!

SillyKitty · #9 January 19th, 2011, 03:33 PM

I don't think it's pathetic if it gives you something to hope for, keeps you positive.

Realistically, though, do you really think you can hold back on telling them until July 4? Even if you got pregnant at the very beginning of April, you would be about 16 weeks then. If you got pregnant this month, you would be over half way through your 2nd trimester. They might be mad to find out you only had 3 months left to go, lol.

Joanna1127 · #10 January 19th, 2011, 04:18 PM

I think thats a great way!

AZsnowflake - I also love that little verse.

.:Shortcake:. · #11 January 19th, 2011, 06:33 PM

I do not think it's pathetic at all hun. I think that we all have to hang on to hope because at times that may be all that we have. HUGS!

Micksbabe · #12 January 19th, 2011, 08:09 PM

I do it all the time lol!!!

ashj_1218 · #13 January 20th, 2011, 03:44 AM

Okay...officially I am going with no-pathetic. And yeah, I want to wait that long. Just because I have had so many things happen in the past, it just seems like a safer point to tell everyone. And I don't have regular face-to-face time with them before that (they live in New York and beyond), so I think I will be able to keep it on the down-low. Not from my mom, but hopefully everyone else!! I am gonna make it a goal

.:Shortcake:. · #14 January 20th, 2011, 04:06 AM

I am going to TRY to keep it from everyone (except immediate family) until I reach 20 weeks when I get pregnant. But I tend to not be able to keep that a secret so we shall see.