Try this again poll :)

.:Shortcake:. · #1 January 24th, 2011, 01:53 PM

Please vote!

Thanks for voting ladies

Celena · #2 January 24th, 2011, 01:59 PM

I'm not going to lie, ther have been those days over the past 19 months that sometimes seeing siggies would KILL me... NEVER the person, just the reminders and then I'd torture myself by counting the weeks/days of where I would be and you know the rest.

BUT...

Now I

love

to see them and watch the progress EVERYDAY!!!!

.:Shortcake:. · #3 January 24th, 2011, 02:04 PM

Celena I know there is a way for someone to not see siggy's so maybe if it upsets people we could tell them how to turn it off

MeganMomof5 · #4 January 24th, 2011, 02:07 PM

I'm not going to vote, this is why...Seeing the grads here doesn't bother me, same with siggys...BUT when I was just going through a loss, and I was posting here, sometimes it did bother especially after I was a member, left and had to come back...I think it's hard for someone that's still new to be posting with other pregnant woman, grads or not...Sometimes it hurts...I think over time it gets easier, but we get new members a lot that are just newly going through a loss...I know that everytime I got pregnant I felt awkward posting here for that same reason...It's too bad that the grad board isn't more active

Celena · #5 January 24th, 2011, 02:16 PM

Oh no I know that, I don't want anyone to feel like they have to turn off their siggies in my posts but I understand if other people who were sensitive spot that day reading my posts that my friends who graduated in would be posting back to me wouldn't have pg mentioned in my title but seeing siggies might bother them... (does that make sense?)

I WANT to see everyone's siggies!

missy123 · #6 January 24th, 2011, 02:36 PM

I understand what you are saying Megan... I have had to come back here 3 times and dang it hurts. And I remember how I felt when I had that first loss and that raw pain still rips through me at times, but that is what the loss board is for as well. I have had to take breaks from this board when I wasn't feeling so hot about my situation.

I don't feel that we should "chase people out of here" because they get pregnant and have babies. Isn't that the end result of what we want to happen? That one common bond... the loss of our children... should bring us all together no matter what stage we are in.

I always end up hurt more when the graduates leave than them having babies. I miss them and the daily interaction. I like having people like Kat, Lori, and Kim come in here and offer encouragement. Helps me stay focused on what the end goal is.

Sorry if I offend you or hurt you in any way. Just me and my big mouth babbling.

MeganMomof5 · #7 January 24th, 2011, 02:40 PM

I hope I didn't offend anyone....I too miss people when they leave, and I wish they wouldn't! I also remember what it's like coming here just starting my ttc journey right after my loss....I have no problems with the grads staying, and I hope my post didn't come across like that's what I ment

Shadeauxe · #8 January 24th, 2011, 03:34 PM

bump and voted

ashj_1218 · #9 January 24th, 2011, 03:43 PM

I voted. And I am with most of the "mixed feelings" of some of the other ladies. There were days when it was really hard to see the siggys or read the "preg mentioned" posts. BUT, I had a choice on which posts I clicked on and in the end, it is soooo much better to see the joy and celebration that surrounds a pregnancy. I always overrode my "sore" feeling about it not being me and managed to be elated for those ladies (they sorta became a role model of sorts, what I wanted to be if I worked "hard" to get there, not hard in the trying sense, but in the "keeping faith" sense). I get why it can be hard for some ladies and will happily respect the feelings of others. That is why we are here, to support. But I do believe the process is such that even if you are hurt one day by a siggy or post, you will feel hope from that same siggy or post another day

angel3y35 · #10 January 24th, 2011, 05:07 PM

Voted. To be honest, when I'm having a really bad day I pretty much just stay away from JM so they would never bother me. When I'm just having a bad day they give me hope

StaceygirlPa · #11 January 25th, 2011, 05:54 AM

Just Voted. Since I have only been on this board since July and more active in the last couple of months I don't know the older grads. I like seeing them coming back and giving us updates. It gives me hope. I miss the new grads because I got a chance to get to know them. Since I miss them I like to see posting of them on how they are doing. It saves me time of stalking them in their DDC board where I feel like I shouldn't be looking since I am not pregrant. With all that said it does make me sad sometimes to see the grads post here. For example right after a loss. But at the same time it gives me hope. When I am feeling down I don't read the post that I know are from one of the grades.

SillyKitty · #12 January 25th, 2011, 06:45 PM

I did not vote because none of the categories really fit me. I will admit that my heart hurts a little to see the siggies of the ladies who were due right around my edd who come back to check in (e.g., Tobi, Brittanie), but I do not want them to turn them off or not come here. I want to know that they are doing o.k. I can deal with my own emotional response of calculating how far along I would be right now. It's part of the healing process, as painful as it is.