How long...

byebaby · #1 January 29th, 2011, 11:13 AM

How long did it take for you to feel comfortable having sex after your loss? My husband and I tried but right before, I started crying and couldn't go through with it. It reminds me of the last time which is when we conceived. When does this get better?

.:Shortcake:. · #2 January 29th, 2011, 11:15 AM

For me it took around a month after my first loss. I didn't feel 100% comfortable but enough that we could DTD. HUGS! I am very sorry for your loss.

AZsnowflake · #3 January 29th, 2011, 11:33 AM

I was actually dying to do it before DH was ready, but he didn't take long to come around. I think it was before 2 weeks were up for my 1st D&C. It's normal to not feel ready I think, just talk to him about how you feel and that may help you work through it. Sorry for your loss

Servilia · #4 January 29th, 2011, 11:36 AM

It really differs.. with me, I actually couldn't wait until we can DTD again. It made me feel "normal" if that makes any sense.. I hope others in your position can offer some advice and support.

joyguide · #5 January 29th, 2011, 12:24 PM

I was ready mentally right away - physically, I had to wait the 2 weeks after the D&C due to risk of infection.

StaceygirlPa · #6 January 29th, 2011, 12:47 PM

I had to wait 2 weeks from the d&c then I ended up getting infection so we had to wait even longer. In away I was happy we had to wait. I don't think I was ready mentally to try. I think in all it was almost 3 weeks before we could again. When we were finally able to I was ready. I am sorry for you loss and I hope it gets easier for you.

missy123 · #7 January 29th, 2011, 01:53 PM

I am very sorry for your loss. There isn't a real time-frame or day to say "ok, you are ready to DTD again". Each circumstance is different and you will heal in your own time. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Are you able to snuggle with DH and have that closeness?