Emotions while TTCAL

silverlife · #1 February 3rd, 2011, 12:26 PM

My husband and I decided mid cycle (luckily before I ovulated) to TTC this month. I'm now in the TWW. I find myself thinking a lot about my past loss the last few days, replaying different things in my mind. I'm also having extreme anxiety about the thought that I could be pregnant and lose this baby, too.

Is this normal? Does this mean we started trying too soon?

Shadeauxe · #2 February 3rd, 2011, 12:46 PM

There is no "normal". Everyone handles it differently. However you handle it is "normal" for you and it's ok. The only person who can answer if it's too soon is you, but I suspect that if was really too soon, you wouldn't have even been able to entertain the thought of trying again.

A lot of people have anxiety after having a loss. I've seen it expressed here many times. People wishing they could go back to the days of innocence when all you had to worry about was furniture and baby names.

ohnicole · #3 February 3rd, 2011, 03:21 PM

I'm so sorry you're feeling anxious

Unfortunately, it can be a normal part of TTC after a miscarriage. It's really up to you whether you feel comfortable continuing to TTC or if you want to wait a couple more months. Whatever you decide, we're here for you

.:Shortcake:. · #4 February 3rd, 2011, 06:26 PM

Hugs! I think it's just going to take time for you to heal, not just physically but emotionally as well. I know I will never feel comfortable or at ease with a pregnancy because I know what the outcome can be. All you can do is try your best to stay positive and remember we all understand your fears.

missy123 · #5 February 4th, 2011, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Shadeauxe

There is no "normal". Everyone handles it differently. However you handle it is "normal" for you and it's ok. The only person who can answer if it's too soon is you, but I suspect that if was really too soon, you wouldn't have even been able to entertain the thought of trying again.

A lot of people have anxiety after having a loss. I've seen it expressed here many times. People wishing they could go back to the days of innocence when all you had to worry about was furniture and baby names.

Well said Courtney.

((Hugs)) silverlife - what you are going through others have experienced after a loss. We are here for you.

Erin84 · #6 February 4th, 2011, 09:29 AM

It's perfectly fine to feel that way. Some women decide to keep TTC anyway, and others decide to wait. Whichever works best for you is fine

I didn't have a miscarriage, I worry about that a little, but my biggest fear is labor and delivery, since that's where everything went wrong for my angel, Drew. But I feel ready to try again anyway, so DH and I are healing through continuing to try.