[ohnicole]

So the title pretty much says it all SIL went to the hospital this morning to give birth to our nephew! Funny enough, today is her due date! I haven't heard of that happening very often.

I am happy and excited for them, but of course, out comes the stupid old jealousy. I hate how I have to always obsess over numbers and dates. I don't want to think about how we should have had our baby 2 months before they even got pregnant. Or how we started TTC about a year before they did. Or how 7 months ago, when we found out they were pregnant, I though I was stupid for being afraid that we wouldn't get our BFP before their little one arrived. Now they're waiting for their little boy to arrive, and I'm waiting for another dumb period and another dumb month of TTC.

I really wish that losses and infertility didn't make us feel like everything is about us. Today is an awesome day for them. And I feel so mean for feeling bad for myself. I know it's normal, but that doesn't take away the guilt.

[Shadeauxe]

Since I don't really have and wise advice about this topic, I thought I would give you some wise generic advice:

Don't eat poisoned food, it's bad for you.

[ohnicole]

LOL, Courtney, that is especially important for me because I eat a lot of food.

[MeganMomof5]

Nicole, i'm sorry...I had to deal with something like that...My neice was pregnant the same time I lost Ella, she was due just 2 months before me...Even though I was happy for her, I was so jealous that she had her baby and I didn't...It really was hard...It took a long time before I could even see her baby...Congrats on becoming an aunt though!

[StaceygirlPa]

Nicole, I am so sorry. Sending you hugs.

[cheryl22]

im so sorry.. My sil is due 2 days after i would have been due. And im so happy for them but at the same time it so hard for me and df..

[Cait&AngelAbove]

I am sorry! DO not worry about feeling jealous. That is a completely normal emotion to feel. My SIL announced she was pregnant right before I tested and got my bfp (loss). They were not trying and had just gotten married. I was devastated. I thought I was pg before I had not tested yet. A day later I got my bfp then miscarried two weeks later. She is still pregnant and is not nice about. She now will not talk to me because she is mad that I got upset by her comments. I just cannot find it in my heart to be happy for her. So I know where you are coming from. And I just wanted to tell you that it is okay for you to feel like that. Our losses are not fair at all.

[.:Shortcake:.]

Nicole I had something similar happen with my sister. I wish I could tell you it gets better... but for me it hasn't. I can honestly say that when someone has struggled with infertility, has had a loss(es), I am really happy for them, but when someone has an uh-oh or doesn't want to have a baby and they get pregnant I get very VERY angry.... I know I shouldn't feel this way but honestly at this point it's how I feel.

[ohnicole]

Thanks, everyone

It's weird to be so happy for them and so sad for myself at the same time. But that's life for us I guess. I really am excited to meet our nephew- I wish he had decided to come over this past weekend because then we could have gone to meet him sooner (we live out of state). He'll be a lucky little boy to have a family that loves him so much!

[*SamF*]

Complete ditto to Katie.

[okiliz]

I'm so sorry.. happy for any healthy baby but sorry that you are having to feel the way you do right now .

[ohnicole]

Yay!! Our new nephew arrived around 4:30 this afternoon. Everyone's doing well. And in true DH form, my DH talked to his brother right after the baby was born but did not ask what they named him!!!!! LOL

[tobi4]

Originally Posted by Shadeauxe

Since I don't really have and wise advice about this topic, I thought I would give you some wise generic advice:

Don't eat poisoned food, it's bad for you.

I have to say, I really like your humour



Nicole, You make me proud to know you girl! hugs!

[Shadeauxe]

Glad everyone is doing well!