[newmommysarah]

My SO and i have been TTC since October and i'm just feeling really really disappointed thats its not working for us. I'm 25, i fell pregnant at 15 as a result of rape - lost the baby at 26 weeks after being attacked again. I just don't understand how i could get pregnant then when i really didn't want to be and now that i'm ready and trying so hard is it not happening. The sane person in me knows that trying for 5 months is not unusual but i cant help but wondering if there is something wrong with me or my SO? I was anorexic for about 7 years and i know my SO smoked a lot of pot when he was a teenager - could that be whats wrong? Is it both of us?
I know that no one can answer these questions but a doctor but we have to wait another month before one will even see us. It's just so frustrating.
rant over

[jessjillmama]

I know how you feel it can be so hard when TTC and you don't get pg right away. Hang in there and lots of to you!

[Cait&AngelAbove]

TTC can be tough and it is hard when you do not get pregnant right away. I hope it happens for you real soon!

[Joanna1127]

I just wanted to say that I completely understand what you are going through. I got pregnant right away with my daughter about 5 years ago and again right away with my loss in September. It is so frustrating going month after month with nothing. Like you said, I also thought something was wrong. Hang in there and I hope you see your BFP soon. hugs!

[.:Shortcake:.]

I am very sorry for your loss. We can relate to trying for awhile. I hope that your doctors can give you some answers but usually they will not test you until you have been trying actively for 1 year.

[sadie97007]

Hang in there. It's tough, but it's worth trying for. It took me 9 months to conceive with my 1st, instantly with my 2nd, and I have been trying for 11 months now for this 3rd, with a loss in November. It's becomes really emotional when your trying to get pregnant, and it doesn't happen right away.

[Banned-elly03]

im sorry its feeling impossible right now. i was a 'one hit wonder' and a resulting teen mom. and my second pregnancy was basically a replay. and now i cant stay pregnant for the life of me.
hang in there, i hope you get your baby soon!

[Celena]

Sorry to hear your feeling this way.... It is frustrating and does put doubt in your head, but did you know it is normal when you are ttc to take up to a year or longer? So you're in the normal range, you could try different approaches every other day BD'ing CD's 9 - 18 or just every other day all month long LOL or many variations.

Do you use opk's? temp/chart? clearblue easy fertility monitor? pre-seed? anything to help track and give you an idea of your body's rhythms?

I'll be honest, my DH and I have been trying for about 3 years now... we've been thru 4 losses and a couple chemicals. It's been a turmultious road, but hope is what has kept us going. Right now we're just taking it as it goes... just having sex whenever not stressing it the most during O time or forcing it because that kills the mood. KWIM? We've stressed, not stressed, nothing about it is in our control as far as us "making" it happen. It's going to happen when it's going to happen... you can just try to time sex better, back it up a couple days after your LH surge, etc...