How do your DH's feel about TTC?

jessjillmama · #1 February 22nd, 2011, 11:13 AM

How do your dh/SO's feel about TTC? Do they love the idea of planning the baby or want to just do it as my husband says? LOL!

I read some of the post and realize some of you have such supportive dh!! Mine wants another baby but he hates planning everything. He would love for me to just do it lol and not temp, opk's or try to plan the BFP lol. I am so not that way. So I feel like I can't really talk to him about all the TTC stuff much cause he rolls his eyes at me. Just wondering if I am the only one lol.

Shadeauxe · #2 February 22nd, 2011, 11:33 AM

My husband today was saying something about me having weird cycles and I was saying something about we still have a possibility of a November baby and his reply was "WE WOULD HAVE TO HAVE SEX EVERYDAY TO BE SURE

".

He's definitely into it.

.:Shortcake:. · #3 February 22nd, 2011, 11:35 AM

When DH and I first started trying we didn't do anything besides BD as much as possible. Then after our first loss we started actively trying we started doing more.. at first he didn't want to talk about it and then he really got into it. Now.... I kind of feel like TTC has caused a gap in our relationship.

*SamF* · #4 February 22nd, 2011, 11:35 AM

He's into it now. When we first started TTC before the losses, he was more on the side of just let it happen, but after everything and with the clock ticking like crazy he's really into trying to hit the right times.

jessjillmama · #5 February 22nd, 2011, 11:44 AM

Well I wish my dh would feel that way. When we got pg with my son he was an unplanned pregnancy. With the second baby we got pg the first try and lost that baby. Then dh didn't want to try again. It took me a while to get him back on board. They we got pg with Ava after 6 months of TTC but he never liked it. He feels like I am using him. I think he is crazy and should just enjoy the time. I guess TTC has always been very stressful for us. Also our son that died his condition is genetic so we have a 1 and 4 chance of having another baby with issues. A lot to handle and think about. Now I have my tubes untied and I am 30 (I know not really that old but...) so I feel like my clock is ticking with all our issues and the fact I had a reversal. My dh is all lets not be in a hurry lol.

MEN!

Shadeauxe · #6 February 22nd, 2011, 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by jessjillmama

Now I have my tubes untied and I am 30 (I know not really that old but...) so I feel like my clock is ticking with all our issues and the fact I had a reversal. My dh is all lets not be in a hurry lol.

I am 38, so if your clock is ticking, mine is probably dead. I had my son at 32, so don't stress about time so much. Que sera sera.

*SamF* · #7 February 22nd, 2011, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Shadeauxe

I am 38, so if your clock is ticking, mine is probably dead. I had my son at 32, so don't stress about time so much. Que sera sera.

Did you see the clock I posted in TTCOM? I;m really thinking of ordering one just to beat the crap out of it.

Shadeauxe · #8 February 22nd, 2011, 12:28 PM

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Originally Posted by *SamF*

Did you see the clock I posted in TTCOM? I;m really thinking of ordering one just to beat the crap out of it.

That could be therapeutic. Just like in Office Space when the beat the crap out of the printer.

Banned-elly03 · #9 February 22nd, 2011, 02:05 PM

my husband is the one who originally convinced me i wanted more kids (i have a 17yo), so he was all for it when we got pregnant with the twins. then we had a m/c (didnt know i was pregnant until i miscarried, was on bc and bf'ing) at 10wks when the twins were 7mo. that put a huge damper on things for a bit and when we finally started getting intimate again i was already in the mindframe of 'why dont we see what happens?'. he was still scared out of his mind about the possibility of more twins, m/c's, etc, but was willing to very hesitantly go along with it. then we had the c/p, he was discouraged for a week, but has since picked up his game. im not sure how this one will effect him.
my husband is one of those cute guys who talks to baby bumps and loves kids, so he is all for the easy-bake oven version, but hes not a fan of seeing me going through all of this.

im only 30, but my biological clock has a bomb attached to it because i am a leukemia survivor and if it comes back (unfortunately second time survival rate is way lower) then i have to wait a year (at least) after FINISHING all/any chemical treatments before i can TTC. last time it took 13 months to kick it into remission, so i could be 2+ years out of the game with no guarantee of fertility after chemo/radiation.

Celena · #10 February 22nd, 2011, 02:18 PM

He's been all over the place with it, he just never wants to see me hurting again from another loss of course... right now since our recent loss he's a "let's just let it happen"

I'm so done with it tho, unfortunately when he wanted to start to ttc I had my iud in and had said if it didn't happen by the time I was 35 it probably wouldn't. Well I just turned 34 and regret saying those exact words. It's going to happen when it happens, just never thought it would be a month away from 3 years and still ttc our first together.

ohnicole · #11 February 22nd, 2011, 04:45 PM

At this point, my DH is all for everything TTC related. We have been TTC for a long time, and he wasn't always like that- he didn't mind me getting really involved in TTC-Mania

but he just didn't get into it. But now he will ask about when I'm ovulating, when I'm testing, what meds/pills I'm taking, and he has even started asking if he should take supplements or do anything to help with TTC.

Mommy2AandM · #12 February 22nd, 2011, 05:15 PM

We are really more like NTNP. So I don't temp or anything, we just BD and I loosely keep track of my cycles. He's for it. He wants the kids to be close enough in age that they can play together. We are closing that window soon, I think. Audrey will be three in a week.